Friday, April 15, 2016

How Should Godly Women Dress?


It's NO secret how godly women should dress. Here are God instructions specifically to women ~

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But {which becometh women professing godliness} with good works {1 Timothy 2:9, 10}.

That's fairly simple to understand! We are not to dress to draw attention to ourselves. We should not spend a lot of money on ourselves and clothing. We should clothe ourselves with good works. Therefore, next time we want to buy more clothing, we must make sure they fit this admonition to us.

Most women in America dress to draw attention to themselves. They wear tight fitting clothing. They wear low cut tops and short skirts and shorts. They also spend a lot of money on their clothes. {Just check out most women's closets!} Unfortunately, we have listened to what our culture tells us instead of God's Word. We care more about impressing others than impressing our Lord.

John Piper wrote this about how a woman should dress, "Clothes are not meant to make people think about what is under the clothes. Clothes are meant to direct attention to what is NOT under them: merciful hands that serve others in the name of Christ, beautiful feet that carry the gospel where it is needed, and the brightness of a face that has beheld the glory of Jesus."

Our clothing should not be to cause men to lust or women to envy. Our clothing should simply be to clothe us and provide covering. After people have been with us, they should remember us for how kind and loving we were to them, NOT how well we were dressed. I'm not saying you should look dirty, disheveled, or like you just climbed out of bed. No, we should keep ourselves clean, tidy and nice-looking since God is a God of order and beauty but we need to make sure others are not distracted from who we are because of what we wear. Care more about serving and loving others, sharing the good news of the Gospel and the joy of the Lord to a lost and dying culture than how you dress.



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You nailed it!
Excellent post. Thank you:)
Great post! It's always a good reminder when we are constantly bombarded with immodesty in our culture. A lovely photo, as well! I know that you have mentioned before that modesty is important to you and your daughters. Would you mind sharing what you all wear to go swimming? It can be hard to find modest swimwear that is still pretty and feminine, and I struggle to find the right balance. Would love to hear your thoughts!
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Thank you! The picture is of my daughter and her husband. It was taken for their engagement pictures. I wear board shorts and a tankini top. I love wearing this since I feel covered!
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Daniele from Quebec · 467 weeks ago

I do the exact same thing Lori, and yes I feel covered, comfy, and feminine as well, and my husband says I'm cute and he is happy I don't share my secrets with the other men!
I've been waiting for you to teach on dress. Great article! The problem that I am struggling with is...I come from a denomination that is dresses only on women. I have wore them for over 20 years. I have done much study on this, and coming to the realization that God teaches just modesty. If we were going just biblical we'd all be wearing robes. I know that dress standards are very much a man made standard. It's just hard when you've followed this teaching for so many years. Can you elaborate more on modesty, and address these type of things? Just want to be right🙂
2 replies · active 467 weeks ago
I have struggled with walking this line as well Julie. What I have found helpful is that there is a difference between a principle and an application. A principle is a timeless truth from Scripture, for example women are to dress modestly. An application is a specific way to apply that principle that can be different in different circumstances, for example, to be modest in 2016 America a women must only wear skirts.

There can be a wide variety of applications of the same principle. For the most part in Scripture God only gives us general timeless principles (just think if he tried to give us every specific application like specific garment measurements, hem lengths, and patterns for every culture and climate!). What we consider a very modest outfit today, for example a calf length skirt and a short sleeve blouse, would have be positively scandalous in Victorian England when it was considered immodest to even show one's ankles.

I happen to wear skirts a lot because I do agree that they are GENERALLY feminine and modest, which are the timeless principles the Bible gives us to follow, but I do not think they are the ONLY way to be feminine and modest. There are plenty of modest pants and plenty of immodest skirts in the world.
Here is a post I did on wearing only dresses and skirts, Julie ~ http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/06/is-wear...

Here are all my posts on modesty ~ http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/search/label/Mo...

If there's something I haven't written on that you have questions about, let me know!
You say some really good things here. I especially love Piper's quote. I do think we have to be cautious to assume that modesty looks the same for everyone. Mennonite women think they dress modestly and that others dress immodestly, where some might call their views extreme and unnecessary. Some feel that a top must rise all the way to the neck, while others feel like a few inches below the collarbone is well within reasonable modesty, because no cleavage shows. Also, what some consider costly is not to others. I like to spend $5-15 on a top, no more. Others find it very reasonable and conservative to spend up to $50 on a top. All that to say, I think we have to be careful not draw the same lines for everyone else that we draw for ourselves. It is important that we are covered, that we use our money wisely, and that our character outshines our dress. Thank you for pointing these things out!
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Agreed, this is why I didn't draw any lines but try to give biblical principles hoping that women who are showing way too much and spending too much will reconsider and decide to show a lot less and spend a lot less. It's good to ask their husband to find out what is modest and what is not.
I'm a Mennonite woman and I can assure you that most of us are not nearly as judgemental as a lot of people think we are.😀 I most certainly think you can wear pants and still be modest!
The four B's should always be covered - boobs, back, butt and belly.
1 reply · active 467 weeks ago
Those definitely should be covered, Maria! :)
When I am getting dressed in the morning or buying a new outfit, should I not be thinking of looking pretty? I know that is often on my mind when picking outfits as I do want to look attractive. Is this verse saying to eschew those thoughts?
4 replies · active 467 weeks ago
God cares more about what is on the inside and adorning ourselves with a meek and quiet spirit along with good works. I am sure He doesn't mind us being "pretty" but I am sure He is against spending a ton of money on ourselves when we have an abundance of clothes.
Thanks Lori. I don't spend much on clothes or buy very many of them at all (I rarely clothes shop) but I know I do think about wanting to look pretty when I do buy something or every morning when I figure out what to wear.
Do we all have an abundance of clothes?
Probably not but I bet most of us do since we live in a materialistic and discontent culture.
Hey Lori ,what is that you feel with women wearing shorts?
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LadyinPurpleScarf · 345 weeks ago

I love this article. Id like to quote this and send as a message to my 14 year old step daughter. I wear skirts but when I do, I wear stockings. I wear sleeveless but I make sure I cover it with cardigan or jacket even on summer.This 27yr old woman mostly wears jeans and elegant maxi dresses. That's how I feel covered. I have traveled in most of the country but I see teenager who wears super duper micro mini skirt or shorts that shows up their butt cheek. I don't feel hanging out with my step daughter because the way she wears. I'm bringing her to the church and teach God's words. Thank you so much for sharing this article.

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