Saturday, December 10, 2011

Selfish Or Servant?


Which word describes you???  You are one or the other.

For the first 23 years of my marriage, selfish described me.  I only thought about me and how Ken wasn't making ME happy.  I went about trying to manipulate and change him through arguing, pouting, and crying.  I was even selfish with others.  I didn't enjoy giving.  I would definitely describe myself as a taker.

The day our marriage changed dramatically was the day I went up to Ken's office and asked him what I could do to please him.  Sure, he'd spent many hours trying to help me to think clearly and it definitely helped some, but I wasn't a very good listener.  The Lord had to hit me over the head with a bat.  He did that with Created To Be His Help Meet.

We are commanded in Scripture to be servants ~

Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant
Matthew 20:26

The greatest among you will be your servant
Matthew 23:11

Jesus came down to earth not to be served, but to serve.  He gave His life away that many will live.  He is our example to follow.

The more you learn to be a servant and a giver, the happier you will become.  Your marriage will be better.  Your children will enjoy you more.  Your friends will like you more.  The Bible is true when it says that we will reap what we sow.

So I encourage you to ask your husband how you can serve him better.  Look for ways to serve him more.  Stop being selfish and start calling yourself a servant!  Start washing other people's feet with your life.

Thankful for ~

Family traditions
Warm days and cold nights
Full moons
Heaven, Hope, and Eternal Life
Spirit-filled church
Heaters to keep us warm
Down comforters

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awwww... i can relate! me and my husband is not quite good right now.. the two of us, well both of us is selfish in some ways and full of pride.

thanks for sharing this, an eye-opener it is!
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Great post, thanks for sharing.
Love this post!
thanks for sharing Lori, this is a great reminder!
Thank you so much for this reminder! I want to be a humble servant, not a selfish brat!
"Start washing other people's feet with your life." Love it!
Like Stacy, I love that line, too! "Start washing other..." and I love your list of things you are thankful for!!!
What a great (and courageous) question to ask our husbands.

Fondly,
Glenda
I agree with Glenda above... Also like the line "The more you learn to be a servant and a giver, the happier you will become."
The best thing to do when you are feeling discouraged or self-centered is to reach out to others. Nothing can be more fulfilling especially when you know that what you are doing is glorifying God.
Great question....challenging post!
You learned an important lesson. It is so easy to be selfish but not so easy to be a servant. Thank you for this encouraging post.
Blessings,
Charlotte
More often than not we tend to shout ME ME ME. Your post is very timely when we should be thinking of others and how we can serve them.
Yes Jesus gave us his example, its a joy to follow. God Bless you and your hubby.
Oh to be like Jesus. I find myself whispering, "It's not all about me." I have to be careful because my husband is a giver. So I have to remind myself to give to him, too. Great reminder for us all to be a HELPmeet.
I also learned a lot from Created to Be His Helpmeet...it changed my marriage, but also gave me new perspective relative to the notion that God is my husband!
Beautifully written. We are here to emulate our dear LORD and He demonstrated the greatest love to us by showing us how to serve one another. The thing that changed me was the moment I decided that there was nothing that would hinder me from serving my LORD. Serving my husband and family became a natural part of that! Thank you for sharing with A Return to Loveliness,
God Bless,
Kathy
I can relate too. The moment, life is about Jesus, that's the moment, we can be helpmates, not doormats or passive agressive. :) Thanks for sharing this.

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