Monday, December 19, 2011

Was It Worth The Wait?


To all of you out there that waited patiently for God to bring the right spouse into your life, was it worth the wait?  All those years of remaining chaste, not dating around, waiting on God's perfect timing...was it worth it?

A neighbor of mine waited until she was in her early 30's to get married.  Her husband was 40 and waited upon God's timing.  They are madly in love.  She just had her third baby.  They are both so happy they waited for God's best.

Many people want to learn from their mistakes.  They think that is a healthy thing.  To me that means they want to sin.  They don't want to walk in obedience to God.  They want to try things the world's ways.  They settle for much less than what God has in store for them if they would just seek Him.

Wise people want to learn from other people's mistakes.  They agree that God knows what He is talking about and that His ways are best.  They know that God is a promise keeper and He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.  They don't need to try things the way the world says to because they know the world's ways are wrong and can lead to a path of destruction.

Raise wise children.  Read them Proverbs a lot.  Teach them God's ways and how good they are when followed.  Teach them not to settle and do things the world's ways but to wait patiently and trust God.

Did you wait for God's best or did you compromise with the world and settle for something way less than what God wanted for you?

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. 
Proverbs 3:5,6

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We are still far from perfect, but God gave us to each other! Neither of us have any doubts about that fact!
So thankful I waited for Gods best!!
Wow that last line is a little harsh. Do you think ALL of your readers have ALWAYS been Christians?????? Some of us didn't grow up in a Christian home.

I didn't settle, and no one I know settled either. And they didn't do they courtship thing either. Everyone I know dates!
I didn't mean for it to sound harsh. I realize many of my readers didn't grow up in Christian homes and probably dated a lot and even slept around. {I dated a lot but looking back, I see it didn't produce anything good.} Dating around usually causes pain with broken hearts, expectations of future spouse, sexual disease, etc. We reap what we sow. But God can bring good out of our bad decisions and actions. We still will suffer the consequences of our actions, though. I have just learned from experience and watching others, that waiting on God's timing and doing it God's ways is so much better. I do know people who have settled because they wanted to get married so badly or didn't seek God's will in who they married. They can make it work but it isn't easy. I didn't do marriage God's way for 23 years and it wasn't pretty...
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Christina · 692 weeks ago

My husband and I both remained chaste and it was SO worth it! We also waited for the right person! I only courted one other person before my husband and he was a Godly man that helped me grow in my faith. We weren't right for each other, and I have no regrets about not dating around! Why go through the temptation and the emotional roller coaster?!
My husband and I were both previously married, lived together before we were married, and were saved 9 years later on the brink of divorce. HOWEVER, as we have have shared our past with our children, they have each decided that they will WAIT for the ONE God has for them! Family members are concerned that our 23 yr old daughter has not had one date. Has not held hands with a boy. Has not been kissed. "That's not normal" they say. We've tried to explain, but they just don't get it. Praise God they can learn from our mistakes...and heartbreaks.
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That is awesome Cheryl! I will keep your daughter in prayers. God has an amazing young man in store for her! :)
Thanks for sharing this. I'm trying to wait and do things God's way, and praying for his help and blessing. It's only by His grace that we can do things right and I realize more every day how dependent I am on Him.
Stefanie
I waited for God's best and am so glad I did. I was 45 went I met my husband and I was 48 years old when we married. I do not regret the waiting. It was not easy. Painful at times. But our marriage is wonderful. We are truly blessed. Give God the chance wait on Him you will not be sorry.
I read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" when I was in high school and determined to keep my heart pure for the one the Lord had chosen for me, so I never dated. There were times I felt like the odd one out because it seemed that I was the only girl without a boyfriend, but I kept focused on the Lord and preparing my heart to become a wife someday and when I was 20, the Lord sent me my husband.

Within three months of meeting him, he asked my father's permission to court me and we got engaged and married within a year of our courtship. Nearly 10 years later, both of us are still madly in love and I don't regret waiting at all. My husband often tells me how honored he is that I saved myself for him and that makes me very precious in his eyes.
When people ask me if they should wait to have sex on their wedding night I always respond with, "I have never met anyone who regretted waiting but I know tons of people who deeply regret not waiting!"
Thanks so much for this post. As a "lady-in-waiting", it is definitely always a good idea to keep these ideas in the forefront of my mind. Thanks!

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