When I wrote that most men don't realize what is happening when their wives are giving the passion they once had for them to their children, one man didn't agree. He commented, "Guys do notice but they justify it away because they don't want to be perceived as selfish." Then he linked a post he had written about it.
He wrote that many men just put up with it because their wives are such good moms. This is so sad to me!!! I was that wife. I was a great mom, but a lousy wife. Here are some more words he wrote about the thoughts of husbands losing the affections of their wives ~
I have been having a lot of conversations with guys lately and these talks often turn to marriage. There seems to be a common theme to the marital relationships of many of the guys I talk to. They are just gutting it out. Doing what is right, yet not connecting with their wives. Afraid to voice their dissatisfaction. All the while, spinning their wheels trying to please their princess.
Despite trying to maintain the appearances of having it all together and weathering the storm, these men are stewing internally. It is hard for them to understand how they can be seemingly discarded and disrespected. When asked what prohibits them from taking a stand and setting a bottom line of what is acceptable behavior between spouses, the response is fear. { Read the whole article HERE.}
Then he writes about the example mothers are setting for their sons and daughters by treating their fathers this way. Remember, the best gift you can give your children is to deeply love and respect their father. If you want to really be a great mother, love your children's father. This is the true definition of being an amazing mother.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 18:22
