Carrie Underwood sings a song called "Little Toy Guns."
Here are some of the lyrics showing a young girl hiding in the closet ~
In between the coats in the closet
She held on to that heart shaped locket
Staring at a family flawless
But it ain't a pretty picture tonight
Mom and daddy just wouldn't stop it
Fighting at the drop of a faucet
Cuts through the walls catastrophic
She's caught in the crossfire
Puts her hands over her ears
Starts talking through her tears
She's saying, she's praying.
This little girl wishes words were like little toy guns; no sting, no hurt, no smoke, no bullets, no pain, no damage done. At the end of the video, the little girl draws her parent's hands together in peace and unity. Jesus says in Mark 9:50, "Have salt within yourselves, and be at peace and live in harmony with one another."
No mother and father, you are not suppose to learn how to fight fair or how to resolve conflict. You are commanded to not argue or fight at all but to be at peace and live in harmony with one another. This is what your children want more than anything. A home filled with peace and harmony raises children who are secure and joyful.
There can be little peace and harmony in a home, however, if there isn't one leader and one help meet as the Lord has commands. God designed marriage this way so there would be peace in marriage. Yes, share your thoughts and concerns with your husband and then leave them there. Allow him to make the decision and lead your family as he feels is best.
Don't bring your children up in a home filled with strife and conflict. Children hate it. I know. I was raised in a home like this and hated when my parents fought. It makes children insecure and afraid their parents will divorce leaving them to be raised by a single parent. The best gift you can give your children is to love their daddy deeply and create a home of peace and harmony.