Sunday, July 26, 2015

Just Love Each Other Mommy and Daddy!


Carrie Underwood sings a song called "Little Toy Guns." 
Here are some of the lyrics showing a young girl hiding in the closet ~

In between the coats in the closet
She held on to that heart shaped locket
Staring at a family flawless
But it ain't a pretty picture tonight
Mom and daddy just wouldn't stop it
Fighting at the drop of a faucet
Cuts through the walls catastrophic
She's caught in the crossfire
Puts her hands over her ears
Starts talking through her tears
She's saying, she's praying.

This little girl wishes words were like little toy guns; no sting, no hurt, no smoke, no bullets, no pain, no damage done. At the end of the video, the little girl draws her parent's hands together in peace and unity. Jesus says in Mark 9:50, "Have salt within yourselves, and be at peace and live in harmony with one another."

No mother and father, you are not suppose to learn how to fight fair or how to resolve conflict. You are commanded to not argue or fight at all but to be at peace and live in harmony with one another. This is what your children want more than anything. A home filled with peace and harmony raises children who are secure and joyful.

There can be little peace and harmony in a home, however, if there isn't one leader and one help meet as the Lord has commands. God designed marriage this way so there would be peace in marriage. Yes, share your thoughts and concerns with your husband and then leave them there. Allow him to make the decision and lead your family as he feels is best. 

Don't bring your children up in a home filled with strife and conflict. Children hate it. I know. I was raised in a home like this and hated when my parents fought. It makes children insecure and afraid their parents will divorce leaving them to be raised by a single parent. The best gift you can give your children is to love their daddy deeply and create a home of peace and harmony.

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lauraashley · 505 weeks ago

Was this a coincidence or did you know today is Parent's Day in the US?
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Lori Alexander 122p · 505 weeks ago

It was a coincidence, lauraashley, since I didn't know!
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Anon · 505 weeks ago

I am certain that God has put these last few posts of yours in my path. Being married to a man who I am almost certain is not a believer has caused a lot of strife in our marriage. He makes a lot of choices that are not the way I want to raise our children. Sometimes it seems like all we do is argue. It is especially hard for me to refrain from arguing when it comes to our children. I know that there is nothing I can say that is going to turn his heart towards God, I have to do what I am called to do and pray for him and trust that God will work in his heart. Please Pray for me!
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Lori Alexander 122p · 505 weeks ago

Arguing accomplishes NOTHING beneficial. It tears apart a relationship and causes distance between the spouses. We must trust the Lord to convict and change our husbands by continually handing it over to Him. We CAN trust Christ for He alone is supreme!
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mbb · 505 weeks ago

I will pray for you also. My husband was a non-believer, until I found Lori's blog and began submitting. We argued all the time before, and now we have a very flourishing marriage. You are right, all you can do is do what God commanded you to do. And pray for your husband. But, all the while, be ready to replenish your spirit while all this is happening, and adjust accordingly. Be blessed!
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Lady Virtue · 505 weeks ago

I appreciate the way you've shared the testimony of how the Lord has worked in your parents' marriage...that they argued frequently while you were growing up, but God gave them the strength to stick it out and that they have a good marriage now. God sanctifies us and matures us in His timing. Sadly, so many couples don't wait on Him and yield to Him; they divorce instead, because they perceive it's a quick fix. But it's not and has consequences for generations to come.
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Deb · 505 weeks ago

What a great post! I try to make our home a safe haven from the outside world. Our home is a place where we can be able to let loose from the stresses we have from work. I would hate it if I came home from working all day, just to walk in to a place where I would need to keep my guard up and not be able to relax. And I know that my husband feels the same way. Yes, we have disagreements, but that doesn't mean to turn them into conflicts.
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Tiffany · 505 weeks ago

This is so true. I was raised by wonderful people, but my parents "bicker". They don't actually fight and are committed to each other, but they bicker over little things constantly. I hated it growing up and I still hate it now. My dad is a Viet Nam (Marine) vetran and was also in a coma for two months with a severe brain injury, so his patience is thin and he gets snappy. In turn my mom feels like she has to get him back to being calm. It's frustrating!
Every time I'm around it I'm even more motivated to NEVER be like that with my husband. His parents, on the other hand, are so gentle and kind in the way they speak to one another. It is inspiring. I never want my kids to feel upset with the feeling my husband and I put out to our family!
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Anonymous · 504 weeks ago

The best thing to do is bite your tongue completely, keep your mouth shut and get a good friend for those times when you are about to go crazy....you need a friend. When your husband starts to get mad, just keep quiet and let it blow over. Keep polite. If you make it a cardinal rule to be polite, everything will be OK, even though it probably won't ever be like you hoped or imagined it to be, it'll be peaceful at least.

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