Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Life Without Cell Phones


We didn't have cell phones in college. My children couldn't figure out how we managed without them. When we needed to talk to someone, we'd walk over to their dorm room, knock on the door and actually talk face-to-face with them. No one sat in their rooms for hours a day playing on their iPhones or computers. When we were bored, we'd all hang out in a room together and talk for hours or we'd go on long hikes or walks together. Sometimes, we'd go to the beach for picnics and playing catch.

While we were walking around the campus, everyone's head was up since they weren't looking down at an iPhone. We would smile and say "Hello" as we passed each other. Sometimes, we'd even stop to talk to each other. Since we didn't have iPhones to text each other each time we were hungry and were on our way to the Dining Commons, we'd have to find someone new to sit with if none of our friends were there. We'd hang out a long time there if we could and simply talk about different issues.

People couldn't reach each other at all times of the day whenever they wanted. It was easier to have quiet times and just get away without interruptions. We did have one land line telephone for an entire floor so our parents would call us on that phone once in awhile but not too often.

We didn't have any cyber friends. All of our friends were people we knew in the flesh. Don't get me wrong, I love my cyber friends. I love that I can teach so many women through the Internet but I think today's young are missing out on the simplicity of not being tied to an iPhone.

None of my children had iPhones until they were out of high school and I don't think Alyssa got one until she was in her early 20s. I still don't think I would give my children one in high school, except for maybe just a simple one to use to make phone calls but not access the web. There's just way too much filth on it and it is too tempting to allow it to consume your life. I still would want them to be able to make eye contact with those in the hallways and spend their free time actually talking to people in person.

Instead of spending so much time on the computer, iPhone, watching television, etc. spend your time making an eternal investment into your children. Teach them God's Word consistently. You don't want to stand before God and confess to Him that you failed to teach your children His Holy Word because you were too busy on the Internet. 

And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, 
which are able to make thee wise unto salvation 
through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
2 Timothy 3:15

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Cell phones are so overused today. I took my daughter to her dental checkup, and while waiting for her in the waiting room, I noticed that every single parent and adult in the waiting room were on their phones. I was a little disappointed as I like to talk and chat with others while we're out. I can understand people needing to catch up on things, including work, but what really upsets me is seeing people texting and driving and then literally running red lights. Also, my husband and I don't go on dates often, but when we do we are amazed at the couples all dressed up sittting in nice restaurans with a beautiful meal in front of them, then not even talking with each other as they're on their phones the ENTIRE time. I think it's sad.

When I was a junior and senior in high school, my father would occasionally loan me his cell phone, but only in the winter when the weather was forecasted to maybe worsen or the roads were a little icy, just to be sure I could call if I needed to. (We lived in a rural area with a fairly long commute to school).Those were the only times in school I had one, and of course my classmates thought that was the greatest thing, LOL. Now, I have been on an inexpensive family plan with my husband, his two brothers and their father for several years. We have some texting, but no Internet. And I'm okay with that!

I have a great-aunt who is a retired teacher. She often says how disappointed she is the schools aren't teaching cursive anymore and that the simple art of visiting with one another, along with hand-writing letters, is dying. People just aren't as good at verbally communicating like they used to be. I'm beginning to see what she's talking about now.
One hard rule in my house,, when you come in to visit,, the cell phone gets shut off and set on the kitchen table
I would often dream about how wonderful life would be if I didn't feel the need to be tied to my cell phone, but then I had a revelation one day as I sat in a waiting room reading messages on my phone as most of the other people there stared at theirs, too. I heard a slight cough and looked up to see a lonely looking elderly lady looking back at me. She wasn't seated there when I came in. I had no idea how long she had even been there, yet I hadn't even noticed her or even given her the courtesy of a smile. I felt convicted enough to lay my phone aside and start a conversation with her. After about ten minutes, my phone rang. I checked it and sent the call to voice mail. As I turned my attention back to the lady who I found out during the course of our conversation was named Irene, was ninety-two in March, was widowed twenty years ago, lived with her grandchildren, had a black cat named "Mittens" even though he had none, loved chocolate about as much as I do, had a very sweet smile and a quiet laugh, and most importantly of all she had a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, she asked me kindly, "Do you own that, or does it own you?"..... Do I own it or does it own me??? I realized my life was being ruled more or less by a piece of technology. Sure! I used it to keep informed and in touch, but I was allowing it first place in line for my attention. I've thought about Irene and her question quite a bit since then and have made several changes in my phone habits. It's been a hard process, but I'm working on putting it back in its place. I NOW OWN IT. smile emoticon PTL!
Sometimes I long for the days when we didn't have so much technology. Even though I read this blog and am posting a comment, I see the danger of the youth (and not just youth) of having access to so much information. All of my grandchildren either have phone, tablets, or some sort of gadget. If you have time, do a search on Green Bank, West Virginia. Within a ten mile radius of this town there are no cell phones, televisions, computers or radio. They do have one low frequency radio station. When you arrive in the designated area your car radio and cell phone go dead. Land line phones are available to the homes and the town (pop. about 150) have the old pay phone booths. I didn't know such a place existed. I think it would take some getting used to. Ha! Some people believe cell towers are making them sick so they have moved to the area.
I have a trac phone,, I add minutes as needed, the only reason I have a phone at all is that I am getting up in age and like to walk, my wife got it for me in case I fall or something, other then that I have no use for a phone, I do not need to know whats going on,in facebook, nor do I need to know what the weather is going to be, they should not be allowed in schools, I see no need for them there, if there is a emerg, I am sure the school can get ahold of the student, but they have become so pervasive in our lives that thres no going back, I was once riding with a friend who decided that texting was more important then driving,, I asked him to pull off a second,, when he did and I got out he asked what are you doing, I told him I will not get back in that car while your texting,, he stopped, but I am sure he still does it
It's a constant juggle between the need for connectivity and over using it. I have started to disconnect myself and my kids as much as we can - paring back to what is needed instead of having a screen in our face as a way of life. A good blog on this is http://www.handsfreemama.com/about-hands-free/
If I am waiting (e.g. in a doc surgery or in a very long queue) I might use my smart phone (or iPad if I have it with me), perhaps to play a game (scrabble is a favourite) or catch up on reading. I have my bible on my phone and some devotionals as well and I might read those if out. Otherwise I read a (paper) book which can be just as anti-social (I always read books on planes and rarely chat to the person next to me).

Phones have their place and not everyone is as keen on them as others, but I keep mine on 24/7 in case my children or family need to contact me. It was especially important when my son was going through a very bad stage of mental illness and I always had it with me no matter where I was.

I read your blog every morning on my phone and I check out comments on my blog via my phone. It really is just a portable computer. Many of my extended family are interstate and I communicate via messenger, it’s so useful when someone needs a little extra support or encouragement or feeling a bit lonely.
Lori
So true!, all you see nowadays is people with their heads down in 'shampoo position' as my dear husband says. People get touchy if they can't get hold of you straightaway and will say 'didn't you have your mobile phone with you?'. I don't think it is at all healthy the way we are beholden to our phones 24/7.
Blessings
Helen UK
I just remembered this short video http://youtu.be/1vsEjN4uO3w why Steve Jobs didnt give his kids iTechnology

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