Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Men are Better Under Stress


There is a study which has discovered that men are better under stress. Surprise, surprise! Do you wonder why this is so? God made men with ten times the testosterone than women to go "slay the dragons" as Dr. Laura used to say. Women were created to be the nesters and nurturers at home all day raising children and being help meets to their husband. There are no stressful deadlines doing this. Dinner may be late but so what? They can't get fired or lowered pay. They may be late to church since a child messed his diapers right as they were leaving the home. So what? They aren't going to get kicked out of the church. Women in the home do not have the deadlines that men have, thankfully, since we are not built to handle the stress that they do.

This test concluded"In short, when women are under time constraints in competitive settings, they under perform compared to men in math and are less likely to choose to compete." That sounds about right. A man, going out to provide for his family, is stressful since not providing for his family has very negative consequences; the possibility of losing their home, deep debt, not enough to eat, etc. I will never understand women wanting to do men's roles. Never. God created male and female differently to fulfill the roles that He created for them and no matter how much women try to fulfill men's roles, they will never have the same capacity to fulfill it like a man can.

Now, since the feminist movement, women are getting all of the diseases related to stress that men get. Stress is hard on a body and it is probably why men typically die younger than women. However, since women are not created to handle stress as well as men, they will soon find out that it is more harmful on a female than a male. The hormones and anatomy of a male help them to handle the stress better than those of a female.

I was watching an interview with a married couple who both work outside of the home. The woman was bemoaning the fact that her husband never feels one bit of guilt for working and being away from the home all day, but she has a lot of guilt. This frustrates her and I am sure it frustrates many women who work full-time. They wonder why it doesn't bother the men. This  should be a huge red flag to career women, along with the study concerning stress, that maybe, just maybe they weren't created to be out in the workforce but tending the home and family instead.

Isn't it fascinating to watch studies prove what God intended all along? Man's "wisdom" will never outsmart God's. Cultures and families will never be healthy until they get back to God's way of doing things, instead of their way. Can you believe there are women who would rather be policemen, firemen, and fight wars than be home cuddling their children?

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. 
For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
1 Corinthians 3:19

***If you would love to come home but don't know how to do it financially, here is a great book by Larry Burkett called Women Leaving the Workplace. "Parents have only one chance to raise their children. If they squander that chance, most will regret it the rest of their lives. As a financial counselor, my purpose is to help working mothers who want to stay home examine the decisions they must make, prepare for the inevitable changes that will come, and anticipate some of the problems that may result from their decision.' Outside influences are wreaking havoc on family values. Now is the time for mothers to find a way to spend more time with their children. Two-income families outweigh single-income families three to one. Home-based businesses are becoming the trend. Larry Burkett gives insightful, practical counsel on how to survive the cutback from two incomes to one. Larry thoughtfully deals with a wide range of topics."

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My husband used to get upset with me and say that I was trying to take over his role in the home. That I wanted to lead. I would tell him that I loved him. But I had no intention of taking that role. Too stressful and that he was doing a better job than I ever could. And it certainly wasn't a role that I envied. So glad that God built them to take that load for us! I'm happy to take a backseat for him. I don't need the stress.
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I was terrible at handling the stress of working out in the world. All my life, all I ever wanted to do is to be a mother and a wife. I guess the lies of feminism never resonated with me! This is why it's difficult for me to understand women wanting to take on men's roles.
I think men & women handle stress equally well, but it depends on what kind. For example, I think women handle "emotional stress" better- family/children are hurt or sick, support when someone dies, a neighbor needs help, etc. I guess stress that requires compassion? Men handle work stress, financial, etc better because it requires more of a clear head.
1 reply · active 471 weeks ago
The type of stress a woman deals with the home is much different than the stress a man has out in the world. If she is exhausted and a bit overwhelmed, she can rest a while, put praise music on, take the children outside, etc. Men don't have this same opportunity. They have to keep pressing on even when the going gets tough.
Did you miss the part of the findings that said "Both perform equally well in low-time-pressure tournament math tests and high-time-pressure tournament verbal tests."?
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Neither of those help out in the workforce. Of course they perform better in verbal tests since women are so much more verbal than men! There is no surprise there and because there isn't as much pressure, I can see them performing the same as men in low pressure math tests. It still doesn't prove that women can handle the stress "out there" nearly as well as men do.
What about single/ widowed/ divorced women without children who must work in the world to support themselves? Do you think they should just quit their jobs -- because they can't handle the stress -- and stay home and hope that somehow someone will support them? For the vast majority of single working women there is no backup family/ parent/ sibling/ church/ benevolent friend out there just waiting to pay all their bills.
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doctorsahaab · 471 weeks ago

Agreed on..some points................Men are better under stress
After two and half years of coping with a young adult suffering from mental illness, depression, psychotic events (which are horrendous) and attempted suicide I think I have been through the most stressful of days and I tell you that women do cope with very high levels of stress. It has made me much stronger, better able to cope and as a result my faith has become much much stronger — because the Lord always provides the strength that one needs during stressful situations. He has never let me down.

It is well known that women in rural areas often do far better during natural disasters (fire, drought, floods etc) than their husbands because their practical skills jump into action and they are able to sort out problems much more clearer (and women tend to get together to solve problems whereas men tend to try and cope alone). This is evident in the increase in suicides in rural areas during times of drought. We are also seeing increases in men committing suicide in the construction industry - another very stress occupation.

Its important to note that not all women are the same and our ability to cope with stress various considerably. Some women don’t cope at all well with stress and others cope really well. Some are more anxious that others, more fearful etc. God made us all different, he didn’t make all women clones of each other and each of us have own special talents and abilities.

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