She is getting married today and left this comment on my post Being Discreet in a Crass Culture. (There were many great comments on this post.) I loved it so much that I wanted to make a post with her comment on the day of her wedding for any of you who are looking for a godly spouse with the values that are important to you and raising daughters with these biblical values.
"These comments
remind me of a conversation I had with my fiancé recently when I inquired about
how we are going to raise girls (when the time comes) without them feeling like
we are 'holding them back' by dissuading them from going to college.
"I should start by shedding some light onto our relationship. We are engaged to
be married on 3/25/16, and we currently run our relationship in as much of proper
roles as we can, (without sex of course) with him being the decision maker and
my submission in all things to his leadership. We've decided to homeschool
because the Lord is leading us to do so, and we share some not-so-nice
experiences with traditional school systems, as neither of us were
homeschooled. We thoroughly discuss all things and the topic of raising godly
children has been a frequent one lately.
"Anyway, now I'll get to the point,
that my wise soon-to-be husband shared with me. He said, 'Any future
daughters of ours will anticipate enjoying a stay-at-home mom kind of lifestyle
to the degree you reflect that you enjoy it, and even more so, by how our
marriage will thrive in our proper roles, as God designed it to be.' It
really got me to thinking that, it's really a lack of contentment that drives
us to think the grass is greener on the other side. How glorifying is it to God
when people witness a marriage truly modeled after Christ and the Church to the
extent that both husband and wife are at peace, joy-filled, feeling fulfilled,
and full of energy to minister unto others because their home (house/family) is
in proper order?
"People are drawn to what they perceive as creating happiness.
People want to be happy. If we can draw others (especially our children) to us
by reflecting how good it is (and content and happy we are) in our proper
roles, that would certainly be a testimony and reflect godliness. Our children
will see how proper roles really work, and how they make us joyful deep down,
and they'll hopefully naturally be dissuaded from the things of the world.
True, some readers may say, 'Well just wait until you have kids, young
wife, you're in for a world of surprise!' But I'm exercising my faith that
our future children will see the joy, order, peace and contentment of a
biblically modeled marriage, and be won-over to desire the same for themselves
as they mature into adulthood. After all, faith is the substance of things
hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." (I was like her. I always knew my children would grow up to walk in Truth and to marry godly spouses, so I spent many hours making sure they knew the Truth of God's Word!)
Flika commented on this same post: "The Bible tells us that love is the ultimate gift. Why do so many women
give up that opportunity to have a titled career? I will never regret being a
devoted homemaker all my married years. I still love home even though I am
widowed. I can practice hospitality and share Jesus. I did that with a little
girl last year. I have dolls and movies about Jesus' life. After the movie of
Jesus' birth my little friend said, "So that is how He was born."
About two weeks later, she asked Jesus into her heart. I take her to church now
at times and her sister comes too. Praying her whole family will. Love conquers
all; Agape love that is. I made mistakes raising my children, but I claim the
home is the most amazing career for a woman.
"Years ago when I was
young, I prayed about working outside my home. Father God put a deep trust in
Him that if I did life His way He would always provide. I was careful with our
money and home. He has always taken care of us/me. I still am frugal and love
to help others when I can. I use to cry when I was a child because no one loved
home like I did. I decided to choose a career of being home. Everyone put
knowledge above love and I wanted to be loved and to love others. I can go Home
to Jesus feeling so very blessed.
"I would not waste my time in college when love is most
important. So many men go without good jobs to support their families because
women want careers and extra income to have all the goodies of life. Some women
have to work outside the home. I didn't have an extended education. I kept my
home and practiced hospitality to people from all over the world. Did we have
grand things? NO! We paid $17,000.00 for our old farmhouse and I made it cozy.
I did gardening and animal raising. I still pressure can meats, fruits and
veggies. It makes me feel so content. My young friend that was in school with
my daughter even hangs her laundry out in the Michigan winters. Why? She loves
the way Gods fresh air dries them and she can feel His blessings as well and
smell them all winter long. She knows the secret of feeling close to Father
God. That is why I love her as a daughter. We speak each others language.
"I read of a young, very young, woman that was
uneducated. But what she gave impacted every person ever living and lived. I
don't know her last name but her first name was Mary. She birthed and raised
Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. She never went to college and never had a
career and God found her qualified to do the job He asked her to do."
There is a lot of wisdom in these two women's words. I pray their words bless you as much as they blessed me. There is no better way to live than the way God has ordained for you to live.
The aged women likewise, that they be in
behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine,
teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober,
to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet,
chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of
God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
