Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Do Careers Give Meaning to Women?


Women wanted to be the same as men so they left their homes and sought careers to find meaning since men find meaning in their careers. Therefore, as they were growing up, they were thinking about their career path instead of getting married. Many went to higher education, built up debt, and finally reached their career. They worked hard in their career for a while but still just could not find meaning in it like the men could. What was wrong?

Women aren't like men and women aren't supposed to find meaning in their careers. They aren't built physically for what it takes to have careers for long periods of time. Studies had proven that women get careers that give them solid time off and they won't have to be on call. After a while, they get worn out from their career. Some get married while they have careers and get even more exhausted trying to run a career and a home. 

The question is would you rather have a fabulous career or fabulous marriage? Women have been lied to. They spend all of their growing up years thinking their lives were about having having careers and preparing for them. Then when they finally have their careers, they figure out there is little to no meaning in their careers. Instead of spending their lives preparing for careers, God tells women they should spend their lives preparing for marriage, child bearing, and homekeeping. This is where they will find meaning. 

Unfortunately, even Christian women have fallen for the lie of our culture. Instead of seeking careers, they should be preparing for marriage by getting an education that doesn't cost much and doesn't put them into debt. It also needs to be a career they can drop the moment they either get married or, for sure, when they have children. Teaching is a good career since they can use their credential to teach their own children, in case this is required. 

Besides seeking a career, they should work on learning how to cook and keep a home clean and tidy. They should be mentored on how to be a godly wife and please their husband. Even learning what to look for in a potential husband is an extremely important thing to learn. I told my girls to marry men who loved the Lord deeply and worked hard. Neither of them wanted a career and both of them only wanted to get married and have children.

It's okay to not do what our culture is doing. In fact, it's great to not do what our culture is doing since most of what they are doing is opposite to what the Lord wants us to do. Be in the Word and find out for yourself what His Word is telling you and then obey it. You will find abundant blessings in living your life for the Lord and not for man.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

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Lady Virtue · 470 weeks ago

Excellent post. God made them male and female (Genesis 1:27); that verse alone tells us that men and women are not the same, as the world claims.

I'd rather have a fabulous--and God-honoring--marriage than a "career" any day!
3 replies · active 470 weeks ago
We have 4 daughters and we are raising them to be godly mothers and wives one day. I homeschool them so they can see what a wife and mom does all day 😉
1 reply · active 470 weeks ago
I want my daughters to have some kind of professional training and job experience, although I've already told them I expect them to stay home with their children. I didn't get married until I was 29, and had my first baby at 33. Up until I had a baby, I worked and helped pay off student loans, cars, etc . . to make it easier for me to stay home after kids. If my daughters don't end up being blessed with a husband, I don't want them working a minimum wage job. And if their husband gets very ill, I would like for them to have some education and job experience to help their families. My friend's husband has been diagnosed with a horrible neurological disease and cannot work, and she has to work now to support their family of 6. Her heart is broken because she has always homeschooled them, and might have to send them to school now. She is currently working part-time just to keep them afloat. All of that said, homemaking is a ministry, and a profession. There is no higher calling for a woman than to take care of her family. I make that abundantly clear to my daughters. They see how blessed they are not to be stuck in daycare, and to have a their mother always available to them. And, we homeschool, and they are already talking about homeschooling their children. I'm helping them to understand homemaking is not a brainless job. It's takes a lot of organization, creativity, financial sense, and dedication to be an effective homemaker. I'm also going to tell them it's unacceptable to have an enormous amount of student debt which would prevent them from staying home. A career is a placeholder until baby comes in my opinion.
14 replies · active 470 weeks ago
Aaaaamen, Lori! This still makes me upset, because it is what I was told/taught in nursing school and it swayed me for so many years. Truth was, though, that I longed for a family. God set that in my heart after we married, and it took infertility to bring me to the King of Kings and I surrendered my life to Jesus! Wonderful to think on even to this day how He wooed me through the very thing that he set in the hearts of women if they were not blinded to it. Thank you! keep up the excellent exhortation.
1 reply · active 470 weeks ago
I LOVE this post. It's a point that I find that so many people miss. Even my 81 year old grandmother, who religiously attends church, prays consistently, and was a stay-at-home mom herself has tried to discourage me from following the biblically outlined roles for women. Though their argument is typically displaced when I ask them to point to me the scripture that indicates that a woman's preferred place is outside of the home, providing, and they find none. I wish more women and men had revelation, or just the humility, to accept the Word as is, without manipulating it and misconstruing it to meet their own wishes and desires. Now some women have to work for one reason or another, in fact as I have been single, for years I've had to provide for myself. However my fiancé and I have come to an agreement that I am to stop when we have children, or sooner if possible. We believe that The Lord's perfect will for women is as outlined in scripture. As for now, do I enjoy working everyday? Not since my mind has been renewed to where my place rightfully is supposed to be. Do I have debt from going to college? You bet, and now it's going to take my future husband even longer to get us out of debt, which I regret. So, with that being said, I greatly look forward to being home with our future children, with freedoms that I don't have on the job here, cramped in the tiny room that Im typing this in now on my lunch break.
My position is not to push anyone into condemnation, because we all have a different walk, but to simply reiterate the wonderful truth in this post. Thanks Ken and Lori!
1 reply · active 470 weeks ago
I'm not entirely sure men find "meaning" in their careers either. They certainly find meaning in providing for their families, but the men I've known see the career as a means to an end, their way of serving their family by providing for them. I have no idea why a woman would want to take on something like that.
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TheJoyFilledWife · 470 weeks ago

It really is sad to see so many parents pressuring their daughters to go to college and incur student loan debt. A young man I know is about to get married. They have been dating for a few years and he wanted to propose to her a lot sooner, but he had to wait until he could find a job that paid a lot more because she has $100k in student loans for a career path she can't find work in. She will be working up until she gets pregnant and gives birth (she currently can only find $12/hour work), but that could be right away and her prior contribution won't even make a dent. I know he feels a lot of weight on his shoulders with supporting a new marriage and now gigantic useless student loans he will be paying on for a very long time. I believe that women should be educated on running a home and do any additional learning from home. You can take a lot of low-cost courses online that won't require loans.

We have always prayed that our children would marry godly spouses at a young age. People are waiting until they are older to get married and except for a few of the faithful who have been praying for a spouse since they were young and are still waiting on the Lord, I believe that the older marriage ages are due to pursuing careers and wanting to live the single life as long as possible.
1 reply · active 470 weeks ago
I did work after marriage for a few years. I loved my job and it did allow us to pay down our mortgage quickly. When we did have children; I was able to stay home. This was not how we planned life - this is how it happened. Girls can get a higher education without much debt - our children stayed home while they went to college and university. They were able to graduate with little or no debt and immediately giving them good, higher paying jobs. Their husbands all did the same and they all started married life with no student debt. It is possible in many situations.
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Theologygirl · 470 weeks ago

Thank you for this post! Even in my biblically-solid, conservative church I am still the only young lady not planning on going to a four year school. I am getting a certificate in Biblical Studies from my local seminary and I am studying to be an herbalist so I can teach and take care of my children but this is deemed "less useful" and I get lots of "helpful" comments that I am "too smart not to go to college." I am getting very frustrated. I have even been deemed "undateable" by a few of the guys because I don't want a career! It makes me so upset that we have bought into feminism to this extent, even in the church. So anyway, thank you for the encouragement! I love your blog; I always leave feeling encouraged and convicted.
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ContentWife · 470 weeks ago

My husband and I were blessed to meet each other early on, and got married at 19, almost 20. I never had a chance to get to college, which I am now SO grateful for! We're absolutely debt free and I'm loving staying home with our five little ones. I wouldn't trade this for any career in the world! Being a stay-at-home mom has HUGE spiritual value!
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Robin Johnson · 469 weeks ago

But marriage is not for all so I do not believe that it should be the central goal in a woman's life -- that can lead to trouble if it's not God's will for you -- you need to determine what the will of God is for your life. Some choose to serve the Lord by not marrying. Any endeavor, including a career can be fulfilling if you have the Lord in your life -- anything, including a career can be unfulfilling if you do not.

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