Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Cut It Out with the Fairy Tales


It's always fun to find an article written by a woman who doesn't know the ways of the Lord and lives according to the world. I'm not going to link to it since it's written by a feminist who uses foul language, even taking the Lord's name in vain, so I don't want to send readers to her site. However, she has come to some great conclusions in her life!

I do think, though, that we should cut it out with the fairy tales already. Stop telling women they can have everything without sacrificing anything. Here's the truth: You want to have a career and kids? You totally can, but both will suffer. You will never feel like you are devoting enough time to either. You will never feel like you are good enough at either. You will never get time off {at least for the first several years}. You will always be choosing between things that need your attention, and you will almost never choose yourself. You will be judged for nearly every move you make and you will never measure up to anyone else's expectations.

The feminist's lie was to tell women they can have everything without sacrificing anything. I've often heard women change this a bit to women can have everything they want but not at the same time. This is a fairy tale also since the years you are climbing the ladder by getting higher education and then a career are the best years to get married and have children, since a woman's fertility is highest in her twenties.

If women were to decide first to get married young and have children plus be at home to raise them, by the time they were grown and out of the home, they would most likely be too old to begin a career. Yes, they may be able to but then they won't be around to teach younger women as God has commanded them to and help with the grandchildren.

In pondering all of this, our culture has invented many things that have made it easier for mothers to have careers. Without baby formula and breast pumps, women couldn't have a career since they would need to be home full-time nursing their babies for the first year of so. Without daycare and fast food, it would make it much more difficult. Without supermarkets, washing machines and dryers, it would be impossible for mothers to leave their homes. Mothers used to have to be home to nurse their babies, fix their food from scratch and do their laundry by hand. They were very busy at home. 

This is what kept couples married; the women needed their husbands to provide for them. Even though we love our washing machines, dryers and all the other modern inventions that make our lives easier, they have made life harder on many children since they have lost their mothers to careers in the process. I venture to say that children need mothers at home who are committed for life to their fathers way more than we need the modern inventions that have allowed women to be a part-time mother with a career. If children had their way, they would rather be poor at home with their mother, than rich with their mother rarely at home.

The only way a woman wins is by doing things God's way. Get married when a godly man who works hard asks her to marry him. Have children as soon as the Lord blesses her with them. Be at home full-time taking care of all there is to do in being a help meet to her husband, raising godly offspring and being the best homemaker she can be. Stop listening to the fairy tales of this day and age. All they are are fairy tales and have nothing whatsoever to do with real life. You either do things God's ways or the world's ways. You can't do both without someone suffering needlessly and that someone is always the children.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

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My mom and I were talking about this yesterday! Rather than emancipating women, all feminism really did was put the demand on women to have a big successful career AND a family. How did that "free" women?? A generation of men have been effected by this; believing that they are entitled to a wife who provides a second income and improves their standard of living, all while continuing to raise the children, meals, laundry, a clean house, and so on. Many women I know who work full time outside of the home are doing so because their husbands want them to; they would like to be home. One of my husbands co-workers complains regularly about his stay-at-home wife because in his opinion, he is doing "all the work". (They have four children under the age of 10!). If we ladies really want to be free and "emancipated", I think we need to take back our rightful role and and call out the feminist fairy tale of "having-it-all super woman"! Thanks again for a great post, Lori!
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Yes, men have fallen for the feminist lies also, unfortunately, and it has harmed their families in more ways than husbands can possibly know. They would prefer the money than to have their children being securely raised by their mother. It's tragic for the women and the children.
I was a devoted Stay-At-Home wife and mom. I never, ever, will regret it. Not only did I get to raise my children but I got to be hospitable to people from all over the world. Was my house fancy? NO. It was an old farmhouse. I made it cozy and people came for people not fancy. I still love being home. I am a widow now but hope to marry again someday. I still love doing for a man and having his attentions too. I now am a Titus 2 leader. Thank you for this article. It says what I say but get rejected for. I smile because God approves. He is so good!
1 reply · active 472 weeks ago
Hopefully some man will find the treasure that you have to offer him someday soon, Flicka!
Children are always the ones to suffer, and that is truly tragic for our world. My all-time favorite writer on the topic of homemakers is James Russell Miller, a popular Christian author in the late 1800s. I have to post one of his best quotes: "The woman who makes a sweet, beautiful home, filling it with love and prayer and purity, is doing something better than anything else her hands could find to do beneath the skies.” ― James Russell Miller, Home-Making
1 reply · active 472 weeks ago
Oh, I love J. R. Miller also, Gayle. I only wish there were more preachers willing to preach this important message to their congregation and older women willing to teach it to younger women. Thank you, Gayle.
Thank you so much for this post! That "woman can have it all" is the biggest, most harmful lie we've been told.
1 reply · active 472 weeks ago
It sure has and it's caused so much destruction in our society.

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