Without an education, I would be so much less effective in educating my
kids, creating meaningful change in my community, supporting my husband, and
even just being an interesting partner to him.
This was a comment left on one of my posts recently. I completely disagree with this statement. I think our society has put way too much emphasis on education {man's knowledge} and mostly humanistic teaching.
My oldest daughter never went to college. She became a professional ballerina instead. She used her talent to witness to others the joy of knowing Jesus. She is incredibly intelligent and loves studying the Word. She is a great help meet to her husband. If she decides to educate her children someday, she will do a fantastic job. She creates meaningful change in her community by being involved in her church.
My mother never attended college, well maybe one semester. She was the most amazing mother I could have ever asked for. She was always home with us, disciplining and training us, fixing healthy food for us, and giving us a warm, clean home. She helped neighbors when they were sick. She taught health classes at church. She babysat my children a lot when they were growing up. She didn't need an education to accomplish any of this!
If your desire is to be a wife and mother full time someday, choose your path carefully. Don't go into deep debt to get an education. Don't pursue a career that would be hard to leave if you have children. Some will say, "Yes, but they can work a couple of days a week." I wouldn't have wanted to leave my babies with anybody ever. I wanted to raise them full time.
College isn't for everyone. Some women don't like college and shouldn't feel like they have to go because everyone else goes. Get involved in community activities or your church. Find out what your gift and talents are and use them to minister to others. Maybe you love serving people. Be a waitress or nanny. College is getting more and more expensive every day. It shouldn't be a requirement for every woman. You can lead a very productive, full life without it.
Let a widow be enrolled if she is not less than sixty years of age, having been the wife of one husband, and having a reputation for good works: if she has brought up children, has shown hospitality, has washed the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and has devoted herself to every good work.
Jenn · 632 weeks ago
abellaclan · 632 weeks ago
I never finished my degree (BSN), and I have no regrets. It doesn't take a degree to be a good wife and mom!
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Tiffany · 632 weeks ago
But I definitely agree that college is not a prerequisite for being a good wife and mother. Actually, motherhood itself has been the greatest education I've ever had! :)
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LJC · 632 weeks ago
After graduation, I am expected to work until I have children. I am so scared of this! This is not the environment I feel comfortable in. But since I love college and studying, I was thinking about staying in school to finish a second degree in biology and then go to dental school. That way, I could choose my own hours and not work as much but still have something to fall back on if (heaven forbid) my husband would pass away.
Right now my dad has terminal cancer and my mom is trying to find a job. I pray for a miracle and for my dad to be healed because luckily right now he is not very sick yet. My mom has a master's but has been out of the workforce for decades raising her children, so now she cannot find a job she is qualified for. This only adds to my stress--could this also happen to me?
So this post speaks to me very much. I know the best thing to do is to work for a while before children (especially to pay off my student loans, which I don’t feel comfortable asking my husband to do). He is going to be in school for 3 more years so this especially means I should work. But all I dream of is to be a housewife, as silly as that sounds, just like my great grandmother, grandmother, and mother before me. I guess I just have to be patient. Thank you for bringing this topic up for discussion!
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redheadednurse 67p · 632 weeks ago
The military is a good way to get education in a field you might not otherwise think of. My niece, who does have a BS and MS, went into the Army. They trained her as a cartographer, a field that is actually in high demand in this post 9/11 world. The military also gives you the opportunity to travel and meet new people.
There are many technical programs that are 1 to 2 years long that provide solid training that can be used should a stay at home Mom need to return to work at some point. To have only a high school education really isn't sufficient today. I would like to see high schools have 2 paths: academic and technical. I believe Germany has something like that. It could be possible to finish high school with some job skills.
Lori Kay · 632 weeks ago
I believe for me college was the right choice. I grew up in a small rural community. My family was poor and my father disabled. Neither parent finished high school. If I chose to remain at home I would have had to get a job (no waiting for prince charming). My options were quite limited, especially without a car. I could have found work at a local factory, become a waitress or bartender. That is about it. My high school friends who didn't move or go to college are all factory workers now.
College was a pathway out of poverty for me, and I give thanks to God for leading me on that path.
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Kristin · 632 weeks ago
xo,
Kristin
aboutagirl.ca
stuffedveggiesblog 6p · 632 weeks ago
I think the Community College is a very wise course for many women. In two years or less, you are trained for a JOB (which cannot be said of most four year degrees), and it costs usually about 1/4 - or less - what the 4-year college costs.
MrsNinjaMom · 632 weeks ago
About 2 weeks before I had planned to sign my life away to the military, an acquaintance from church, a tall, handsome, professional cellist/math teacher came more into the spotlight of my life. On our first date I knew he was the one for me, and I knew I was not joining the Army. It scared me to death.
Four months later we were engaged, and 4 months after that we were married. We moved to where he grew up. At his old church a sweet woman asked me if I'd like to be in her "homemaker's Bible study." I inwardly scoffed. But I began spending some time with women who valued keeping their homes and raising and educating their children in the Lord. And I realized that this is my calling.
Two months after we got married I got pregnant with our first child, a boy! Now we have two boys in less than 4 years of marriage. I can honestly say that I have learned more in marriage and motherhood in these last few years than I learned in all the rest of my life put together. I am very thankful for these wonderful blessings, and for the sovereignty of God in my life. Even though I wish I hadn't gone to college, I know that God had a purpose for it and His timing is always perfect.
connie · 632 weeks ago
just need extra insights
thanks
Amy · 629 weeks ago
First generation Christian, first generation SAHM, first generation home schooler.. Hard work ladies!! Be grateful if you got an upbringing in any one of those areas.. It makes a difference..
Meghan · 556 weeks ago
I have a Bachelor's degree and a Master's degree and am currently a full-time homemaker. While I don't necessarily think all children need a college education, I don't feel my college education was wasted either. College is not just about getting a job, it's about education. College provides personal enrichment, discernment, and teaches one how to learn, among other things. The people I know who have gone to college are more curious and engaged in the world than those who haven't. The skills I learned in college and graduate school help me to be a better wife and mother everyday.
Even for women who wish to ultimately become homemakers, I think it's unwise to write of higher education all together. What if she never gets married? What if her husband dies, becomes disabled, or leaves her? What if she wishes to work after her children have left home? There are numerous reasons why a woman would need to be able to support herself and be financially independent. Study after study has consistently shown that people with college degrees earn more than people without them. Yes, there are some who have made a good living without going to college or getting advanced training, but statistically this is the exception rather than the rule.