A reader asked me if she should wear a bikini since her husband wants her to wear one. She doesn't feel comfortable about it since she feels it is immodest and would feel like a hypocrite since she teaches her daughters to be modest. She didn't know what to do.
When I get a tough question that I am not sure about, I ask my favorite older woman.
Here was her reply ~
Your question is a very interesting one. I think I would answer it the same way I would answer a woman if her husband asked her to watch x-rated movies. In other words, if he is asking her to do something that goes against what she feels God's Word says {not just a prejudice she has, but a conviction}, then I would recommend that she share these verses with her husband and explain that showing so much of her body to men who are not her husband, goes against her convictions and she feels that it doesn't please the Lord and she would so appreciate him honoring her convictions. {I Timothy 2:9, I Cor. 6:19-20}
However, I would encourage her to then playfully tell him that she would happily wear it for him anytime if they were alone somewhere, or in a jacuzzi where she wasn't on display etc. She should also bring up the fact that she is setting the example for her girls and feels that it's important for her to model modesty to them. I'd also encourage her to fervently pray for a listening ear and sensitive heart from her husband before she shares this with him.
It's interesting to note that the reason a man wants his wife to wear a bikini in front of others is either to attract or tempt other men, to show off, or to make others jealous...all of which are not Godly characteristics.
My added thoughts would be if he still wants her to wear a bikini, then she should wear one but have a wrap on the majority of the time, especially if other people are around.
However, I would encourage her to then playfully tell him that she would happily wear it for him anytime if they were alone somewhere, or in a jacuzzi where she wasn't on display etc. She should also bring up the fact that she is setting the example for her girls and feels that it's important for her to model modesty to them. I'd also encourage her to fervently pray for a listening ear and sensitive heart from her husband before she shares this with him.
It's interesting to note that the reason a man wants his wife to wear a bikini in front of others is either to attract or tempt other men, to show off, or to make others jealous...all of which are not Godly characteristics.
My added thoughts would be if he still wants her to wear a bikini, then she should wear one but have a wrap on the majority of the time, especially if other people are around.
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire.
1 Timothy 2:9
1 Timothy 2:9
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misti · 611 weeks ago
these days swimsuits are more like "look at me temptation suits."
recently i was in a dressing room, the girl next to me was a teen and she was trying on swimsuits. she told her mother "don't you think dad would have a heart attack if he saw me in this?" her mother responded "if you got it, flaunt it. you won't look this good forever. besides, you dad never goes swimming."
I was so saddened that she was thinking it showed to much and her mom kept pressing her to get it.
Modesty is a thing of the past. women even show cleavage at church. you have to work hard to get your daughters to want to not dress sexy.but it pays off. it also helps set an example for sons to want a modest woman.
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Lynne · 602 weeks ago
My husband and I are empty-nesters. My mother bought me a bikini for our honeymoon 35 years ago. Since then, he has always wanted me to wear a bikini even though I am overweight. Now that there are just the two of us, I will wear one in our own swimming pool and/or around the house to please him but not when the family is present. To me, it is just like any other piece of lingerie and a private matter.
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