Monday, July 22, 2013

The Key To Blessing


Many wives spurn their husband's leadership.  Actually, most of us do.  We spurn them regularly, either passively or actively, in the little things and the big, thus losing God's blessing in our home.

God has clearly commanded, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord...let the wives be {subject} to their own husbands in every thing." {Ephesians 5:22,25} 

This has never been easy for women in any age throughout history since our own natures are certainly more inclined toward insubordination than submission.  But I think it is especially difficult in our generation, which seem intent on teaching women to be strong, independent, and stubborn.

However, whatever path the world is on is usually completely opposite of what the Lord commands and what is best for us.

When we walk in disobedience to God, we miss out.  When we are unsubmissive to our husbands, we miss out.  We reap what we sow.  Walking in obedience to God brings peace, joy, and harmony.  Walking in disobedience brings conflict, misery, and disunity.

You know I write about submission frequently and I know many of you squirm when I do.  I know it isn't easy.  I still struggle with it but I want it badly and I am learning because I know that all of God's ways are very, very good.

You don't hear submission being taught today in very many places since women have become so powerful and submission offends them.  This is not God's way.  He wants women of God to have quiet and gentle spirits who don't get offended easily but walk in obedience to Him.

Keep learning what submission looks like.  Begin obeying your husband in everything and then tell me how it is going.  He is our loving Creator and wants our lives to be filled with peace and joy. His ways are the only ways that lead us there.

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ,
the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.
I Corinthians 11:13

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I began this journey a couple of years ago and the thing that has really stuck in my mind besides having more peace in my home is the relief of the burden of always having to be right, prove my point, give my side of the argument etc. I really thought that it would be much harder because I have always been stubborn and independent. I have also realized how much I have "stewed" over things that really don't matter...now that's liberation!
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
Perhaps a post on what submission looks like to you would be greatly helpful. Is it never giving our opinion or input on something? Is it becoming a doormat to your husband (which is what most women think submission to be, I think)? Perhaps you've already done a post like this, but it may have been so long ago that it is buried.
2 replies · active 609 weeks ago
Great reminder that we as women should obey our husbands in righteousness as our husbands obey the Lord. That means to me that if a husband asks a wife to do something wrong or evil, she should not obey, but we obey and support our husbands as they are righteous and obey God.
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
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Gently Led · 609 weeks ago

Lori, since reading your post "The Carnal Wife," every day I've chosen not to argue with my husband. I'm very stubborn and opinionated, so it's been difficult sometimes, but also a relief not to "have to" challenge him on things. Most of the time I just think my way is better, and I can speak gently or just keep my mouth shut. It's been quite peaceful around here.

It's just been a little over a week, but I think it's no coincidence that yesterday, my birthday, he served me all day -- he did much more for me than he normally does.

Thank you, Lori!
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
Lori, yours is the blog that set me on the right path of submission and successfully keeps me there. I have several Christian women's blogs that I try to read, but I always read yours, and when I am pressed for time, I only read yours. I love it that your message is always short and succinct and delivers a lot of impact. I also admire the fact that you listen to others opinions but stand by your convictions. Thank you for all you do in your ministry!
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
Every year since coming home full-time, I have been learning submission to my husband. Has gotten easier as the time has gone on and yes our home life has become more peaceful. Keep submitting ladies even when you have to keep fighting with your flesh and you
fail. You, your husand your children will be truly blessed!
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
I'm always interested to read your posts about submission. I don't really like the idea in principle, but sometimes I wonder what it would look like specifically in my marriage. I can't remember the last time my husband and I argued... so it wouldn't be as simple as just letting him win. I was reading that post Tracy mentioned, "For Husbands Who Don't Want Submissive Wives" and your other Marriage posts for other ideas and none of those things really seem to apply to us either :-/ We have a great harmony now, it's hard to imagine it being better. But if I did think I could improve our marriage by being a submissive wife, I don't even know how I would implement that.
9 replies · active 609 weeks ago
Hi Lori! Long time lurker here. I love your posts and look forward to a new one every day. However, I'm concerned that you used a watermarked Shutterstock image. Watermarks appear on images that were lifted from Shutterstock without payment, which is stealing. I'm sure you didn't mean to, but you should change it to keep from breaking copyright laws.

Anyway, keep up the great work!
1 reply · active 609 weeks ago
Words of wisdom! Thank you for this great post!
I write a lot about submission as well.. not because I'm good at it but because it's a lesson I keep relearning!! I'm glad to know I'm not alone!
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You're so right! Submission is extremely important in a marriage relationship. In fact, it seems to be the key - as you said!

It has been said that submission begins with there is a disagreement, and I can't agree more. When I disagree with my husband, it's time to let God have HIs way, and let my husband lead.It's the key to unity!

Thanks for the great thoughts!

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