Monday, July 1, 2013

The Emasculation of Men


In this article, the author gives 32 reasons why American men are being emasculated.  Among them are:  less men are in the work force, during the recession men lost twice as many jobs as women did, more than half of middle management jobs and health care jobs are now held by women, only 51% of people are now married, men play too many video games, more women than men are in college, lack of fathers in the home, and pornography.

 Wow, if Satan wants to destroy a country, he destroys the men.  How did we get here???  I believe a huge reason is feminism.  Men were created by God to be the leaders.  All throughout the Bible, the men were the leaders except in very rare circumstances.

 When women begin acting like men and wanting to be like men, they take away a man's motivation for being a man.  If there weren't so many women in the workforce, there would be a lot of jobs available for men.

 If women would learn to have quiet, meek, and submissive spirits who wanted to please and serve their husbands, there wouldn't be so much divorce.  If sons had fathers at home to teach them how to be men and train them in the ways of the Lord, they wouldn't be steeped in pornography and video games.

 Let us put on the full armor of the Lord and fight this spiritual battle.  Begin by loving and obeying your husband.  Love your children enough to discipline them and weed out the rebellion in them.  Learn to be chaste, discreet, and good.  Do everything you can to be a keeper at home if you have children.

 We don't wage war the way the world does.  God's ways are completely opposed to the world's ways.  We don't win by becoming stronger, more aggressive, and in leadership positions.  We win through prayer and doing things God's way.

 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.  
Put on the full armor of God,
 so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.
Ephesians 6:10

 "The first priority of any serious program against poverty is to strengthen the male role in poor families." - George Gilder
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Deb · 612 weeks ago

Righteous, God-fearing fathers are so important to a family. Thanks for sharing this.
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Tiffany · 612 weeks ago

I think you are so right about feminism destroying families and traditional male roles! Satan knew if he could get the mother away from the family, he could get the family to crumble. So devastating. I'm so thankful for a husband who upholds his role as the provider and protector of our family, and allows me to stay home and be the nurturer and homemaker. We hope and pray we can teach our kids the way GOD wants things in an increasingly liberal, feminist world. It will be tough!
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Lea Culp · 612 weeks ago

Yes, I must say with all the rest, you are so right on! I'm so thankful to have had such an awesome Dad and am married to a man that has been an awesome Dad and a real example to our children. I'm afraid that is becoming a thing of the past.
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Courtney · 612 weeks ago

One thing I like about your posts is that they often spark interesting conversations with my husband when I ask him his opinion on the subject :) He says he feels empowered rather than emasculated that he's not locked into rigid gender roles. We're thankful we'll get to decide what is best for our family, whether that means me working full-time and him being a stay-at-home dad or vise versa or something in between. I think the other commenters are right to say we live in an increasingly liberal, feminist world and traditional roles are becoming a thing of the past. I can't remember if I've mentioned it before, but "The Daddy Shift: How Stay-at-Home Dads, Breadwinning Moms, and Shared Parenting Are Transforming the American Family" is a really interesting book on the subject. I read an article by the author recently where he wrote, "When I was interviewing couples for my book The Daddy Shift, I found the happiest ones were those who weren’t hung up on ideas about what a man should do and what a woman should do. Mom didn’t look down on Dad if she made more money than him, and Dad didn’t waste time resenting the burdens of child care. In fact, embracing flexible gender roles can make couples extremely happy—largely, I’d argue, because those beliefs are more adaptive to our 21st-century economic reality." He goes on to quote a sociologist who said, "Given today’s precarious economic situation, the ‘happy working parent’ needs to be able to adapt and adjust. Gender flexibility allows, we argue, greater ability to successfully and dynamically balance work and family.” I understand not agreeing with that because you believe certain roles are God-given, but different roles work for many of us who don't believe that. And I don't think it makes the man less of a man. I think my feminist husband is very manly, but that's just my opinion ;)
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Mrs. Mac · 612 weeks ago

Good post!
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Lucy Marie · 612 weeks ago

Hi, Lori! I have been reading your blogs for a short time now and love how you keep everyone accountable to God's teachings. We need more women like you on the internet!

I have been a believer for almost 5 years so I'm still learning a lot about how to be a godly wife and homemaker. I am confused about one thing and hope you can help?

If God calls us to be homemakers then isn't a woman who isn't a homemaker in sin? I agree with you that God calls us to be homemakers. In the Bible it's pretty clear that not following the ways of God the Father is sin. How are women who are not staying at home with their husbands or children not sinning against God?

If your readers have advice on how to think about this too I would be forever grateful! Thank you Lori and keep up the great work!
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Virginia Knowles · 612 weeks ago

Lori, I believe that another cause of divorce is not the emasculation of men but an ungodly and unhealthy dominance of men. After being in the conservative home schooling movement for over 20 years, I have seen quite a rise in severe marital conflict due to abuse of authority and domestic violence. Seeing this around me, I have certainly had to rethink my more rigid positions on gender roles. I believe it is up to each family to be led by God and find what works for them, even if it doesn't fit a traditional model. And I do believe that some Christian women need to learn to be more assertive and active rather than passive. Two years ago I wrote a Manifesto of Liberty and Responsibility for Christian Families here: http://www.comewearymoms.blogspot.com/2011/07/man...

Ironically, I know a lady who has been a pastor's wife and home schooling mother of 8 for over 30 years. Her prime ministry is helping wives and daughters in large home schooling families where abuse by the husbands and fathers is destroying the home. The situations are sad, but I am thankful for those she has been able to help. It's the hidden underbelly of the movement, unfortunately.
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Janie · 612 weeks ago

Very good, interesting post, and most importantly- TRUE! Thank you!
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ankuanand 13p · 611 weeks ago

very interesting !
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Jennifer · 610 weeks ago

Although I have 2 college degrees, I am a stay-at-home Mom and find much fulfillment in that. My husband wants me to get a job, but I don't think I would be as good of a Mom if I had to divide my interests.

I like the idea of the article, but don't like the sound of blaming men's behavior on women's choices. If women would just...then men wouldn't... I don't think that's fair and I think it undermines the intelligence and free will of men. Men are called to LEAD after all. Women need to be accountable before God for their actions and men need to be accountable for theirs. It reminds me of the Adam and Eve tendency to always look for someone ELSE to blame..."It's her fault!" We all have a precious free will with which to choose.
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Sapphire · 608 weeks ago

Wow. This is such a relevant discussion for my own challenges right now. My husband and I have completely opposite roles. It wasn't what I wanted but he severely damaged his back just 6 weeks after our now twelve yr old was born. I think it has really damaged and frustrated our marriage. Working outside the home and three children later is not what i expected and some days i want to throw in the towel. I have really been praying about it. Living with my husband is not easy- he really isn't a believer and there are other challenges that sprout directly from that (child rearing, discipline or the lack there of, lack of strong leadership from husband, etc). There has been so much arguing and frustration but mostly because I had been so focused on having things "right" that I really was not following MY responsibility to God. In recent months I have been really focusing on making a peaceable home and have been empowered by the results. Being submissive is a choice and only one a wise woman can make. It does not mean rolling out a welcome mat that says walk on me but is instead a gift of love a woman extents her husband. Though I have been denying myself some things by doing this it is really just giving up pride in place of being glad to serve God andd it is already bringing peace to my heart and family. Even my kids are happier. It hurts at first to give without always receiving in return but that is just what Christ did for us. The more I am practicing the Word and trusting in it the more I am seeing Gods greatness. Pleasing Him above all else has really become my mission. Eventually I know things will be ok because He is guiding me and God does not make mistakes.
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Lukas · 447 weeks ago

About more woman than men in college, what's wrong with that actually? Because I definitely don't want this phenomenon triggers an extreme measure, which once proposed in Islamic Iran by restricting some courses in college (like engineering) to men only, while other (like nursing) to women only.

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