Monday, July 8, 2013

The Expense Of Children


It is sad and unfortunate that our culture has no trouble investing money into material possessions, technology, trips, large homes, and fancy cars, but find children too expensive.  Material things rust and decay. Why not invest our lives into things that are eternal like your husband and your children?

Children are indeed a blessing from the Lord the Word tells us. Helen Aardsma wrote The Mother's Companion for many years. She has ten children and is a very wise, older woman. I learned a lot from reading all of her writings and you would too!

When Helen was young, there was a woman in her life that impacted her life greatly. This woman had many children, was home all the time, gardened, canned, sewed, entertained, and volunteered a lot. Helen wrote about her fondly; "I remember her saying once that she felt belittled by the more modern women of the church, that she had little education and no 'real' job.  But her family felt differently, and she impacted me more than all the 'modern' women of the church put together."

Things haven't changed at all since then. The women of most churches today value education and careers way over having many children and being home full time with themThis woman's husband and children rose up and blessed her because she valued serving them rather than making money or a name for herself. She was willing to share her wonderful life with a young woman named Helen.

Helen is married to an amazing godly man. She is so grateful to him for "giving me the greatest earthly gift a woman can have: a godly home full to the brim with little ones." She lives in Illinois and they have never had much money. They live on a farm and have a simple and unmaterialistic life. She homschooled her children so they all know how to work hard. They all walk in truth.

Our society today values careers, education, travel, and material possessions. Women who don't go after higher education and careers are looked down upon. If you are a stay-at-home mother, your value to society is immense. You are raising eternal treasures and doing what the Lord has called you to do.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Psalm 127:3

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So true. It's much better to invest in our children than in material possessions that don't last anyway.

I think a lot of the reason that people hesitate to have children due to them being expensive is that they see their money as...well, their money. They want to be able to buy what they want and kids would take up a lot of that. But maybe God gives us money primarily so that we can raise children to know and serve Him and impact our world - not so that we can buy a big house or take expensive vacations. Since God really owns everything and since He is the one who really provides for us, we should be asking Him what He wants us to use the money for. The Bible is pretty clear that God considers children to be a blessing and that He expects His people to raise children to serve Him. I don't see anything in the Bible that says we should be using our money for our own pleasures or avoiding children because they're "too expensive."
"The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world." Love this post Lori, thank you!
Way too many couples have traded in one or two of their children for a 401K pension. If they had given the choice to their children, I am sure their kids would have been happy to support them in their old age for the benefits of life and being born.

An eternal soul or retirement security that vanishes when the stock market crashes. That is such a tough decision... for some... because they have an earthly perspective and not an eternal one.
So important to put that effort(and money) into our kids instead of possessions.
"you are raising eternal treasures"

That is beautiful.
Just visiting from the Deep Roots at Home link-up. I've enjoyed your article! I'm expecting my 8th child in December and we are so excited about God blessings us again! Would LOVE for you to stop by my page when you have a chance. www.aheartforthehome.com
Amen. We are raising a large family and hope to be blessed with more...
AMEN! Oh how I love this message... I am SO glad I stopped by from PYHO! Finding new beautiful faithful friends is always a blessing! :)
A university degree does not an intelligent person make. Stay at home moms need to be savvy, fast on their feet, able to multi-task, patient, financially aware -- the list goes on and on. As a lifetime stay at home mom who writes and runs a business, I agree, and concur, wholeheartedly with your sentiments!
This (Psalm 127:3) has become my verse of the week. Thank you, coming from a mother of 6.
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Alfreda Schmidlap · 611 weeks ago

I honestly don't know anyone who looks down on stay-at-home mothers. Most people I have met actually envy them. Have you ever met someone who insulted you or mocked you because you are one? Women who, for instance, are widows who have no other means of support and must work to raise their families are not your enemy. We who must work are not your enemy. We who choose to work are not your enemy. Why do you think we are?
Why do you think that Lori looks at any other woman as an "enemy"?

As I read this post, she is affirming the woman who pours all her time, talent and effort into raising her children and relies on God (working through the husband He blessed her with, and through other channels) to provide for the needs of the family.

Everyone has their unique set of circumstances, and each of us chooses how to live our life in that context. I think most women respect the right of others to make a different choice--and even respect the choice itself (as long as it's moral).

But there is a lot of media-driven pressure in our society on women to "fulfill" themselves outside the home and let "Calgon take them away"--as well as pressure on everyone to consider as "needs" that which our parents saw as "wants" and our grandparents saw as frivolous luxuries or incredible science fiction.

However we each may choose to respond to our circumstances, let the decision be based on our values, not on the expectations of others or or the ebb and flow of social conventions.
I knew Helen when she lived in San Diego. I was a new mother and she was a great encouragement to me. She and another family are the reason we homeschool to this day.
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Poorly Parented · 603 weeks ago

"If you are a stay-at-home mother, your value to society is immense. You are raising eternal treasures." SPOT ON Lori!

I wish it was a more valued job. More women would do it or at least take time off if it wasn't looked down upon.
Without children life is very boring even you have lot of wealth. If a person have children but have no money then he will be happy and enjoy his life with his children and wife. According to my perception Investment on his children like expenses on quality education and good training for future are most profitable in the world than every business.political science dissertations
I was recently ill and had to be in the hospital. My husband left my children at home and the house caught fire. My eldest girl did an amazing job getting help, and the house is fine, but my husband is going to jail for child maltreatment. My mother feels I should come home with her and let my father care for me and my mother train my children. I, however, feel I should stay at home and sell homemade clothes and maybe Mary Kay. You are an older, wiser woman. What would you do in my situation?
What a blessing this is to women Lori, finally young mothers are beginning to wake up to the truth, a breath of fresh air! My grandmother was a keeper of the home. Oh the wonderful memories of home cooked meals, freshly baked pies, her beautifully tended garden, sewing projects, and always there for everyone in my family. I'm so fond of these memories, she has always been my role model. I too have loved being home with my six (almost grown) children also, God has blessed me with this gift..I wouldn't trade it for anything.❤️

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