It is sad and unfortunate that our culture has no trouble investing money into material possessions, technology, trips, large homes, and fancy cars, but find children too expensive. Material things rust and decay. Why not invest our lives into things that are eternal like your husband and your children?
Children are indeed a blessing from the Lord the Word tells us. Helen Aardsma wrote The Mother's Companion for many years. She has ten children and is a very wise, older woman. I learned a lot from reading all of her writings and you would too!
When Helen was young, there was a woman in her life that impacted her life greatly. This woman had many children, was home all the time, gardened, canned, sewed, entertained, and volunteered a lot. Helen wrote about her fondly; "I remember her saying once that she felt belittled by the more modern women of the church, that she had little education and no 'real' job. But her family felt differently, and she impacted me more than all the 'modern' women of the church put together."
Things haven't changed at all since then. The women of most churches today value education and careers way over having many children and being home full time with them. This woman's husband and children rose up and blessed her because she valued serving them rather than making money or a name for herself. She was willing to share her wonderful life with a young woman named Helen.
Things haven't changed at all since then. The women of most churches today value education and careers way over having many children and being home full time with them. This woman's husband and children rose up and blessed her because she valued serving them rather than making money or a name for herself. She was willing to share her wonderful life with a young woman named Helen.
Helen is married to an amazing godly man. She is so grateful to him for "giving me the greatest earthly gift a woman can have: a godly home full to the brim with little ones." She lives in Illinois and they have never had much money. They live on a farm and have a simple and unmaterialistic life. She homschooled her children so they all know how to work hard. They all walk in truth.
Our society today values careers, education, travel, and material possessions. Women who don't go after higher education and careers are looked down upon. If you are a stay-at-home mother, your value to society is immense. You are raising eternal treasures and doing what the Lord has called you to do.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
Psalm 127:3
Lindsay Harold · 611 weeks ago
I think a lot of the reason that people hesitate to have children due to them being expensive is that they see their money as...well, their money. They want to be able to buy what they want and kids would take up a lot of that. But maybe God gives us money primarily so that we can raise children to know and serve Him and impact our world - not so that we can buy a big house or take expensive vacations. Since God really owns everything and since He is the one who really provides for us, we should be asking Him what He wants us to use the money for. The Bible is pretty clear that God considers children to be a blessing and that He expects His people to raise children to serve Him. I don't see anything in the Bible that says we should be using our money for our own pleasures or avoiding children because they're "too expensive."
Tiffany · 611 weeks ago
Ken · 611 weeks ago
An eternal soul or retirement security that vanishes when the stock market crashes. That is such a tough decision... for some... because they have an earthly perspective and not an eternal one.
Shell · 611 weeks ago
Tracie · 611 weeks ago
That is beautiful.
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Holly · 611 weeks ago
As I read this post, she is affirming the woman who pours all her time, talent and effort into raising her children and relies on God (working through the husband He blessed her with, and through other channels) to provide for the needs of the family.
Everyone has their unique set of circumstances, and each of us chooses how to live our life in that context. I think most women respect the right of others to make a different choice--and even respect the choice itself (as long as it's moral).
But there is a lot of media-driven pressure in our society on women to "fulfill" themselves outside the home and let "Calgon take them away"--as well as pressure on everyone to consider as "needs" that which our parents saw as "wants" and our grandparents saw as frivolous luxuries or incredible science fiction.
However we each may choose to respond to our circumstances, let the decision be based on our values, not on the expectations of others or or the ebb and flow of social conventions.
Lynn · 610 weeks ago
Poorly Parented · 603 weeks ago
I wish it was a more valued job. More women would do it or at least take time off if it wasn't looked down upon.
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