"Find a husband on campus before you graduate. When your daughter enters college, she'll never be as young, as beautiful, as attractive to men, and as fertile." These words were spoken by Susan Patton, author of Marry Smart. She says that work can wait, fertility can't. Susan made it very clear that her message was to those young women who wanted children and a husband, not to all women.
Savannah Guthrie was interviewing her on the Today Show and looked aghast the entire interview. "There are so many controversial things in this book. Did you write this book for the sole purpose of being provocative?" "No, never. I'm not a provocative person, I'm an honest person. I don't care about being politically correct but about speaking the truth authentically. I don't care about popular opinion," Susan calmly replied.
Just fifty years ago, women were getting married between the ages of 18 and 22, then having babies. I recently listened to a sermon given by John MacArthur and he admonished his congregation to "Get married! Have babies!" Have you ever heard a pastor preach that?
I haven't read Susan's book so I have no idea what all she has written but she has a lot of wisdom. However, she encourages women in high school to do whatever they need to do to be attractive including plastic surgery. I completely disagree with this. Yes, get as healthy as possible but work on developing a gentle and quiet spirit along with a solid relationship with Jesus during high school and college.
She tells women to not get drunk or stoned then blame it on the guys when they take advantage of them. "If you are too drunk to speak, then you may be incapable of saying no or warding off unwanted advances and then it's all on you." This is why you need to be very careful if you send your daughters off to college. Yes, they should not get drunk but even if they live godly lives, they may not be very safe in public universities physically, emotionally, academically, or mentally, or most importantly, spiritually.
I do believe it is best for women to get married young and have babies but no matter how much you want this to happen, there is no guarantee that the right man will come into your life while you are young. You want to wait for the right one in God's timing.
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him a help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him a help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18
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Mbb · 574 weeks ago
Tiffany · 574 weeks ago
Kim · 574 weeks ago
Pros: I was a emotional mess at 23, but not so at 36. I was more calm, focus, articulate. My oldest son was very ill and my youngest was diagnosed on the autistic spectrum, all after we moved cross country. I think I would have collapsed under the enormous work if I was younger.
Cons: My health was not great when I was 23, but today I can't believe I complained. After years of terrible due to my pregnancies, which were horrible, especially the last one (constant vomiting, not related to age), I am tired, and have little energy at the end of the day. My kids tell me to go take a nap! The recovery may be have better at 24, 28, and 31and I probably would have been more well today than I feel.
I am surprised by how many women, after putting off childbirth for whatever reason, suddenly get to late 30s to 40s needing children. I have one friend who adopted in her late 30s. I have another friend who unsuccessfully had fertility drugs at 35.
Jamie · 574 weeks ago
Loving been his wife · 574 weeks ago
Here we have primary school, then high school, then University! However that said our daughter Johanna did go to a college to do her final 2 years of high school due to illness when she was high school age. In fact she was a young bride when she did college her and Timothy had only been married about two years! Unreal they have been married 10 years this year; how time fly's! :o)
Guest · 574 weeks ago
No, it's not "all on you." It's rape. Without consent - a clear and explicit, "Yes." It is rape. And the onus, responsibility, guilt, or whatever you would like to call it on the male. Plain and simple. Regardless of how drunk or stoned the other party was - woman or man. Married or single.
Loving been his wife · 574 weeks ago
I know of lots of young girls who have gotten drunk week after week and never gone near a college.
Johanna was saying to me the other day that she is amazed how many young girls/women who turn up for work tipsy; trust me she is never impressed with them!
As a older woman she always sits them down and lets them know not to do it again! It's so sad; to think this is what the world is coming too!!! However I don't think going to college is the problem. All the young women in our church that went to university/college stood their ground for God and His Word and stayed pure!
Jenna · 574 weeks ago
KML · 574 weeks ago
I have a question. It seems to be a repeated theme here that you think it's fine for women to seek further education provided that they avoid a "liberal, Godless" university should only work a "job (rather than a career) as long as they are willing to quit working once they marry.
My thought is this: I totally understand and appreciate your calling to mentor women to be submissive to their husbands and be "keepers at home," but can't we agree that the bible isn't so black and white on issues like this one (i.e. education and career before marriage)? I, myself went to a wonderful, secular university, and my relationship with Christ was strengthened during those 3.5 years. It just seems that decisions like these are ones where we obviously should seek the Lord's will and wisdom for us, but ultimately there is freedom in Christ to make those choices. (i.e. maybe it's a wise decision for some women to only attend a Christian school or avoid a career, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's right for everyone, or even that scripture outlines the correct approach).
Thanks!
shannon · 573 weeks ago
Kim · 570 weeks ago
*If you associated too closely with a man who is significantly lower below your intellectual level, you will eventually get stupid juice all over you.
*There is a very limited population of men who as smart or smarter than we are. You will never be surrounded by this concentration of men who are worthy of you.
*You're in your twenties, you're no longer a student, and you are hoping to find a husband in a nonacademic setting. Good luck! You'll need it.
And you say Betty Friedan ruined the world. Susan Patton tells women that they blew it in so many ways. This is not very good or Godly wisdom; in fact, it's pretty revolting.
I hereby apologize for criticizing your longings via Hallmark films. Please feel free to quote them at will.