Wednesday, March 5, 2014

A Wife's Powerful Influence In Marriage

How much power does a woman have in making a good marriage?  
I believe she has most of the power.  
Read these verses and see if you agree with me ~

Every wise woman builds her house: 
but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

 Who can find a virtuous woman? 
for her price is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop 
than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:9

It is better to live in a desert land than 
with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.
Proverbs 21:19

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; 
that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word 
be won by the conversation of the wives. 
I Peter 3:1

Older women....teach the young women their husbands
Titus 2:3-5

The Pearls have mentored many people.  They have seen marriages improve in hundreds of cases when they mentored the wife.  They have seen only a few when they mentored the husband.

Women, you have a lot of power to set the tone in your marriage.  Most of the Bible verses about marriage are directed towards wives.  A whole chapter is written about a virtuous wife {Proverbs 31}.  Her husband will call her blessed.

Finally, life isn't easy.  Marriage isn't easy.  It isn't easy to deny ourselves, value others above ourselves, and live a life of service as Jesus commands us to do.  Difficult marriages aren't easy.  Gary Thomas from A Sacred Marriage writes, "But even difficult marriages to difficult men can give women the strength to become the people God created them to be."  Another quote, "If we take our faith seriously and make our way through a difficult marriage in pursuit of witnessing God's reconciling love for a sinful world, then a difficult marriage becomes part of our exercise to prepare us for heaven."

Suffering of any kind can be used for God's glory.  As we seek to become godly women in spite of the world's pull to become selfish and "self-realized," we shine a light to all those around us, especially our husbands. Don't give up, women.  Fight the good fight of faith and always keep an eternal perspective.   This is not our home.