There are husbands who don't want to help their wives with the housework and children. They work all day and come home tired. They want to come home and put their feet up and relax. The wives have expressed their need for help from them, but they still don't help. What is a wife and mother suppose to do then?
I think the first thing you need to do is to simplify your life. Get rid of the junk in your home so you don't have so much to clean up. When the children are small, don't have a lot of toys and knick knacks around the home. Have a simple home with few things. This makes it easier to clean and keep organized.
Make simple dinners. The only kind of meals I make are simple with healthy ingredients. I have never been a gourmet cook but I enjoyed feeding my children healthy food. This is a very important part of being a wife and mother. Plan ahead. Make sure you keep all the ingredients on hand so you can whip up a good meal quickly.
Don't be involved in a lot of activities outside of the home. The Bible commands women to be keepers at home. This means your main ministry revolves around the home: cleaning, cooking, training, etc. When your children are young, you don't need to be in Bible studies, ministries at your church, etc. Keep your focus on your home and your family. The ministry the Lord has given women, after all, is to guide the home and be keepers at home. He did not give this ministry to men.
Don't have hobbies that take up too much time. Sure, it is good to have something you love to do at home but just make sure it doesn't rob your family of your time, especially things like facebook, twitter, email, television, etc. Make sure you are getting plenty of rest, sleep, water, and nutritious food. Take care of yourself the best you can.
Finally, remember your children will grow up. As they are growing up, teach them to help. Teach them to help you keep the home clean, to cook, to garden, etc. Your life will become easier as you get older if you do this. They will be gone before you know it and then you will have a lot of free time in which you should use to train the young women.
Your husband will have to work and provide long after the children are grown up. As much as you can, allow him to relax when he is home. If he helps with the home and children, great but if not, learn to do it without him and love him anyways. Working out in the world and providing is a heavy burden godly men must carry. Appreciate him for it and try making his life as easy as possible. If you do this, I bet he will want to begin making your life easier, for we reap what we sow.
I will therefore that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
I Timothy 5:14