Monday, September 21, 2015

A Godly Woman Has a Deep Affection for Her Family


All I ever wanted while I was growing up was to be a wife and mother. I was raised after the 60s when the feminist's movement was in full swing and college with a career was what we were supposed to pursue. I didn't want that at all but I did go to college, taught a few years and then was able to be home full-time raising children and keeping my home. I knew I was right where I was supposed to be. My mom was always a full-time mom and homemaker.

The Bible doesn't say that older women are to teach the young women to go to college and have careers. Did you ever think it was because God has different plans for women than what society does? It never tells us to have a career just "in case." This is not God's plan for women. You can find no command in the Bible that tells women to pursue this path.

I love the teachings of Nancy Leigh DeMoss. She has always been a single women, although she is getting married soon. Being single wasn't her plan, but the Lords and sometimes His plan is this for women but for, by far, the majority. He wants them to have a DEEP affection for the home and family, including having children. Having children, you see, isn't about you and it isn't about them. It's about Him, our heavenly Father. We have children because we are made in His image, in the likeness of Him, who told us to be fruitful and multiply. We create because we are like our Creator. Among other good things, it is what we are normally called to do in this world, barring a special calling from God.*

While reading this chapter, I felt like I didn't even need to read it since I LOVE teaching this topic and have for many years! It's so wonderful to hear it from others. I realize some women will never marry or have children but it doesn't mean you don't have an affection for home and family. There are many ways, if you are single or barren,  that you can still minister to in your own home and to other young women who need help.

Though Macmillan and other  dictionaries may come up with new, different definitions, it is not up to dictionaries; nor is it up to us to define what man, woman, husband, wife, and marriage mean. God created these things. He dictates what they mean.* 

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

HERE  is the video for this session.

*True Woman 201: Interior Design—Ten Elements of Biblical Womanhood, ©2015 by Mary A. Kassian and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Used with permission of Moody Publishers. You can buy the book HERE.

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Oh Lori, Thank you so much for sharing this information. I had never read much about Nancy DeMoss or Mary Kassian until you started sharing this book. As soon as you shared with us, I bought it that day. Oh Lori, I am so thankful that you are not afraid to speak God's truth, even if there will be those who complain. This book has already helped me so much to see things I should be doing and things I shouldn't. I have confessed to the Lord those things and am implementing new lifestyle changes in my life. I m so grateful that I found your blog and I know every day when I read it, that I am getting "thus sayeth the Lord" not your opinions.
Thank you for another perfectly timed post, Lori. Just this weekend my family asked me (for probably the hundredth time) when I'm going to get a job and "stop leeching off my husband." Yes, in those exact words. I think it's pretty clear that I do NOT come from a family that appreciates God's word or the role of a homemaker! I've always been just the opposite, I've never had much in the way of career ambition. Rather, I spent my childhood and teenage years looking forward to marriage, but because of the values I was raised with I was embarrassed to say that what I want out of life was to be "just" a wife. I'm starting to realize that there's no "just" about it, that we homemakers are vitally important to our families. Its so nice to be reminded that my role is valuable, and that it's okay to ignore the world's plan for my life in favor of God's plan.
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DanieleV from Quebec · 496 weeks ago

Hi dear Lori!
Yesterday I read Friday's post and I was sad knowing that you have all that pain... I hope you are better today and that you feel the love and presence of God in all that :).

And on today's post, I wanted to share what God permitted in my life on this topic:
When I was a child, my dream was to marry and have babies. On Grade 2, we had to disguise ourself in the career we wanted to have as adults. I said to my teacher I wanted to be a mom, but she didn't agree and said I should choose other career for my disguise. So I went home, explained that to my full-time mom, and we though of me being a nurse for the disguise activity.

When my sister and I were at the point of finishing our high school, my dad, who had trouble finding a suitable job for many years, asked us girls to study and have a career, because he feared that if we delayed in marrying, he should not be able to sustain us financially, although we were not "costly girls".

So we did what our dad said, and went to college, my sister became an agriculture technician and I... a nurse!

But I marry very soon after that, and I became a mom (to my very great pleasure!), and my sister is now a full-time mom too! The two of us studied something that is useful for our family and friends. I have many relatives and friends who ask me questions when they are sick, and my sister is the helper of her husband, who has many big fields of cereals and vegetables to manage.
Studying had a financial cost though, but we respected what our dad wanted when we were living under is roof.

I see that God blessed my desire to be a mom, and my desire to obey my dad, although these 2 desires seemed to be opposites! God's ways are always delightful!
I love this, Lori!

I got chastised, deeply, for being "un-loving" in my recent guest post here. I am reminded by reading like-minded writing from women I truly admire, that we indeed will come under fire when we speak the truth. The world equates telling the truth, and encouraging godly ways in His people, to be harsh, uncaring and condemning/judgmental. Thank you for being the light!
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Andrea, I'm sorry you caught flak for your article - it was awesome, and very convicting! I loved it.

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