Thursday, September 17, 2015

For Those Who are Struggling to Conceive


Nancy Campbell has been one of my favorite mentors for a long time. She’s a godly, older woman with a lot of wisdom. She has been writing for many years encouraging women to have children and as many as the Lord blesses them with. She wrote one recently encouraging women who were "done" to reconsider but some women commented on not being able to have children and the pain they have because of it. She wrote this following post for those women grieving because they can’t have children.

GOD IS YOUR HEALER

In response to my Dynasty Post, some of you shared how you are suffering from different medical problems that have been detrimental to you in your pregnancy, birth, or continuing. I was so grieved to hear these stories and have been praying for you. In fact, I have been praying through the night for God to come and heal you and deliver you. I would encourage you to not give up in prayer either.

1. Ask the elders of your church to come and pray for you. If we are sick, this is what we are told to do in God’s Word, and yet often we forget to do it, don’t we? James 5:14-156 states: “Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: and the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

2. Ask your husband to pray over you daily. Your husband is your covering and God hears his cries for you. I believe it is a powerful thing for a husband to pray over his wife each day. I believe you will see great blessings through this.

3. Seek the Lord diligently, along with your husband, for God’s healing and also for the lifestyle He wants you to live. As we seek the Lord, He leads us into His ways. Often we have grown up on the SAD {Standard American Diet} which leads to disease and obesity. We must seek the Lord for the way He wants us to live and eat, not as a diet, but a lifestyle. God has natural ways of healing too that can literally transform our bodies. And the body is renewing itself every seven years and therefore your body can be renewed and healed. Of course, one of the most important things to do as a start is to eliminate all sugar from your diet. It is the cause of so many problems.

May God lead you into all His wisdom. Oh how we need it. May He pour our His rich blessings upon you, bring healing to your body, and peace and joy to your marriage and your home.

Much love, Nancy Campbell

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I recently lost my 9th child and had a subsequent d&c, it was hard. My first miscarriage. I have never struggled to fall pregnant like this. Even though I am taking supplements to help me concieve,no such luck yet. (Although I don't believe in luck). Trying to lean on God, enjoy the time of rest he is giving me. And finding joy in raising my 8 living children. I would love more children, but God has not seen fit to bless us with any more just yet. I can't imagine how painful it is for those who go this for years on end. Thank you for the encouraging and timely post.
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Wow Anon!
Taylor loses her first and you lose your ninth, and both are nothing but painful trials. Read what I wrote to her below, and perhaps you can console her. Having 8 precious gifts can never replace the ninth one that is lost, but certainly it gives one pause to jump up and down for joy for the gifts God has given you. Oh how Lori and I wish we had had more, and we tried, but too late.

As I said to Taylor, Lori would love to respond, and she is reading the comments,. but she is back in a heavy pain cycle right now, so I am on blog duty. Hopefully soon she will be back to responding.
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Lady Virtue · 497 weeks ago

Lori, this is a very encouraging post. Thank you for sharing it.
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Thank you Lady Virtue!
This post came at such a perfect time for me. We've been trying to conceive for many months now with no success. Shortly before Memorial Day I learned I was pregnant only to lose the baby late last week. I have friends and family who have miscarried but I'd never known the pain of carrying and loving a baby for four months only to lose her before even getting a chance to meet her. I feel like I don't really have anywhere to turn in my grief since unfortunately an unborn baby doesn't seem "real" to some people. Lately I've just been trying to find comfort in God's word and pray that he'll bless us with a baby we'll get to meet and hold. Thank you for sharing this post today, I needed the comfort and wisdom it brought.
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Taylor,
Your story can make a grown man cry. It is so sad to lose a child, even in a miscarriage. We lost our first at three months, and then conceived again about 3 months later... so I hope and pray the same for you. I sometimes stop to think about the fact that if the first child had been born, none of my other children would now exist. The chain reaction of births, once every two years would have probably been forever changed, yet God in His sovereignty had in mind giving us the four precious gifts He gave us.

Please though your hurt and pain allow the Spirit of God to speak to you and remind you that He is in full control of your universe. He has shown you that you can get pregnant, and it is not unusual to lose the first one, just to have follow along a series of the most precious gifts anyone could ever want.. Each one of them even more precious because you have gone through the hurt and pain and found your God faithful to supply your wants and needs and the desires of your heart.

Never stop trusting Him, as we must learn to smile in the face of our biggest trials, knowing that once again, our Savior rides a white horse and in His mouth is the Word of God by which He gives His very best gifts to those who love Him, to those who are called by His name. Your day is coming soon. Grab a hold of it today by faith and smile at the face of adversity and pain, knowing that no matter what may befall us here on earth, we have no choice but to trust in His faithfulness. And for some of us who have tasted His faithfulness over and over again, we are spoiled brats if we do not pick ourselves up and trust Him again, after all He has done for us. Did He not promise He would turn our mourning into gladness? Why not let that happen today for you and me?

Lori would love to respond, and she is reading the comments,. but she is back in a heavy pain cycle right now, so I am on blog duty. Hopefully soon she will be back to responding.
http://www.hannahsprayer.org/board/ is a support for Christian women who have lost a child to miscarriage, stillbirth or are dealing with infertility. May our Lord bless you!
I am so sorry for your loss, Taylor, and I am praying for you... keep leaning on your faith! It took my husband and I almost three years to get pregnant, and we still only have one. Yet I know He used that time to bring us closer together and closer to Him. Stay strong through your trials... I am praying God will bless you with another baby. My heart goes out to you.
Taylor, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is okay to be sad and grieve. Psalm 34:18 says: The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and save those who are crushed in spirit. He knows and loves you, and He wants you to draw close to him, even in your tears. Have you talked with any of your friends or family members who have experienced a miscarriage? They might make good sounding boards and have some words of encouragement for you. People often don't know exactly how to respond when someone they love has a miscarriage, and they unknowingly say very hurtful things or they avoid saying anything at all, which can be equally as hurtful. Hugs to you as you continue on the journey that God has for you!
Lori and Ken,
We pray that Lori will feel God's Healing touch soon and be rid of the pain she is experiencing.
I can relate to this post as well. I had suffered 7 losses. Thankful I am glad that God did give me 3 healthy children. I really glad I found this blog, because I learn a lot. I am glad to be learning to be a better mother and wife. Life is short and I am enjoying being at home all the more. I always have been at home(didn't wor)k, but other activities over the last 22 years have taken me out of the home. I would say the last 3 years though, I have not been involved in committees, so I don't lose my focus on my home, as a mother and wife.

Blessings and prayers lifted on your behalf.
My husband and I do not have any chance of conceiving barring miraculous healing. This is something we pray for earnestly. However, I also recognise His ways are higher than my ways and that it just may be that His plan for us can only unfold without us having a child, or children of our own. I find uncertainty unsettling but I know that the infertility in our lives has been placed there for good reason, whether for a season or forever. If nothing else, I know, had we found it easy to have babies, I would have been a prideful mother (not saying this for others, I just know myself). It has taken me a lot of time to find peace in the knowledge that He is weaving us into the beautiful tapestry of His glory, whether we have our own babies or not! I find that such a comfort.
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Thank you for this comment, Cat! It's so wonderful to come to a place of knowing that God is growing us and teaching us even if He doesn't allow us to overcome infertility! I'm Sure it's not always easy, but it sounds like you have a good perspective on your life.
One of our daughters had difficulty conceiving because she has PCO which is common among those trying to conceive. This path took the route of a fertility specialist and a very expensive route which makes a difficult situation even more difficult. They sat down with us and Biblically decided how far they would go with this. They do have children now for whom we thank the Lord. Because I have seen the pain of infertility, I am thankful that our church does not make a great deal of Mother's Day. It's just too hard for some and we must be supportive and sensitive. In all of these troubles, pray for the peace that passes all understanding.
This is a wonderful post!! These are all really good things to try!! God is the opener and closer of the womb. But we always must try to have peace with what ever God's will is for us! God is always good, amen!

Kelly
I'm so sorry to hear Lori is having heavy pain at the moment. May she be well again soon. Please read the following imagining the kind attitude with which it is sent. Maybe this is not the post to send this response. I'm not sure. (And I've not read all the comments.) This may seem heartless. I do love children! Especially my grandchildren and expend a tremendous amount of effort and time on them and the same when we reared our small family. In my many years of experience, I've seen the 'other' side. The result of children bringing stress, worry, trauma, chaos to families/households. Mothers not coping. Fathers wrecked. Houses filthy. Children grubby, runny noses, sickness after sickness, unkempt in every sphere, clothing, hair, cars, houses, poverty, grottiness, homeschooling haphazard. I see mild neglect every time I go to church, Christian Playgroup, Christian family get-togethers. I see stress. I know some of this can be avoided with organization and determination (and I love your posts teaching HOW this can be accomplished). Sometimes no amount of organization can help some families cope say watching a child suffer whether from ill health, bullying or any other harsh scenario one can imagine. Sometimes it can be 'just too much' for some to manage. There is just so much work, effort, stress, unavoidable circumstances raising children from babyhood to adulthood and beyond. (No I didn't experience much of these negatives and LOVED/LOVE my role but I see the 'minuses' all the time.) If you've lived long enough, try to think deeply about the 'worst' times of suffering. (I would find it difficult to encourage some mothers to have more children when I know what these children would experience.) I agree and LOVE your posts (but I don't see it lived out around me). The 'theory' seems magical but the practical seems neglectful in many ways - with what I've seen. (Thank you both for all you do. It's so much appreciated!)
Dear Taylor,
I am so sorry for your loss, be assured though, that your precious child is waiting for you in heaven, as is mine. And whom better to look after them than our Heavenly Father!
For some, it may be easy to resent God. Or pull away from Him. May I encourage you to use this time to seek the Lord earnestly in prayer and bible study. Draw closer to your husband too. While he may not verbalise it, he may be feeling the pain too. No matter who has the infertility problem, prayer about that area of your life is important. I knew a lady who had at least 22 miscarriages, then had her first child, and then that child passed due to complications from a vaccination. And then she had two more boys after that. There is hope. The answer may not come as you expected or when you expect it. But God knows best. I am taking a herb called vireo. For reasons unknown I am not ovulating. And this herb is meant to encourage ovulation. Please try and see a natural therapist before taking herbs etc. if you haven't done so, get tests done to see if there is a medical issue with you or your husband. But most of all relax. Sometimes just being stressed out can affect our fertility. God may never give children. He may have other plans for you. And that's HARD! But we need to lay that desire down at His feet. May God bless you and your husband. I'm sorry if I offended or sounded insensitive. That was not my intention. Be encouraged that you are not alone.
Blessings,
Anon M
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Oops! The herb I am taking is called vitex. Silly auto correct! ;-)
Lori
So sorry to hear you aren't well at all. I know you have generally been a lot better recently so I am so sorry you are suffering at the moment.
Praying for you dear Sister.
Blessings
Helen UK
I have faced infertility twice now. With my first baby, and my 4th (most recent). It is SO HARD. Probably the hardest trial my husband and I have faced together. I ended up being able to conceive with fertility medication. We were as faithful as could be, prayed like crazy, did everything in our power, and ultimately felt that God was leading us to receive fertility treatments. I'm so thankful. Our sweet baby girl turns one next week and we wouldn't be a family without her. :)
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Also, Lori, I'm so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well. Praying for your comfort.
I'm so sorry you're in pain Lori. Praying for you tonight.

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