Friday, September 4, 2015

Will You Die with Guilt?


Indra Nooyi is the CEO of PepsiCo. In an interview, she said that women who say they have it all, pretend to have it all. Every woman must make a choice to be a wife, or a mother, etc. She admitted there were many times she would die with guilt; "just die with guilt."  "If you were to ask our daughters if I was a good mother, I am not sure they would say I was a good mother, I am not sure... The biological clock and career clock are in total conflict with each other.When you have kids, you have to build a career. Just as you're rising to middle management, your kids need you. They need you for the teenage years...Then your parents are aging and they need you too... Stay-at-home mothering was a full-time job... Being a CEO of a company is three full-time jobs all rolled into one. How can you do justice to all? You can't. The person who hurts the most through this whole thing is your spouse; no question about it." 

Her husband said her list of priorities would look like this: the first three would be PepsiCo, then her two daughters, her parents and at the bottom of the list would be her husband. She told him he should be happy he's on the list so he shouldn't complain! 

Right before the interview, Sheryl Sandberg, the woman who wrote the book Leaning In, texted to tell Mrs. Nooyi that she was doing a great job of "leaning in." She has the applause of the feminists, but not the applause of her family. Whose applause matters most to you? Stop believing the lies society is shouting at you. Look into God's Word for directions on how a godly woman should live her life. {I Peter 3:1-6; Titus 2:3-5; I Timothy 5:5-14}

For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God.
John 12:43

*You can watch the whole interview HERE.

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That's just sad! To be willing to sacrifice your family and relationships for a job, it's just pathetic. Nothing praiseworthy about it. Thank you for the post.
1 reply · active 499 weeks ago
Unfortunately, MANY women in our society are doing this. The number of stay-at-home mothers continues to dwindle. 3 out of 10 mothers in America stay-at-home and we wonder why our families are falling apart.
http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2014/beyond-bls/stay-...
"They also indicate that the rise in the proportion of mothers who stayed at home (29%) will not likely continue because most mothers surveyed would like to work part-time or full-time."
Amazing. She knows she's gypped her family and doesn't care. Very selfish.
2 replies · active 499 weeks ago
She believes her career is more important than her family. She made her choice.
Indeed. It brings to mind this quote:

If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much.
- Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
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HappyHomemaker · 499 weeks ago

How sad for her husband and children, it just break their hearts to know they come after her job.
1 reply · active 499 weeks ago
She doesn't seem to care. Many women who work do it because they like to work outside of the home.
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Lady Virtue · 499 weeks ago

"She told him he should be happy he's on the list so he shouldn't complain!"

Goodness, I could scarcely believe what my eyes were seeing when I read this. The Bible does indeed contain all that is necessary for a lady to live godly. I didn't watch the interview, but it sure doesn't seem that Mrs. Nooyi knows the Lord. If that's the case, I pray she gets right with God and her family before it's too late.
1 reply · active 499 weeks ago
Unfortunately, Lady Virtue, many Christian women are doing the same thing to their husband and children. I'm just not sure they'd be able to articulate it as well as Mrs. Nooyi did.
I always feel so sorry for people like this who really seem to have their priorities out of order. It makes me sad whether it's a man or a woman (your spouse and children should ALWAYS matter more than your career in my opinion) but especially to see a woman go so against what she's been created for. I honestly think she'll regret it someday and I hope when she does it isn't too late to make a change.
1 reply · active 499 weeks ago
You'd think she already regrets it with comments like, "I die with guilt." It's not a very good way to live and certainly not worth the sacrifices her family has had to make. Children don't care about having a lot of stuff; they want their mother.
This is sickening. :(
Nobody has mentioned that even more egregious is the fact that PepsiCo has teamed up with a marketing firm that has been linked to using fetal cell lines for research. Hence, why many (including us) boycott products from PepsiCo and its affiliates.
1 reply · active 499 weeks ago
So not only is this woman casting all her real treasures aside, she is doing it and devaluing the lives of others?! She hasn't gained anything but lost everything. :(
Yes, I saw this interview when it aired, and couldn't believe her comments! Very sad. I'm the mother of adults, 2 sons (one married), and a daughter. And as the mother of a married son, I just felt sad at the very idea that my son would matter so little to his wife...my prayers are with this neglected and disrespected man.
I know you have had other people say similar things, but I am a preschool teacher at a Christian school and this week was our first week of the school year with new students. You would be heartbroken to see the amount of kids who scream for 30 minutes after their mom leaves, or hang onto the fence crying after mom drives off. The sad thing is our school has preschool through high school and about half of our staff have kids who attend here. The little girl who has screamed for 30 minutes every morning this week, her mom is a teacher here and is just across campus in her classroom. I know all these people think they're doing such a great thing "having it all" working where their kids attend school, and "successfully juggling" kids and work, but I'm here to tell you I think their kids would disagree.
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Carrion Flowers · 499 weeks ago

Some people have different priorities and some people value their job more than their families. It's merely another form of someone putting their own wants and needs and desires over that of their children and people like that really shouldn't have had children. I've seen this to the extreme degree and it never fails to twist my stomach into knots.
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Carrion Flowers · 499 weeks ago

I know I wrote more. You know I wrote more. I stand by my perspective that it's unfair to point to all working women and cry that they are always the selfish ones because they work when I know from personal experience that SAHM's are more than capable of the same poor set of priorities: "me first! oh me!". Being a self-centered person doesn't have anything to do with employment status. It's not working that is bad, it's when someone values their job over the people they brought into the world. f someone is only able to consider their own needs, wants and desires as the only valid ones in their life, they really shouldn't have kids. I mean it. Kids have their own needs, wants and desires to be met and respected, after all, and I hate to see the young suffer because they happened to be born to a selfish jerk or a family of selfish jerks. Especially if said selfish jerks also happen to be inclined towards cruelty. THAT is what twists my stomach into knots.
Many of us who do work don't think like this at all, most women don't . We do put our families first and don't work long hours so home on time to cook healthy meals etc ... And when our families need us, they have our attention. This woman heads a multi national company whereas most women are much nearer the bottom of the work pile. I wouldn't work for a company that demanded all my time, women who work need to choose carefully and wisely.
My heart aches for her family. Will she still have them when her job ceases? No job is worth what she is doing. I don't envy her when she has to give an accounting to our Heavenly Father about her choices.
We must pray for her and her family.
Linda
I am so perplexed. If a woman works outside the home before she has children, she and her husband have a decision to make when she has her 1st baby. What is to be your priority as it cannot be both. Will you care for and nurture your husband and family or will you put your managers needs 1st. That decision will have ramifications for generations to come. If you work outside the home who will make nutritious meals for your family? Who will educated and love the babies? Who will have your husband's ear? Who or what will be a the centre of your home? I cannot understand how society cannot understand the vital importance of mothers in the home. Let Christian mothers be the example of biblical womanhood.
Just watched the clip of Mrs. Nooyi explaining her "coping mechanisms" and "priorities" while laughing through the entire thing. During her dialog, the audience is also laughing. There is nothing amusing about this and it breaks my heart.

Lori, I appreciate you bring this to light and plan to share the video and your post with my 14-year old daughter.

Blessings to you,
Martha

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