As many of you know, we heard Michael Pearl
teach Hebrews over ten years ago for a week. During one of his times of
teaching, he told us that pornography was going to separate the wheat from the
tares; those who truly love the Lord and His ways and those who don't. It is so easy to have access to it, at the click of a mouse, and those
who aren't saturated in the Word of God and love Him deeply will be easily
deceived by it and allow it to control them. Sexual immorality is the one sin
that the Bible tells us to FLEE from. Ephesians 5:5 states, “For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person,
nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of
Christ and of God.” Pearl told us that “whoremongers” are those who
seek after whores {pornography} since all those people in porn are whores. Read this sad and
scary statement from Josh McDowell on pornography. Here are a few comments from the article in italics.
What the Internet has done is it has made
pervasive and intrusive not just sexuality but pornography. Pornography is the number one
threat to the cause of Christ, five times greater than anything historically in
the last 2,000 years. It's the greatest threat to young people, the greatest
threat to marriage, the greatest threat to family, the greatest threat to
pastors, oh, the greatest threat to youth pastors—this pervasive pornography on
the Internet. And most people don’t realize. It’s five times greater than
anything the church has ever faced in history, and it’s destroying kids right
now.
Just an example, finances
have always been the number one reason for divorce. Now, 60%
of divorces for Evangelical Christians is pornography. Right
now there are over five million pornographic websites. With my smart phone
right here, I can access within three seconds, just one click away, 1.2 billion
pages of pornography.
But exhort one
another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through
the deceitfulness of sin {Hebrews 3:13}. When someone’s heart becomes hardened,
they are in danger of no longer believing in the God who created them. I know
of couples where the husband doesn’t want to have sex with his wife since he is
so involved with porn. It is devastating to marriages, but worse than this is
that the husbands are in danger of walking away from their faith and spending
eternity in hell. This is far worse and Satan is having a field day with the
easy access to porn.
Just skimming
through AOL news, many of the articles that it tries to get you to read go
something like this; “Click on here to see so and so almost naked…” {Not in those
exact words but close.} Everything is to try and get men especially, and women,
to lust. Many commercials are the same. Women easily sell their soul in order
to dress immodestly to turn men on.
Now, I don’t
believe Christians should be getting divorced over porn. The Bible states that
wives who are married to disobedient husbands {such as looking at porn} should
be in subjection to them with godly behavior and win them without a word. Even
if you are furious with him, you don’t want him to spend eternity in hell. The
Lord just may use your transformed life to win your husband to Him. Before you get on your high horse about being morally superior to your husband, just as they fight the monster of porn, you fight the monster of feminism and having control. Ask for forgiveness every time you disrespect him or try to take control. Stay as far away from any trace of feminism as you can. Don't allow it to pollute your soul. Be an example of Jesus' righteousness to your family and this is possible since His Spirit lives in and through you.
We have the means to fight this battle. It is a spiritual battle so fight it with the spiritual weaponry that the Lord directs us to fight it with.
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of
his might.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Ephesians 6:10, 11
Lady Virtue · 451 weeks ago
Thanks Lori and have a great day!
Lori Alexander 122p · 451 weeks ago
Lady Virtue · 451 weeks ago
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Ken · 451 weeks ago
I find that many men give up on their disrespectful or difficult wife, preferring to go what they see is the road of "peace," and then justifying the sin of porn in their own minds as a result of their unenjoyable wife. This has been a past pattern. The new pattern is young men already addicted to porn when they get married and not finding real sex with their wife as enjoyable as self-sex with a magazine or tv picture or video. It's a sad thing to have to counsel a couple in these circumstances, with a wife who desires to be respectful, but a husband who admits to being hooked, and not finding his attractive wife as attractive as his virtual realities.
Certainly we agree that any rampant violation in the church of God's design will destroy the church and both sins appear to be increasing, not subsiding. Is not blaming a disrespectful wife a bit like saying to God, "That woman you gave me.... it's her fault?" Does not a man have to stand for his own sins and maintain his family unit even when a wife is difficult and disrespectful?
Tough issues, and Satan is deceitful enough to use them both to destroy the church. Have not many wives been disrespectful since the beginning of time? And the sexual nature of a man the thing that leads him into his gravest sins.
Valeria · 451 weeks ago
As an unmarried woman, though, what concerns me is this: since it is often a secret addiction how can I know if a boyfriend has an addiction (or struggles with this)? How can I talk about it? I don't want to discover this type of addiction after marriage and I would want a boyfriend to feel comfortable enough to discuss his struggles with me, but it is such a sensitive topic...
Lori Alexander 122p · 451 weeks ago
Monica · 451 weeks ago
"It is devastating to marriages, but worse than this is that the husbands are in danger of walking away from their faith and spending eternity in hell."
Are you saying that salvation can be lost? Could you clarify this for me please?
Lori Alexander 122p · 451 weeks ago
Mary Beth · 424 weeks ago
this post means so much to me. at the moment my husband is currently addicted to porn and has asked me to do things in our marital bed that i am not comfortable with because i was taught that only certain things should be done in the bedroom.
please, Lori, wha would be a good thing to say or do so i can get my husbands attention off of pornography and back to the Lord. thank you,
Mary Beth