Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Should We Correct Those with Wrong Beliefs?


Dennis Prager has said repeatedly on his radio program that before young adults attend universities, they understand the differences between males and females, but upon graduating they no longer understand the difference. This is becoming a sad reality but unfortunately, it's not only in universities now since elementary school children are being taught this foolishness. Now, people can decide what they want to be and no one should tell them otherwise.

Watch this short short clip from a 5'9" white man who tells college student that he is a 6'5" Chinese female. It's unbelievable that these students are willing to allow this man to continue believing what he wants to believe even though it is not the truth. The author of the article wrote, "Society has bought into the notion that leaving people alone with their beliefs is the loving choice, as long as they don’t harm others with those beliefs. Oh the irony! Could anything be more insidiously unloving than knowing someone has wrong beliefs that could be personally harmful, yet prioritizing silence as long as no one else gets hurt?"

In the same way, I get scolded by Christians for teaching women to be submissive to their husbands and that mothers should be home full time caring for their children. People have called me harsh and unloving for doing this but nothing is better for civilization then God's ways.  My marriage began to thrive when I became submissive and obedient to Ken. I had been believing a lie that we could somehow have a great marriage if he did everything the way I wanted him to do it. Thankfully, it was finally pointed out to me that I was believing a lie and it has radically changed our marriage for good. I have seen truth change many marriages for good by teaching this to women.

Many women believe the lie that their children won't suffer if they work outside of the home. They have been breathing the feminist air for their entire lives. Studies have proven what God has clearly stated in His Word what is best for children: mothers being home with them full time caring, training, and disciplining their own children. I don't care if these things offend women. Many women have told me they have been offended by my words but later realize that the Lord's ways are right. Of course they are since He created us and gave us a fabulous instruction manual to follow. 

Instead of allowing others to believe in lies and walk on a path to destruction, be bold and willing to teach others the right way to live and to walk. We are commanded to speak the Truth in love, not be silent when someone wants to believe something contrary to God's Word. Explain to them that submission and obedience to a husband doesn't lead to abuse but to a good, solid marriage. Tell them how secure and emotionally stable children are who are raised with a mother home full time. Many in our culture are believing lies about themselves and who they want to believe they are when they are not. Don't sit quietly by and watch them sink lower into depravity. Make sure you tell them about your Savior who has saved you from your sins and from eternal damnation, so they might know Him too. Stop listening to the lies in our culture and dig into the Book of Life; our instruction Book from the Lord Himself.

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.
2 Timothy 4:3, 4

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Happy Wifey · 450 weeks ago

Thank you Lori, I never feel comfortable confronting any one on their beliefs as I feel I don't know what they are going through or battling in their lifes. One time in a woman's metting our Pastor told us to never speak into someone's life unless you already have invested time and care into their relationship. Do you agree?
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1 reply · active 450 weeks ago
The Bible doesn't say to only exhort those who you have invested time and care into their relationships but I don't believe people should go around rebuking people all the time. I heard a wise man say if you are rebuking people more than once every other month, you're doing it too much since it can come across as simply being critical. God does command older women to teach the younger women but in my life, I mostly wait for the younger women to come to me who want to learn from me. I don't intend to force my opinions on others but I sure try to hint to young women in my life that I meet, acquaintances, and friends. I will try to do it in a subtle way as not to offend.

For example, if I am talking with a pregnant young woman, I will try to carefully slip in how important it is for children to have their mothers with them full time. One time I was in a small Bible study group and we were sharing about ourselves and one woman said her and her husband always argued. I didn't know her at all but I went up afterwards to her and explained to her that she didn't need to argue with him. She could just stop since it takes two to argue. She came up to me a few months later and told me how much that little simple advice helped their marriage. There are many ways to speak truth to others without them feeling you are rebuking them!

There have been many times in my life that I have done this with women that I have just met when it concerns marriage and children and by far the majority of the times they appreciate it. A few haven't but all we are required to do is to plant seeds of truth in other's lives.
Proverbs 9:7-9 instructs us on this. So does Proverbs 23:9. We should direct our words toward those who will listen and profit from them.

Happy Wifey, I've heard a similar instruction. The relationship needs to be established first, and then words are likely to be accepted (and you will have more wisdom on how to best deliver the message). I've also heard the phrase "words from the heart enter the heart".

Above all, we are commanded to love others as we love ourselves. This has to be the foundation. It's not enough to declare "I'm only telling you what you are doing wrong because I love everyone and don't want your soul to suffer". We actually need to demonstrate that love, clearly and sincerely.
1 reply · active 450 weeks ago
Karen, I don't tell women in real life "you are wrong" but I try to plant seeds of truth in most women I meet, even if I am with them for a few moments. Many times we don't know who will listen unless we open our mouths and speak truth. At the grocery store, I will try to slip in a Bible verse or direct them to the Lord in some way. How will they hear if Christians aren't willing to be vulnerable and speak truth to everyone we meet?
I have the same concerns as Happy Wifey. I personally believe that a woman is to be a keeper of the home, that her focus and her ministry should be her husband and children. However, I have the benefit of having a husband who believes the same. I don't see in Scripture that the keeper of the home mandate changes within a woman's lifetime to be outwardly focused. So, with the Titus 2 mandate to older women to teach the younger, it seems to me that those younger women should be the ones that are in the older women's home. (their daughters, granddaughters etc.) I don't see Scriptural justification for me to tell/teach women what is best for their families-especially in areas that are not sin areas. For example-the Bible does not forbid a woman to work outside the home, it does not forbid a family from sending their children to public school etc. If I use my personal interpretations on those areas that are not specifically addressed, I run the risk of planting seeds of doubt and resentment between a young woman and her husband. If her husband has decided he wants his wife to work and send their children to school, what business is it of mine to go start telling that young woman what she should be doing? or causing her to believe her husband is wrong? I have seen very specific examples of this happening within the church. Women who consider themselves to be Titus 2 women, going from family to family, inserting themselves in the name of teaching and causing strife between happily married, God-loving couples. These sorts of concerns kind of go along with some of the posts you've done in the past on women teachers etc. Maybe my view of Titus 2 is too narrow-maybe you could do a future post outlining the scriptures and your interpretations of them that you feel point towards older women focusing their teaching on young women outside the direct responsibility of those within their own homes/families?
2 replies · active 450 weeks ago
There is nothing in the Word that defines who these younger women are to be, except believers. Therefore, older women should be teaching younger women whatever vehicle they have to teach them since many are either hungry for it or need it and few older women have the time or want to teach younger women. I teach women that children need their mothers home full time and many women have told me they simply gave it to the Lord, make a respectful appeal to their husbands, and were eventually able to come home. I teach enough submitting to, obeying, pleasing, and respecting husbands that women know this is a priority and if they know they should be home full time, they cast their cares upon the Lord.
I think older women teaching should start with those of their own household but I don't see where it should end their. It has been so very hard for me to find Godly, older women who teach. I would probably struggle with resentment if the only ones capable of doing so limited their teachings to their own families. I want to learn too.
Your post have helped my marriage on submissiin to my husband. My kids do attend school. This is what my husband wants for our family. That's ok with me. It has not hurt our marriage at all. He is the head of our home. I would like to homeschool but that is ok. The Lord honors our obedience to our husbands and protects us. You teach for wives to be in submission to our husbands that the word of God be not blasphemed. I think Titus 2 is simple to understand. I do not say this to stir up strife . That is my opinion. I think you teach truth to help older and younger women. Maybe some women can't be home with their children. God knows the heart . If we trust and obey him he will guide and protect us.
Even though we're told to correct one another in Proverbs, I cannot seem to do it. This is probably because I'm 22 and I don't feel comfortable correcting older people (unless it's something computer-related).

I cringe whenever I hear someone say something that I know for fact is incorrect and I feel helpless.
2 replies · active 450 weeks ago
"Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." (1 Timothy 5:1) If they are older, Ash, entreat them as if they are your mothers which means do it with respect and honor.
Aww! I knew there had to be scripture on this, Lori. Thank you!
But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. (Hebrews 3:13)
Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and EDIFY ONE ANOTHER, even as also ye do(1 Thessalonians 5:11)

I think both of those verses give us plenty of not just permission but exhortation to say something when we see other believers making wrong choices. And especially if the Lord has personally worked on that area in our own lives, we are obligated. Yes, we may not know the circumstances, but that also means that they may just be ignorant and not going through something. As Lori said, we never know when something will be used to help or encourage someone. And if the Holy Ghost is prompting us, we better do it!!! I think most of the time, it's not that they're going through something, it's just that they are ignorant, or disobedient and the offence comes in because they just aren't doing right. And if we talk to them and find out that they are going through something, or their husbands aren't allowing them to do it, we can offer them Scriptural advice, and pray for them. But we can't do that if we don't say anything. In our society, we have the agenda of our age crammed down our throats CONSTANTLY, and we are just supposed to keep our mouths shut because it might offend someone? I don't think so. And that's certainly not what Christ did.

P.S.- I am a 21 year old that has only been saved for about five years. If I am doing wrong, or believing wrong, I would certainly hope that someone, especially someone older and wiser, would pull me aside and say something. As my Mamaw says, if someone we know is driving down the road and the bridge is out and we know and they don't, wouldn't we say something instead of thinking, 'Well, they know how to drive!'?

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