Working Outside the Home to Be a Role Model For Her Children

A couple in Britain makes a decent income with both of them working full time. They have two children with one on the way. They have no extras to go on dates or vacations but spend a hefty portion of their earnings on child care. “Financially, it doesn’t make a lot of sense for me to be working, but I wish to be a good role model to my children and don’t want Alex to shoulder all the burden.” For another couple who are squeaking by on two incomes; “Childcare is the big drain: more than a third of our earnings goes on paying our childminder to look after the boys three days a week.”

Neither of these couples live extravagantly. They shop carefully yet can hardly make ends meet. A third couple makes a great income together but their childcare also takes a huge sum from their income. “Some people might wonder why we need two cars, but they’re essential for us to be able to get to work and nursery (child care).” All three couples say they are broke and are forced to borrow from family.

If each of these mothers came home, sold their second car (cars are very expensive to maintain and insure) and took their children out of all day care, they can easily afford to live on one income. However, what I want to specifically address is the statement, “I want to be a good role model to my children…” I have read and heard this statement before. Mothers work even though they don’t want nor need to so they can be good role models for their children.

What are they modeling for their children as they leave them in the care of strangers each day? Their jobs are more important than they are. Having someone care for them who is a stranger is more important than their own mother being the one to care for them. Money is more important than they are to their mothers. They are unimportant since their mothers don’t want to be with them all day. This is what they are modeling to their children and they are all negatives in a child’s mind.

What are mothers afraid of? That the glass ceiling women broke through will not mean anything to their children? That their children will grow up to be lazy bums and won’t want to do a thing? Or possibly, their daughters may choose to stay home and raise their own children since this was modeled to them? Would this be so terrible? In the eyes of today’s culture, yes, it would be terrible.

Instead, mothers are willing to sacrifice their time with their precious children to work for strangers every day not knowing that because they have decided to do this their children have a much greater risk of growing up to be insecure and emotionally unstable. They will have a more difficult time bonding with others. This is a mighty steep price to pay to be a role model to their children.

Now, our government wants to pay for childcare to make it easier for mothers to work instead of encouraging mothers to be home and care for their own children. The idiocy of it all is astounding! Then the one mother says she wants to continue working so the burden won’t fall on her husband’s shoulders. They have proven, after looking at all of their expenses, that it makes no sense to pay for childcare and they would actually save money if the wives didn’t work!

Stop falling for the lies of this culture and the enemy of your soul, women. This is who is behind the entire masquerade. He doesn’t want mothers at home raising their children. He knows how important it is for the children and if he can steal the children, he has won. Your children need you! They want you and only you! You are irreplaceable to your children. Go home and stay there. Your children will benefit for a lifetime for this simple choice you make and one day will praise you for it. There is no place like a home with the mother in it. She is the heartbeat and warmth of the home. She beautifies it and keeps it running smoothly. Home is where a mother belongs.

He makes the barren women to keep house 

and be a joyful mother of children.

Psalm 113:9