Friday, August 5, 2016

The Importance of Kitchens


“It’s difficult to know what counts in this world. Most of us count credits, honors, dollars. But at the bulging center of midlife, I am beginning to see that the things that really matter take place not in the board rooms, but in the kitchens of the world.” (Gary Sledge)

I am sure you have noticed that all of the ideas and goals that feminism holds dear are completely opposite of what the Lord holds dear. Feminism has taught women to value self, selfishness, and money over valuing others, servanthood, and children. They wanted to get mothers out of the home and God wants mothers in the home.

Yet, too many mothers are no longer in their homes and kitchens often, including Christian mothers. Many spend their time working outside of their home or occupy themselves on the nonessentials of life, instead. Even many stay-at-home mothers don’t spend much time in their homes. Homes should be places of nourishing the mind, body, and soul. It is the greenhouse for children and most of their habits, characteristics, and disciplines or lack thereof are learned and formed in the home.

It is in the kitchen that nourishing food should be fixed by the mother of the home for what they prepare for the family to eat determines what kind of health a family will have. If a mother takes the time to shop for food as close as possible to the way the Lord created it and fixes it in a way that is appetizing for her family, she will be doing one of the most important jobs of being a wife and mother.

Reading and studying of the Word should be happening around the kitchen table along with prayer before eating. Conversation should be challenging, exhorting, and encouraging with your children to train them up in the ways of godliness. They should always have a good defense for their faith and ready to answer every man for questions that may arise. Right and wrong should be clearly taught, along with all of the fruits of the Spirit. Godly parents will want to use the short years they have with children under their roof to prepare them for a culture that lives completely opposed to biblical principles.

Home is a place where minds should be sharpened by mothers who won’t allow their children to vegetate in front of some screen all day but instead is reading to their children often and teaching them how to read. Wholesome reading should be encouraged in the home as they grow older and the love of good literature, especially the Bible, ought to be a priority since it develops the mind, creativity, and knowledge.

If you have paid close attention, you can see how the enemy of our souls is destroying this nation by destroying the homes. You, mothers, have a large part with whether or not their home is destroyed since the wise woman builds up her home and the foolish one tears it down. Learn to become content at home as the Apostle Paul had to learn to be content; for godliness with contentment is great gain. Count your many blessings for a cheerful heart comes out of a thankful heart. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things but make a big deal out of the big things: faith, marriage, children, and home.

Chose you this day whom you will serve 
but as for me and my house, we wills serve the Lord.
Joshua 24:15

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No matter where I've lived, the kitchen has always been my favorite room in the house. That was true of everything from the excellent kitchen in my parents' house to the tiny, cramped kitchen of the apartment my husband and I first moved into. There are just so many ways to express love and servant hood in the kitchen whether it's making dinner for my husband, cooking for a new mother or ill church member, baking for a celebration...there are just so many ways. I've never seen a reason to get offended at the idea that a woman's place is the kitchen. I love my place in the kitchen!
1 reply · active 450 weeks ago
Thank you for your beautiful comment, Taylor! The kitchen is the heart of the home but is sadly forsaken in many homes today.
Beautifully written Lori! :) I couldn't agree more! :) The kitchen is the *gathering room* of the home! :) I am so grateful for my role as a homemaker, wife, and mother. It is a great prayer of mine that more and more women will come to embrace the roles God made for them! :)
1 reply · active 450 weeks ago
It's a wonderful and important prayer, Katy. Thank you!
I have never read the book "A Homemade Life" by Molly Wizenberg, but I love this quote from it: "When I walk into my kitchen today, I am not alone. Whether we know it or not, none of us is. We bring fathers and mothers and kitchen tables, and every meal we have ever eaten. Food is never just food. It's also a way of getting at something else: who we are, who we have been, and who we want to be." Thank you Lori, for posting about the importance of the kitchen in the Christian home.
1 reply · active 450 weeks ago
You're welcome, Vicki, and I love the quote. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Lori, thank you for this post, it is beautiful and truth is like a cold drink of water on a hot summer's day. I have a question about something coming up in the near future - the school season and with it winter. Here the winters are very long and bitterly cold. There is opportunity to play outside for short amounts of time, though the wind can be terrible. We own a lot of board games and play them, a lot of books, puzzles, and activities that promote life skills like handyman or handicrafts. We have 7 children, I stay home and home educate them, we live in a 3 bed 1 bath single wide mobile home. I think we are doing well, but a few ladies have told us we have too much stuff for our space, but none of these have more than 2 children. We watch 1 movie per week, and don't actually own any of our own, just what we can find on the computer that seems decent. Now after all that background, my two fold question: 1. Is there a list somewhere or could you post one of wholesome, family centered, interesting movies - most of those we have found fitting have been made before the 80's - that would serve as conversation starters & teaching times? 2. How does one serve the interests & gifts of several children, teach them, train them, prepare them for life, yet appear to be minimalist in a small home? I know it can be done, as there have been many women of the past with more children than I who lived in a cracker jack box house and made it work. I am content where we live and with what God through my husband"s sweat has provided, but it is like a continual puzzle. Can you help?
2 replies · active 450 weeks ago
Books you can get at a library for free, same with movies. Board games pare them down to just the favorites, same goes with the activities. I have friends who live in a 3 bedroom trailer, one bedroom is smaller than our walk-in closet, I don't know how you fit 9 people in your trailer.
You can also raise everyone's beds and add storage underneath (under bed storage containers work great). But being a minimalist is getting by with less.

Do you have Netflix? There a lot of Christian movies on there and not from the 80s.
Thank you for your suggestions, Ann. I am glad for you that you have access to a good library, that is a true blessing from God. Our library is major on computer games, but has systematically gotten rid of most of the books for children that are wholesome, replacing them with the 'new classics' that are absolute trash. There are even comments in our local newspaper often about how 'aggressively progressive' they are. We have requested certain books through them and those requests are never granted. Their movies are mostly in the 'adult' section meaning rated PG 13 and higher. You are right about the bedrooms being very small. My husband has built custom bunks to maximize the space below as there isn't enough room for a bed, dresser and shelf. I want to get by with less, but be balanced as well, giving my children life skills. Thanks again for your suggestions, I will see how I can tweak them for our particular situation.
I loved this and needed every word. God bless you!

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