Women Have a Tendency to Be Lazy and Gossip

Did you know it is human nature for women to be lazy and go from house to house? “And withal they learn to be idle, wandering from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things they ought not” (1 Timothy 5:13). Women don’t want to stay at home but be out and about continually being away from the home and finding entertainment, a career and fulfillment instead of being where the Lord has called them to be. Do you see that the root of feminism is against God’s plan for women? Its entire mantra was to get women out of the home and it has accomplished what it set out to do.

This verse in Timothy was written long before cars were even invented so you can see how much easier it is for us to be away from the home than those in past generations. When the women left their homes, they could only go to their neighbor’s home. There they would gossip about others and tear their reputations apart. Now, with the advent of cars, Facebook, and twitter, it’s easy to leave our homes and spend it either pursuing careers, the malls, or wasting our time on the Internet.

What does God say about all of this? “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” This should be your goal in life, women. Godliness with contentment in the home is a beautiful, God-ordained role for us. How do you find contentment in the home while raising children all day when everything in our culture is screaming at you to find satisfaction outside of the home and be seekers of pleasure rather than seekers of God? It’s a decision you must make. Everything comes down to our thinking and controlling our thoughts: “I chose to find contentment in raising my children, being a help meet to my husband, and keeping a neat and tidy home.” If you are busy with all of these things, you won’t have time to continually seek pleasure and being entertained. “And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2).

Make a conscious decision every day that your home and family is where you will spend your time and be content. You don’t need to be busy with all kinds of activities that keep you away from the home. If you decide that you do indeed want to be godly and content, you must make a commitment to knowing the Word of God to learn what godliness looks like and you will “learn” as Paul said he had to do (Philippians 4:11) in order to be content being busy in home.

I learned to be content at home many years ago because of my health. God uses our trials and suffering for good. Now that you know that these are exactly what the Lord wants from you, learn how to do this. All it takes is a desire and commitment to godliness and contentment. Limit your time on the Internet. Make sure the jobs the Lord has given you in the home are attended to first before seeking to be entertained.

What about “speaking about things they ought not?” Women are good at being critical and judgmental of others. There is one person in my life who I am close to and I have never heard them say a bad word about anyone. They don’t have judgmental thoughts, either. They simply accept people just the way they are. Everyone loves being around them. No one would ever have to worry about them gossiping or slandering them. It’s so easy to be critical and judgmental of others but instead, we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and refuse to gossip and slander others. Love thinks the best of others which includes our husbands. As soon as a negative or critical thought comes into your head about someone, remind yourself that you are to dwell on the good and lovely about others and think more highly of them than you do yourself. Remember, love bears all things, hopes all things and endures all things.