Monday, October 24, 2011

Yep, He Adores Her!


Yes, I write about Alyssa and Jon a lot, but I have had many of you tell me how much you enjoy learning from my married children...

Alyssa believes Jon is such a great husband because he had an incredible example in his dad.  He also listens to Mark Driscoll a lot.  Mark is always encouraging men to stand up and be men.

Jon's mother, Lynette {I wrote a post about her awhile ago} is amazing.  She has that easy-going personality that everybody likes.  She never argues or demands her way.  She is easy to be married to.

Ken and I were discussing the men we know that say that as long as the husband loves the wife as he should, they will have a great marriage.  Every single man that has said that to us is married to a Lynette type.

Alyssa said Jon treats her so well.  He still is crazy about her.  The sparks are still flying.  When she is in a bad mood and stays in bed in the morning instead of fixing him breakfast, he comes and kisses her all over her face and tells her she's beautiful.

I told her she has earned his adoration.  If she nagged, manipulated, and tried to control Jon like many wives do, I am sure Jon would not be so crazy in love with her.  He doesn't mind her emotional ups and downs, because he knows that her heart is for him.  She wants to please him.

She fails at times, so do I.  However, our husbands know that we want to do them good, not evil {Proverbs 31:12} and be a crown to them {Proverbs 12:4}.  We are learning to accept them just the way they are and love them that way.

So in my experience of mentoring, the women who are golden retrievers {like Lynette} know how to do marriage right, right from the start.  The rest of us {like Alyssa and I} needed to learn how to do it right.  But guess what, we learned!

Everything is possible with God!

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Phillipians 4:13

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Let me say that I absolutely love your web site. I read it nearly every day and it has really helped me (your marriage advice, specifically). Saying this, I know it is your blog and you probably know that not everyone will agree with you. This post is great. However, in regards to Mark Driscoll, a "real man" does not need to use profanity. A "real man" will live holy. The Bible says Be ye holy as I am holy. This is through the blood of the Lamb, not through works. Also, we are NEW CREATURES in Christ, old things passed away.
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Hi Chris,

I have listened to Mark Driscoll many times and believe he is a fabulous Bible teacher. I have no idea about him using profanity. I have never hung around him personally so I can't say whether that is true or not and I don't like to listen to speculations about others especially when it may be slander. I choose to believe the best in others. He preaches God's Word boldly and I love that about Him! He is not afraid to deal with sin and the issues that are affecting society. I can only see that he is doing a lot of good in this fallen society.

Blessings,
Lori
What a wonderful scoop of encouragement to my hungry soul. I love being married to my husband too and have found that these years with young ones underfoot have proven more difficult than the early days of easy love, just us two. But I keep thinking that having children has allowed me to grow, always learning, because I've recognized my intense need for Jesus to keep teaching me. When it's easy I find I can boast in my own abilities, but since having the third baby, I can only boast in Jesus as both wife and mother. Thanks for showing me that Always Learning is something to delight in.
This was such an encouraging post, loved it!
I love your blog and read it every day. I almost feel like I know you and your family. Thank you for this post. It came at a good time. I was feeling so down about the way things have been with my Husband and I. He Has been called away so often this summer. and reading this has given me a new breath.
Saw your link up at Heavenly Homemakers! Wanted to stop by to check out the blog! :) Have a great rest of the week :)
Cindy http://vegetarianmamma.blogspot.com
Stopping in from Blog bash - what a good post to read. My husband listens to driscoll often. My husband is an amazing man! I'm so thankful for him over and over b/c I fail often at not nagging or really being mean to him, but he forgives me so unconditionally. I do not deserve him, and I strive often to be the wife I'm supposed to be. I fail, but Richard is so merciful. I'm so thankful for him. he is such a good example of God's forgiveness to us. Thanks for this!
I must admit, I'm kind of jealous reading that. We have a good marriage, but it is definitely a bit, oh, "weathered" shall we say? I think I do a lot of good things for my kids, but should PROBABLY focus on ways to bless my husband more.
So amazing and right to the point! So true. I know my husband treats me AMAZING when I adore him and don't nag consistently. Great post, thank you for the reminder!

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