Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Bitterness Defiles Many


Did you know that if you are angry and bitter towards your husband, you are defiling your children?  However, if you are loving and kind to him, even if he doesn't deserve it, you are sanctifying your children.

Hebrews 12:15 states ~

Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.

There is is, right there!  If you are harboring bitterness towards your husband, you are polluting or making your children foul.  That is tough language.  Most mothers are very protective of their children, but if they realize what their behaviour is doing to their children, they just might change.  Bitterness is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.

I Corinthians 7:14 states ~

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

So if you are living a godly life {loving, accepting, and forgiving} in front of your husband and children, they are sanctified.  Jesus is living in their midst, because He lives in you.  Allow them to smell the sweet aroma of a life pleasing to the Lord, so they might be attracted to Him.

If you are bitter towards your husband and you don't know how to get rid of it, you need to work on changing your thinking.  Be transformed by the renewing of your mind {Romans 12:2}.  Meditate on His Word day and night and your thinking will change.  For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he... {Proverbs 23:7} and take into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ {II Corinthians 10:5}.

Life is too short.  Don't defile those around you, especially your children. Dwell on the lovely, the pure, and the good.  Think about the good in everyone else, especially your husband.  Be at peace with all men.

Alphabe-Thursday

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Yes. I pray that I would not defile him or my daughter. I am learning, by His grace. Thanks for this reminder. This is a good post for me to ponder tonight as I lay me head on the pillow!
Love this! Another encouraging post as always. Your blog title alone puts my mind at peace.
Lori this is a very timely post for me to be reading. I have been asking God a lot recently why He hasn't just "transformed" me. Of course in my mind I know that the answer is in His word and it's transforming power. Thank you for this sweet reminder.

Blessings,
Nicole at Working Kansas Homemaker
This is something I have been dealing with today. Talk about conviction. I am definitely going to be journaling about this post tonight and diving into the Word for guidance. Well said!
Wow, I think this post was written for me! I was frustrated with my husband last night and woke up with a lot of bitterness in my heart this morning towards him... and then I turn on the computer and read this with tears coming down my face.
"Bitterness is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die."

LOL I really liked that quotation. It is true.
I am not relating to the bitterness with my hubby right now, but all the verses you shared are speaking loudly to me in another area of my life where bitterness has found a home. Great post.
Excellent reminder! Thank you for sharing!
Great post!
Thank you for sharing this.
This post should give many people something to think about. I think we all need to be reminded of it. Thank you for sharing.
I love your emphasis on marriage. Our pastor said this morning there wasn't a marriage that couldn't improve. I take joy in learning new places I can improve.
Great post!! Thanks for all of the scripture.
Lori, I feel that a husband and wife who show bitterness towards each other are selfish and thoughtless toward their children. These little ones deserve to only know love and devotion between their parents so when they grow up and marry, they will express the same toward their husband or wife.
Very wise words!
Bitterness of any kind is poison to relationships...whether they're between husband and wife, parent and child, siblings or friends. It's hard to let go of resentments but it's so healthy to just do it. Great post!
I do believe that whatever you put out there comes back to you, for good or ill.

=)
You write beautifully. I like stopping by. You have brilliantly put together beautifully written Scripture to share your point of view. Thanks and have a blessed weekend.
Thanks!
This is such a thoughtful point.

I've never thought of it like this, but your observation is brilliant.

Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us.

You always make me think.

A+

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