Monday, April 9, 2012

Train Children To Work


My pastor went and visited this woman in a foreign country who adopts many children.  While he was visiting with her, there were six children in the home from three years old and up.  Every child was busy sweeping the floor, washing dishes, or doing something productive.  They all seemed very happy.

When my children were young, I would help in their classes at school.  One day, I had a small group and we were to find chores that the children did at home.  Not one of those children did one chore!  I would ask them if they made their beds or at least put their dishes in the sink, every single one said they didn't do anything around the house.

I love watching the Duggers on television.  They have 19 children and they have a buddy system where an older child is with a younger child helping them.  The older girls are in the kitchen cooking and the boys are doing outdoor chores.  They all seem very happy.

Elizabeth Elliot in her book Keep A Quiet Heart {which I heartily recommend} said that when she was raising her daughter with tribes in the jungle, all the children were busy working alongside their parents and as happy as can be.  Her daughter grew up enjoying working hard and the satisfaction that comes from that.

Work is good.  God created us to work.  We are raising a generation of lazy adults who feel entitled to everything even though they don't work for it. They sit around all day playing video games, watching television, and being unproductive.  This will lead to depression and dissatisfaction with life.

Teach your children to work with you at a very young age.  Emma helped me unload the dishwasher the other day.  I had her hand me the utensils.  I want to train her early to help.  She's 14 months old!  It is never too early.  They will grow up much happier and satisfied with life if they learn to work hard.

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not to men.
Colossians 3:23

P.S.  See, Steven works very hard!  On breaks from dental school, he feeds his little niece!

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I cannot believe how many children won't work. We raised our kids to do their share. It's part of being a family. I keep running into families where the children don't lift a finger. The parents think they are somehow sparing them, but they aren't at all. A good work ethic can help folks all of their lives. My family feels great accomplishment from all the things they are capable of doing. God made us to work. Great post!
My 2 year old LOVES to help around the house. Since he was about 12 months old he would help me dust. Then it moved on to vacuuming (his favorite), mopping, and putting his toys away. He also helps empty the dishwasher and brings me any bottles from his baby brother or random glasses that are in the living room. He is such a good helper and I love that about him!
I agree with you wholeheartedly. It's so good for a child to know that they are contributing to the family. If we are raising spoiled children, it's our fault.
I agree that children should have chores. My girls are expected to keep their rooms clean, help put away their laundry, set the table, and put away the clean dishes. It doesn't take away from their homework time or their play time, but they know they are contributing to our family. Mom and dad can't do everything.
Love this post. I'm grateful I helped around the house and that sorta prepared me. My younger sibling didn't and i can see how harder it is for them now that they don't have a maid. I wished I had more work though, and will so apply this with my children
I totally agree! Our boys have helped us do little things when they were very small, they thought they were helping even when sometimes they were getting in the way but we always allowed them to "help". Now they are 17 & 14 and are always willing to help out with whatever needs to be done. It's very aggrivating to know how many adults think the world "owes" them and they won't work.
I know this post was focused on children working with their families (presumably in the home) but I was wondering about your views on teenagers having part-time jobs outside the home? I grew up in suberbia and we had no tobe land worked or family business to help with, so even though I was given a regular chores from the time I was very young, by the time I was a teenager, I wanted something productive to do in the summers and helping my mom around the house just didn't fill all my time. I tutored younger students, babysat, worked at a local, family-owned market, and helped at my mom's friend's consignment boutique. Do you think its ok for teens (girls in particular) to work outside the home once they reach an appropriate age? I have read so many differing opinions by christian women on this subject and I was just wondering what your thoughts were.
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I think it is fine for teenage girls to work outside of the home. I try very hard not to be legalistic about anything. I think mothers with children at home need to be at home as much as possible to nuture their children, husband, and home properly. I was a waitress all through high school. Alyssa danced and toured with a Christian ballet company for many years before she was married. Cassi waitresses now. I see nothing wrong with this! It helps them go into marriage with some money!
Thanks! And that is awesome your daughter toured with a Christian ballet company?! I did ballet for 13 years and I never heard of such a thing.
Check it out ~ http://www.balletmagnificat.com/

If they are ever in your area, you should go see them. They are amazing!
I taught both my sons to maintain a house and to cook. This was both helpful to me with the chores, but it taught them how to look after their own homes. My eldest has moved out and can now look after a home and cook etc.. He is far better trained than his wife and therefore is teaching her these skills. At least I know they live in a very clear home and eat healthy food. I think it is very important to teach your children otherwise they don't have a clue when they leave home.
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I love the fact that you taught your sons to cook and clean. Men need to learn these skills too! My husband and I, are planning on teaching our girls to do yard work, change oil in a car, fix a flat, etc. There is no reason to stick to old fashion gender roles.
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Kathy Davis · 676 weeks ago

You are so right, I think this generation of kids have gotten so much given to them without anything being asked for in return they feel entitled to just that. We as parents don't do our kids any favors by giving them everything they want. I love reading your blog. I recently found it and it is filled with good Christian advice and I just want to thank you for sharing with us.
Well said! We appreciate everything more in life if we have earned it by work. I raised 3 children who all had chores and had ownership to our home. I am hopping over from Welcome Wednesday and am now following you on Linky Followers and would love a follow back. I am also participating in a Linky Followers Blog Hop on my blog you may wish to join:)
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I totally agree with you. It's so good for a child to know that they are contributing to the family. If we are raising spoiled children, it's our fault. My daughter at 8 loves to help me with anything around the house. She also is the first one to help daddy too. Builds character and teaches them good values.

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I have my children do chores and they think I'm running a slave camp. Lord forbid they have to empty the dishwasher more than once a week. My reply to them is we could "hand wash" all the dishes. Then if I really want to make them mad, I double check everything they do, "Micromanage" them is what my husband says I do but I say their children and if you don't make them do it right the first time, they will half way do it their whole life.

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