Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Pain Free Society


In reading Thriving In A Difficult Marriage, I read this comment, Unfortunately, we live in a culture that has the lowest tolerance for pain of any in history. Wow!  That makes so much sense why our society is such a mess!

People don't want to feel any pain so when they feel any physical pain whatsoever, they pop a pill. When they feel any pain emotionally, they try to deaden it with alcohol or drugs. They eat whatever they want, sleeping hardly at all, and barely getting enough exercise. They don't count the cost of what the drugs and lack of nutrition may cause in the future. They want immediate relief and pleasure NOW!

We have become a society of short term gain for long term pain. We won't do what it takes to be healthy now by eating right and exercising, but instead eat and do whatever we want then expect a free medical system to take care of us when we are suffering from our own lack of self control and discipline.

If people aren't happy in their marriage or if it isn't turning out like they thought it would, they get out. They divorce. {The exception being physical abuse.}  They don't want to put up with any pain, so they think leaving will get rid of the pain not realizing the pain the children and society will suffer from divorce.  Our society is great at running from pain.

If I swat my child's bottom and cause some pain or flick their cheek when they are nursing to stop them from biting me, I am told I am abusing my child. It matters not at all that this generation that isn't getting spanked is a much more undisciplined generation than prior generations that were spanked.  We refuse to spank our children and cause a small amount of pain, so they grow up to be undisciplined and rebellious.   

We are raising a generation of able-bodied people that feel entitled to money, food, and health care without working hard for it because, heaven forbid, they experience some pain that would motivate them to get out there and find work wherever they could and work for money to pay for food and medical care and not expect others to pay their way.

We give people 99 weeks of unemployment, so they have money for food and other things giving them no motivation to find work.  We end up with millions of unemployed people unmotivated to find work putting more and more strain on our working class and fragile economy.

Pain is not a bad thing! It is not sin and it is not evil. It is a great teacher. We have gone so far away from allowing pain that we are destroying our society with ill health, divorce, rebellious children, and an entitlement mentality nation. No pain, no gain!

There will never be perfection on this earth. Heaven will be pain free when we are all perfect but down here we are far from perfect and need pain to learn.  Pain develops character and many other good things like persistence and discipline. So don't be afraid of pain. Allow it to make you a better, more faithful, more hard working, and more disciplined person. 

How about short term pain for long term gain?

All chastening seems for the present to be not joyous but grievous; yet afterward it yields peaceable fruit unto them that have been exercised thereby, [even the fruit] of righteousness
Hebrews 12:11

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100% agree with you!!! I don't know if it's the society short attention span or what..SSAS???? : ) I think it's information overload and always thinking something better is around the corner instead of thinking what you have it perfect in many ways and too look for the joy. Nothing is absolute...there will be highs and lows...and what you do in the low periods really builds one's character and grace..I hope that is the truth for me anyway.
I read a statistic the other day that said the U.S. has the most confident students... and that they are among the poorest {academic} performers. This seems like an example of what you are saying. Parents have coddled a generation of kids to the point that they can do awful in school, but still think - and be told - they are great at what they do. What on earth does that accomplish?
You have that right. Even some of us (me) who should (and d0) know better, still have problems with this. It isn't easy to change.
I loved how this post tied together many aspects of life: physical health, employment, healthy relationships, etc. and found a common origin for many of our problems. Our inability to handle discomfort or see it as an incentive to change is the source of many problems we face today as a society. One point I wanted to expound upon that you made is the drawn out unemployment checks that people get. I think there is a serious problem with the argument that if the government doesn't give people who have lost their jobs indefinite funds that they will starve or end up homeless. Rather, cutting off government funding will do two very important things: it will give the unemployed incentive to get a job (any job) and it will also give churches, faith-based organizations, and community members the opportunity to step up and offer help when there is a legitimate need. When the government steps in to fulfill the role of the Church in taking care of widows, orphans, and the truly needy, both the government and the Church suffer.
Ohh, I so agree with you. My husband and I talk about this all the time. Our society has become so self-centered. The government schools "award" children for everything they do. It is not acceptable to just acknowledge the top achievers because that might hurt someone's self confidence. Parents think their children are always right no matter what. When one of my sons played baseball as a young boy the coach let the boys switch around positions every game because he didn't want someone to get their feelings hurt because they didn't get to play the position they wanted. Guess what, they lost every game. How's that for not hurting your self esteem? After years of parents coming to their rescue our children are growing up and crumbling in a society that doesn't do everything their way.

I stumbled across your blog some how and I am loving it.
Tammy
I was thinking of "instant gratification" not just avoiding pain. Technology (texting, FB), etc., just contributes to this.
Amen to that Sister! I could not agree more.
I think this post is very true. . .very wise and insightful. It will be a struggle when I have children, to raise them not to be so afraid of pain. However, i feel this is so important even though it is countercultural. The most successful people I know, both by God's standards but even by secular standards, have mastered this principle. Even for non-believers, it's just good common sense to realize that life is not supposed to be easy. Somehow many people in my generation (I'm 30) have lost sight of this. . .

grace,
Rebecca
What a good/sad post about society. I think we are also the most medicated nation on the face of the planet. Is it no wonder with all of the drug pushers (pharmaceutical companies) and their frequent ads in papers, tv, radio .. magazines bombarding us with 'ideas' about drugs to ask our doctors to prescribe blaring 24/7. People over encumbered in debt that are zombie-like with depression and suffering physical ailments. Families ... b.r.o.k.e.n with no one home to tend everyday life.

When our oldest son was young and played in a baseball league they started handing out trophies for EVERYBODY so no one felt left out. We are now reaping this 'self-esteem' movement that has led to mediocrity instead of exceptionalism.
I really enjoy this post...however I do know that in this economy, people who are looking for any kind of work are told they are "overqualified" for the job. When looking for a job to help alleviate our overwhelming debt burden, I was told by three different minimum wage part time jobs that I was overqualified. My husband was not given a job because the employer claimed "people with kids use them as excuses to never show up"...this at a gas station. Employers don't want people who truly want to provide for their families...at least in the retail/fast food sector.

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