Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Showing Off Your Body


If you choose to wear shirts that show off your boobs, you will attract boys. To be more specific, you will attract the kind of boys that like to look down girls’ shirts. If you want to date a guy who likes to look at other girls’ boobs and chase skirts, then great job; keep it up. If you don’t want to date a guy who ogles at the breasts of other women, then maybe you should stop offering your own breasts up for the ogling. All attention is not equal. You think you want attention, but you don’t. You want respect. All attention is not equal.  {Kate Elizabeth Conner}

Many places that you go these days, you see immodestly dressed women.  I love what Beth Moore teaches.  Immodest women are mean women.  They like to turn other women's husbands on.  That's mean.  Remember that the next time you desire to dress immodestly.

As Christian women, our desire in life should be to honor Christ in all that we do and say.  Pleasing Him should be our heart's desire.  He commands women to be modest.  Work on making yourself beautiful on the inside.  Work on being loving, warm, and friendly.  Be generous, helpful, and forgiving.  Love Jesus and serve others.

If you want to attract a godly man, develop these qualities in you.  These come from the fruit of the Spirit that lives inside of you.  Did you know that when you dress immodestly, you blaspheme the Word of God?  That means you speak badly of God's Word.  Don't you want to speak wonderfully of Him and His Word?  Dress modestly.

Yes, there are immodestly dressed women many places.  You, young men, can avoid a lot of these places and you can learn to bounce your eyes.  The Bible admonishes us to flee sexual immorality, so flee it.  Don't fool around with it.  You will get burned if you do and God knows what He is talking about.

So women, let your smile and joyful spirit attract others to you.  Let them see Jesus so brightly inside of you that they will be drawn to Him.  Men want to marry joyful and happy women...

Also I desire that women should adorn themselves modestly and appropriately and sensibly in seemly apparel, not with elaborate hair arrangement or gold or pearls or expensive clothing, but by doing good deeds...
I Timothy 2:9,10

Let it be the hidden woman of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
I Peter 3:4

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Oh Lori... I was at my office (job) today, and I was getting money out of the ATM. this woman/girl (age not sure of 20's, maybe even early 30's maybe?) Had the SHORTEST skirt I've seen in a long time. I'd say it came down to MAYBE 5" from her bottom. And then she had high heels on. lol i gave her props for wearing nylons tho. Now certain areas in our building have a relaxed dressed code.... I do know no dept allows a skirt that short. She tried to be all classy when she drop a quarter on ground... lol... just glad she didn't bend over!
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I could not agree more. Keep teaching the truth Lori. =)
So true. So sad that our culture is like the frog in the pot boiling away wondering what's wrong and yet the answer is right there. Very challenging when the images from all directions and also the styles (for young girls!) make it difficult to explain to young girls who want to fit in and be stylish. Well said, Lori.
In the last few years I have been a bridesmaid in several weddings. Almost invariably, we are asked to wear strapless dresses, halter tops dresses with deep V's, or at the very least tank dresses without sleeves. Is it just me, or has wedding attire over the last several years become more and more revealing? I am even amazed at how many brides, who know they will be the center of attention, choose to wear strapless dresses that are revealing at best. Apparently, "modest" has become a relative terminology that I have heard women use to describe dresses that I thought were anything but.
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I really like that part about what Beth Moore said and the beginning quote too. Sooo true and such an encouragement to dress modestly. Hey, those of us who are married can dress in less for our husbands, but we don't need to give it away to the rest of the world too. :)
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This is a topic I feel very strongly about. I was raised to believe that our bodies are sacred and should be treated as such. We are defiling our bodies by dressing immodestly. There is a lot of peace that comes by dressing modestly.
This is such a beautiful post! Thank you so much for sharing it!
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Such an important topic! I often wonder if these women have a mirror at home to see what they are showing the world every time they bend over or sit down. I already took Anatomy in school, I don't need reminders at the mall or grocery store!
So true! Another great post! And, I have an opinion that dressing modestly doesn't mean you have to dress frumpily (if that's a word) or out of style. I think it's refreshing to see women dressed in an attractive, current style but who have all their parts covered appropriately. Keep up the great writing, Lori!
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Thank you for this post, Lori! I'd never heard Beth Moore's take on women who dress immodestly, but she's right!! They're mean!

Every time I see a Christian girl pick a strapless wedding dress and the same for her bridesmaids, I am just *so* disappointed. I say strapless, since that is the most popular right now, but the same goes for low cut ones too. Does anyone know, why do Christian girls think this is okay???!!!!

Then there's the clueless women who wear high enough shirts when they are upright, but they are always bending way over (usually with kids) and showing everyone *everything*!! Try it out at home in front of the mirror - bend way over at the waist with your arms hanging down in front of you like you're reaching for something on the floor. Look in the mirror and you'll see what you'll be exposing to other people. There are two easy solutions - instead of bend over, lower yourself straight down by bending your knees into a crouch, or use one hand to hold your shirt from gaping open.
I remember telling a bunch of high school girls once that when they were those shirts and shorts to attract attention from a few certain boys, ALL the boys noticed. Then I paused and let that sink in a few seconds. Pretty soon there were expressions of revulsion from the girls as they thought of all the boys at the school. Somehow females often think wearing certain clothing will only attract the attention they want (which they probably shouldn't want, anyway), but it attracts a lot of various types of attention.
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I totally agree! In the South, we call this "showing the good china"...and you know your save the good china!

~joy!
Vicky @ sleeping in an unmade bed
Modesty is definitely something I am passionate about as a mid-20's something woman. Have been...always will be. One of the things that I come across when talking to some women about modesty is a thought process of "well...if I'm modest, I can't be fashionable and attractive."
So wrong. There's a huge difference between dressing attractively and dressing to attract. One of my favorite passages about women's beauty and modesty is from 1 Peter 3 where Peter admonishes women to not let their beauty be their outward adornment but their gentle and quiet spirit. I love that he doesn't say that hair adornments, jewelry and clothes are WRONG, it's just that what we wear should be an expression of, and flow from, and gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. Modesty is really a heart attitude of submission before Christ. Your heart will have to change before your clothes ever will.
My husband loves that I can dress attractively and modestly, and I enjoy being fashionable yet honoring to Christ, my husband and others at the same time. :)
Immodest women are mean women, ouch! I'll be sharing that with my teen girls on Wednesday.
I love what Beth Moore said there! God has really been placing the topic of modesty on my heart lately (not that I was necessarily immodest by the world's standards, but definitely needing to step up my game). I think it is sad that a lot of these places young men can avoid are in the church! Our youth group and even some girls in my groups dress very immodest- wearing very short shorts and skirts, etc. It is very frustrating! Thank you for your post. -Nicole @ Working Kansas Homemaker
This is a fantastic post! I work in a public high school and you would not believe the boobs I see all day long! Teen girls are falling right into the trap of sexy dressing!! It drives me bonkers!

I love what Beth says too. She's right. If you're broadcasting your body you must be looking for attention. And men that look are filling that need. Which in my opinion, is mean!
Here's a quote that I heard some time ago and I like it. “Your dresses should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show you're a lady.” -Edith Head
I teach in a large university and frequently have immodestly dressed young women in my classroom. However, I also have modest (and stylishly dressed) young women, and I hope they will talk with their less careful classmates. I believe many simply don't realize how low-cut or tight their clothing is. Others are so focused on their "right" to dress as they wish that they don't realize what they are giving up. I do my best not to judge anyone on the basis of outward appearance, but men are visual, and that is a fact. My father used to say don't dress as if you are selling something; you will attract buyers if you do.
Fantastic post! This is something we are constantly teaching our children about. We want our girls to dress modestly and be careful of the attention they seek, and we want our boys to learn to avert their eyes and be in control when someone around them is dressed inappropriately.
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I find this very inspiring, I love your point about being mean...so true! I am a Muslim woman, and just wanted to say thank you for sharing this!
Well said.
I recently saw something that said, " Dress how you want other women to dress around your husband!" Modesty is so very important!
Unfortunately, society plays a huge part with the "types" of clothing sold to and for women. The lack of self-esteem in younger girls seems to be a big reason for the scantly clad clothing. They want to be accepted and this is one way for them to feel accepted. People desire attention-I'm not saying that is good but it is what I witness every day in a middle school. Negative attention is attention. Just about every day, I want to call parents and ask them why they buy these clothes, for their girls in particular. Boys aren't much different with the wearing of muscle shirts and low drooping pants & yes, they do stare.
i agree with the point of the post and the comments. one thing i would add is that modesty has to do with more than clothing. attitude and behavior are important also.

"So women, let your smile and joyful spirit attract others to you. Let them see Jesus so brightly inside of you that they will be drawn to Him. Men want to marry joyful and happy women..."

wearing modest clothes but then attracting men with your smile and spirit is a problem, also. maybe even a bigger problem. would you rather your husband was lusting after a dime-a-dozen body or falling in love with someone's spirit? remember, too, that religious men will be attracted to religious women. vying for the attention of a man, whether he is thinking 'beautiful body' or 'beautiful spirit' is wrong, period.
Oh Lori, tt's getting WORSE too. I teach middle school, and it is just awful- It amazes me at what parents let their students walk out the door wearing. I actually had a cell phone with an antenna a few years ago, and I measured a skirt that was the same length top to bottom as my cell phone with the antenna pulled out.

I teach a SS class, and my girls always complain that there aren't cute modest clothes. I ask them if they think I dress cute, and they all thought so. I dress very modestly. I remind them that we aren't to be a stumbling block, and girls who dress in that way and desire that kind of attention aren't the kind of *ladies* that guys want to bring home to mom.

I wear lots of layers, cardigans, scarves, and camisoles. There is nothing more adorable to me than a flowy, cotton sun dress, cardigan, and fun accessories!

I feel very uncomfortable when I feel as if other men are "checking me out."
I will say though, I do wear a two -piece bikini. I don't parade around in it everywhere....i keep my cover up on all the time until I get to where I'm going to stay. And they're not string bikinis or anything. I don't wear a bikini in front of the youth of course...just when I'm with my husband at the beach or pool.

Great post. Loved how Beth Moore put it- they are mean women.
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