Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Getting The Milk For Free


Why should men marry women when they can get it for free?  This is a quote from Hamlet by Shakespeare, translated into understandable English ~

Young men will do it if they get a chance:
By God, they’re very bad.
She said, “Before you got me into bed,
You promised to marry me.”

He answers:
“I would have married you, I swear,
If you hadn’t gone to bed with me.”

Sleeping together before marriage is extremely prevalent even among Christians.  It is sin and you will suffer the consequences.  Everything God tells us to do is for our good.  There are probably so many men out there that don't want to get married because they don't need to...They get sex for free.  No responsibility. No commitment.

Maybe God gave men such powerful sex drives so they would get married.  Marriage is a very good thing ordained by God.  Societies are healthy when there are a lot of married couples with children.  God knows what He is doing.

People don't want to do things God's ways anymore.  They don't want to wait.  They want to do things their own way and society is paying a very heavy price...abortions, single mothers, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. 

Women, don't sell your virginity for free.  Wait for a godly man that will put a ring on your finger first and say, "I do" to a lifetime of commitment and responsibility.  Marriage matures people quickly.  Wait for a man that wants commitment and responsibility.

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.
I Corinthians 6:18

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
I Corinthians 7:2

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints.
Ephesians 5:3

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I wish I had fully understood the importance and value of virginity when I was a teenager. Now as a mother, I pray that I will be able to impress it upon my children.
Great message!
AMEN!!! God's ways are always best!
My husband and I had such a beautiful wedding night, and have a marriage without insecurities because we saved ourselves for each other. It was definitely hard to wait, but it was so worth it! :)
It was worth the wait!!! What we have is priceless! The excuse 'need to practice' is hogwash. The first time was so precious, and we marvel how it only gets better and better! We are each others one and only!
Good post! My husband and I were each other's first on our wedding night. When I tell my non-Christian friends this they just can't even comprehend it. It makes me so sad when I see girls freely giving all of themselves so easily to guys. They seem to think they have to have sex in order for a guy to love them, and they just tell me I was lucky that I found one that would marry me without having sex first. I can see the pain they go through by having sex so easily in relationships!
I also want to add that I think being naive about sex is a good thing! I didn't know A LOT, but it was fun to discover things together with my husband who loved me and had committed his life to me. I can't imagine the insecurities I would have felt if I hadn't discovered this through the safety and comfort of marriage!
My husband and I waited for each other and gave each other the precious gift of our virginity on our wedding night. I'm glad we waited until marriage. But so many don't. They don't even comprehend the idea. It's so sad that our society has become so promiscuous. One of the big reasons why fewer and fewer people are getting married and why so many are divorcing is that they don't understand the proper place of sex in marriage. Sex in marriage is designed to bond a husband and wife together as one for a lifetime. It connects two people physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
People in our society have denigrated sex to simply the physical. They miss out on all it was meant to be. Not only do they think it's nothing more than satisfying an itch, they don't see how wonderful being truly one in marriage is. They think married sex is boring (it's definitely not). As someone once said, "Satan's plan to destroy marriage was to get unmarried people to have sex and then get them to stop once they're married." The truth is that sex is a gift from God for the purpose of bonding a married couple together and to give a picture of the intimacy that the church has with Him. We need to get that message out there and back it up with wonderful, intimate marriages that are strong and show God's glory.
I can't remember where I found it, but I recently saw a statistic that only 20% of incoming college freshmen in the US claim to be virgins.
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i wouldn't trust statistics. i lied on a questionaire in high school because i was embarrassed about being a virgin and didn't want my classmates to know. these, then, become self-fulfilling statistics. i had one friend who made a new year's resolution to lose her virginity before her 16th birthday because that was the 'average' age when teenage girls first had sex. she couldn't bear to be a virgin for longer than 'most' girls.
WONDERFUL post!! Totally agree. Our country is paying the price for breakdown of families, young people not marrying, and low birth rates. It's one of the root causes of our economic problems as well. But you know this already. And, of course, God's ways are always perfect!
I'm a new follower, Mary Alice
Powerful post and I totally agree.
Visiting from At the Picket Fence,
Babs
The world does not even teach it is possible to wait until marriage!
While my husband was my first, it was before marriage...I was not his first. We suffered the consequences of our sins when we discovered I was pregnant. We were both unemployed and living with our respective parents. One of the things we chose to do almost immediately was to get married (we found out I was pregnant at the beginning of August and we were married in the month of November of that year, thanks to the help of many family members). We wanted our child to know that, although we sinned and it was wrong, we did what we could to right the wrong (although no one can completely right a wrong, I believe it is important to right as much of it as you can).
However, we did continue to suffer the consequences of our choices. My husband and I both got jobs fairly quickly, but he lost his the day before our wedding. I was put on bed rest exactly two months after our wedding, two months before our daughter was born and three before she was due. So much for the honeymoon period. We spent our first year of marriage struggling to keep our heads above debt, both medical and credit card debt.
While I would not go back and change anything (I love my husband and my daughter very much) I do not advise tempting Satan by giving up your virginity before marriage.
Thanks for the post!
We waiting and i'm glad we did. i'm also super glad my husband married me for more reasons than just to someone to have sex with.

It's not just single men who sleep around, there are PLENTY of married me who cheat on their wives even though they have "milk" at home. Just sayin'
I did not wait and though I was in a long-term committed relationship that doesn't "excuse" it. I wish that I had waited for my husband but I can only move forward and help those who are younger than me to understand.

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