My grandmother is the antithesis of what our feminist foes want every girl to be. She goes to the gym every day, despite being 70+ years old. She cooks massive delicious meals every time from scratch, feeding everyone in the family with plenty of leftovers. She cleans, takes care of her husband and never complains. She is what used to be the epitome of a housewife.
He {my grandfather} works everyday from 8am-6pm and comes home tired to his wife. But given her traditional ways, he absolutely and utterly loves her. He brings her flowers from time to time, and grandmother is genuinely excited every time. He tells her he loves her. There is no “beta” here, because this is the true nature of man and woman, the former the provider of security and the latter the provider of family. Traditional gender roles foster actual love.
When I am at these dinners despite the fantastic satiety I inevitably feel I do get sad. I think about how this is very unlikely to happen for me in America. I start wondering if these brainwashed girls here realize that they are sacrificing their true happiness for some fabricated ideal of the independent female. But most of all I feel bad for any son I may eventually have — as by the time he will be dating, even these smaller sects of non-corrupted females will have died out and eventually become like the dodo…extinct.
The man who wrote these words isn't a believer, I don't think. Believer or unbeliever, however, most men long for wives like his grandmother. A wife who is joyful, cares about how she looks, and loves taking care of him.
The Bible always turns out to be right. This grandmother fits the definition of the Proverbs 31 woman and the women the New Testament encourages women to be. When women lived like this, society was a much better place. Husbands and children were well cared for and much happier.
So what if you are outdated. You are biblical and that is all that matters, pleasing our Lord and Savior. Be that extinct wife and mother and show the world that it is still very much in style. Then pass it down to your daughters so men will still be able to find wives that enjoy the traditional, biblical roles.
I will therefore that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
I Timothy 5:14
Kandra · 615 weeks ago
I enjoy your blog so much. Thank you for speaking out on the difficult subjects.
Lori Alexander 122p · 615 weeks ago
Gina · 615 weeks ago
Thank you for sharing your Godly wisdom!
Lori Alexander 122p · 615 weeks ago
Ken · 615 weeks ago
Christian men have always been taught to hold women and all others as more important than themselves. Along comes feminism and it teaches equality should be applied across the board and it destroyed for many women the qualities men found most attractive.
It is true that part of the dependence and other feminine qualities are replaced by some successful women by a pay check and pride in their wives accomplishments, but it cannot replace the missing things that a wife and mother can give to bring together and hold together a family. The husband sacrifices, the kids suffer and in many cases the successful wife is stressed and incompleted by her life choice to be a career woman.
Sure, it always helps if my wife brings in an extra $30,000 - $100,000 a year. More luxurious vacations, more fancy restaurants, a bigger bank account and sooner retirement... all things that seem so important at an early stage of marriage... now pale when a child or two stray from the Lord, or stray from society. They all are worthless when the most important of relationships suffer. No money or career can buy happiness.
BUT.... the 80-20% rule probably applies even here. Perhaps 20% make it all work... the seemingly impossible of both raising a healthy family in the Lord and having a career. The feminist view of "equality of like kind" has devalued women for most men, doing exactly the opposite of what its proponents wanted. If a women is equal to me and not valued for her femininity, then let her go defend herself, open her own doors, put her own luggage in the overhead bin, and most of all, let her find a man who likes a women with manly qualities.
I for one, am looking for a woman who wants to be a woman, not act like a man.... self supporting, feeding her own ego, and independent. I want to be her man, not just her best friend.
@wifethenmama · 615 weeks ago
Laura Lane · 615 weeks ago
I'm also permanently happily married to my high school sweetheart of 31 years.
Blessings,
Riet · 611 weeks ago
Thank you for this post.
carolcovin 53p · 611 weeks ago
Jenny Matlock · 610 weeks ago
I love the cooking and cleaning and caring and nurturing.
I hang my clothes on the clothesline.
I make food from scratch.
I always have a lap or a shoulder for a child or a friend.
This was really a wonderfully thought provoking link to the letter "H".
Thank you for sharing it.
kaseyparr99 16p · 607 weeks ago
Mrs. Abella · 523 weeks ago
The older I'm getting, and with my experience being a single mom and then married mom, I would give my left arm to be like that. That is what I want to be, no matter what the outside world thinks!