Her husband has withdrawn from her physically and emotionally. Everyone told her she should leave him. He even threatened to move out. I told her she couldn't leave him. God wanted her to fight for her marriage. She started praying for him, fixing nice dinners for him, not arguing, and sending him appreciative notes. He is softening.
Many of her friends are either divorced or divorcing. She is an amazing model to them of what it looks like to fight for your marriage. They will even put him down in front of her but she continues steadfastly to fight for her marriage.
I am reading a novel. {It is so good. I highly recommend it!} A young woman marries a man who turns out to be an alcoholic and can't even keep a job. She has finally had enough and runs home to mama. Her mom told her they are one flesh and she needs to forgive him 70 times 7 times. She sent her back to her husband.
When Jesus said we are to forgive 70 times 7 times, it includes our husbands. We are not to leave them or divorce them. When they are unhappy and distant, they are miserable and need you in their corner praying and fighting for him. Remember, it is a spiritual battle.
Satan would love to destroy my friend's marriage but she puts on the full armor of God every day ready to do battle. She wants to keep her family together. This is what we are all called to do.
Then Peter came up and asked him,
"Lord, how many times may my brother sin against me
and I have to forgive him? Seven times?"
Jesus said unto him, I say not unto you,
Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Matthew 18:21,22
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Cynthia · 608 weeks ago
I have advised many men and women who are unfortunately dealing with an alcoholic or addicted spouse. It is possible to have love and compassion for a spouse who is struggling with this challenge, to realize that you can love the person while hating the addiction, and to be there to support them in recovery efforts and to realize that being married in sickness and in health means that you have obligations which don't end just because someone is struggling with this demon.
At the same time, though, we have to be aware of safety issues. If an alcoholic or addict can turn violent, it is not safe to live with them. They can stay married, but may live apart while treatment is sought. It is not safe to allow someone to drive while under the influence, and a wife should never get into the car with a husband who has been drinking or allow him to drive their children. Yes, he may be angry about this, but in a more sober moment he would surely be grateful to her for safeguarding their lives. It is also not safe to allow children to be in the care of someone who is under the influence. Sadly, I knew a man who struggled with alcoholism, and his baby girl rolled off the change table and broke some of her ribs while he was watching her.
Sometimes, a wife may also need to take over financial issues in a husband is an alcoholic or addict.
Lori Alexander 122p · 608 weeks ago
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