When I was growing up, all I wanted to be was a wife and mother. After high school, I went to Westmont College which was $3500 per year which included everything so few people ended college in deep debt. Then I went to CSUN to get my teaching credential. I taught for three years before I was able to quit when I had my second baby.
I liked college, mostly for these friends I made. {This picture was taken at Ryan and Cassi's wedding. We all were in or went to each other's weddings. We attended each other's baby showers and now those babies' weddings!} I didn't like studying things I didn't enjoy, like many of the requirements, and I much preferred studying things I am interested in, like I do now.
All of my college friends ended up being stay at home moms. Now, that we are older, one caters out of her home, another one writes cookbooks out of her home, another one has done various jobs out of her home, mostly secretarial. Lately, one has been nursing her very ill mother 24/7. Some are still raising children, babysitting grandbabies, showing hospitality to others, etc. They all love Jesus and have solid marriages after being married for many years.
Yes, most of us got college degrees but I think I am the only one who used my degree for a start of a career. My dad never wanted my mom to work, EVER, even after we were raised. He wanted her home caring for us and then helping us with our babies. He did, however, want all three of us to get degrees. Oh, the changes in one generation.
People did get married younger back in my dad's day and even in my day. I wonder if this big push for education {which costs SO much more today} and careers by women has caused marriage and babies to be put off. The time, the debt,...so many things come with women getting careers that complicate the making of a good, solid family life which is the foundation of any healthy society.
Teach young women to be keepers at home.
Titus 2:5
Teach young women to be keepers at home.
Titus 2:5
Rachel · 574 weeks ago
Jamie · 574 weeks ago
As to the point of the post- my husband's cousin is 24 with her first boyfriend. They've been good friends since high school. According to our aunt they spend all their time together. I asked how she (our aunt) felt about them perhaps getting married. You should have seen the recoil. Oh no! She's too young. That shouldn't come until at least 28. She needs to have her own life first. So even if our cousin did want to marry her boyfriend at this time, she will be receiving disapproval for it! At 24!!! An age perfectly suited to motherhood! My husband and I hear people talk like this all the time!! So my question is, why are the 50+ year old mothers so worried about their daughters and sons getting married? This same thing happened with my husband's brother. He got his girlfriend pregnant (he was 23, she 22) and they wanted to get married. My husband's parents were a flat NO. So my brother-in-law and his girlfriend eloped! They have their son and have been married now for two years and are working through life together just fine with all the hills and valleys of life. She is a nice girl. What did they want?? Why did they not want them to at least TRY to make a lasting family? I'm glad they went and got married anyway! My husband and I get so frustrated with this. This generation of young people faces quite an opposition if they do want to marry and make families in their early (even mid!) 20s.
shannon · 574 weeks ago
I've been spending less time online for pleasure but still enjoy your blog so much and all the truth you tell Lori! Shannon
Charlotte · 574 weeks ago
Since this is a Christian blog, I know that the response will likely be that we need to have faith in God and go forward into marriage anyway. That may be true from a Christian perspective, but for those who aren't Christian it doesn't make much sense. Even for those who are Christian, they have seen marriages where the spouses put their faith in God fail. It's much easier said than done to move forward without a plan in event of failure when you have seen firsthand how possible that failure is.
cassie · 574 weeks ago
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Tiffany · 574 weeks ago
I'll never forget that conversation! One thing that is for sure is that I have loved my life as a stay at home mom. Its the greatest treasure to me and not for a minute do I feel like I'm wasting anything!