Monday, January 26, 2015

God Created Women for Pouring


Erin decided to stop blogging and writing to BE full-time with her family. She is very talented and had WAY too much on her plate; trying to homeschool five children, being a help meet to her husband, editing and writing books and taking care of her homestead. She wrote me this amazing email that she told me I could share with you since I think it will bless many of you. She is a godly and wise woman and decided that, at this time of her life, she wanted to spend her energies on what the Lord has called her to do. She also drew that fabulous picture above to illustrate what she wrote.

My husband is a man of very few words.  When I set aside my busy blogging, he said to me…"God created the woman for pouring.  They are ‘all or none’ type vessels.  Keeping a home, loving your husband and children is a huge undertaking and it takes ALL of a woman to fill.  This is why God created the woman to pour of herself completely because he knew it took all of her heart to care for her family.  When you take the modern woman who finds a million other things to pour into, important things suffer.  There is only so much in that heart to pour.  Once she has poured herself out, there is nothing remaining and that is when the family suffers and why our country is in the state that it is in.  It all starts in the home.”  I found his words so perfect. 

God gave me many gifts as a child.  I could do so many beautiful things with my hands whether it was music, painting, drawing, writing, or theatre.  The confusing thing when I grew into a woman was that I thought I was not being a good steward if I would not use those gifts.  It was a lie from the devil to distract me from the most precious gift I was given.  He gave me the gift of being a wife and mother.  It is not bad to lay aside the talents I have to pour into the precious gifts that God has given me in this season of my life.  What I pour into them has eternal value.  

Being abused as a child made me search for validation and worth by the things I could master and create.  I felt I was only worth something if I did something honorable in the sight of man.  Bringing healing to the broken was something that made me feel like I was doing something worthy.  But there is nothing more worthy and filled with validation than being a wife and mother because God created me for that purpose.  All those other things that I could create will be destroyed by moth or rust, but the souls of my husband and children will endure forever.  What I pour into them matters.

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, 
and to be a joyful mother of children. 
Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

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Melissa M. · 530 weeks ago

May God bless to Erin as she redefines her priorities.
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FREEINDEED! · 530 weeks ago

Erin- I want to encourage you that you are making a very wise choice bringing the focus back to the basics when you are pouring into outside cups.

I see your childhood gifts a different way though. I don't believe you have to lay them down at all. In our home, we use music, painting, drawing, writing, and theatre every day to homeschool. It would seem to me that those gifts fit naturally with wife & motherhood.

I will be praying for clarity for you. We should use our strengths, gifts, and talents right where we are to grow The Kingdom. " Bloom where you're planted" -so to speak.
Encouraging hugs to you sister :)
You are making a wise decision. I am 54 now and worked outside the home in all kinds of positions,ie.full-time. part time/working at home/taking my children with me. I tried it ALL. I wound up exhausted with marriage and children suffering greatly. We all took the long hard road and did not apply Biblical principles, like we should have. Fortunately God got my attention and applied loving discipline to my life thru a prodigal son. He has since dedicated his life fully to Christ and is now a powerful testimony.But that is what it took for me to wake up.I understand this is my story, & am not implying God will do this to everyone, but Gods ways are always best.
Becky
3 replies · active 530 weeks ago
WOW Becky!

There is nothing that fills my heart more than a story of a son or daughter who comes back home to Jesus! We must trust Him with our kids to use the gospel we have poured into them that it may not return empty on the Day of the Lord. Minister to the other young ladies around you with your powerful testimony.
Thanks Ken. Believe me, we mentor a lot of young men and I mentor mothers whose sons are going thru what we did. It is our mandate. After our son came clean Apr. 1 2011, he moved home with absolutely nothing, he lost job,car,apartment all of it. If he did not have us he would have been on the street or dead. He detoxed which was our 3rd time.& has not looked back.He is an amazing story of how God can work. We bow in humility to what God has done. We have anywhere from 6-8 guys who come to our log cabin in the woods twice a month-I cook a huge meal and my husband goes thru Scripture with them. Our son has since gotten a fantastic job, got married ,bought a home and is due with his 1st son in about 4 weeks. God is merciful. Sorry for rambling about our story but I still get so excited to share it:)
Becky
I had good friend of mine who had a son that was into drugs through high school and really messed with his early years. He was a cook, waited tables, and came clean about age 24 and went to Chef's school. Then spent two years in Romania where he found his bride and has a young daughter. He completed his MBA last year. Quite a turn around and he is walking faithfully with Jesus. Those drugs and any addiction will just hold you in bondage, cause you to lose everything, and without God's grace, kill you.

I am so happy to hear your great news!
ahhhhh, I wondered where Erin had disappeared to and why her blog hadn't been updated!, I have my answer now........

May God bless her and her family.
Blessings to you too Lori :)

Helen UK
Excellent!!
A similar thing has taken place in my life over the last year of trimming away those things that distract from my first purposes which is service to the Lord in worship and obedience, to my husband and children. The Lord used this verse to continually confirm his will for me right now is to pour out myself in my home to my hungry family And if you pour out that with which you sustain your own life for the hungry and satisfy the need of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in darkness, and your obscurity and gloom become like the noonday. And the Lord shall guide you continually and satisfy you in drought and in dry places and make strong your bones. And you shall be like a watered garden and like a spring of water whose waters fail not. (‭Isaiah‬ ‭58‬:‭10-11‬ AMP)
1 reply · active 530 weeks ago
Thank you for this verse, Wendy. I love it! I also think about the verse to be living sacrifices for the Lord; pouring our lives into others, especially our husband and children.
I have been feeling a similar way, but about browsing blogs. Or websites in general. I often use it as a way of escaping the kids or housework. And then I feel so guilty. My husband isn't happy about it either. It's like an addiction.and I'm struggling to overcome it. Today I'm hoping to change that. I don't want to miss out on what could of been. And settle for less. Good on you Erin for making that choice. Enjoy your precious family.
2 replies · active 530 weeks ago
Satan loves to use any way he can to get us away from what we should be doing with our lives and what God has called us to. Time is so short and we must not fritter it away on doing meaningless things. Spend your time on your husband, children and home. This is right where God has called you to be!
Thanks Lori for the reminder. Gods ways are best, as I have really been learning lately. Time for me to get off now. And go wake up my kids and spend time with them.
I believe Satan enters my life every time I don't hold my husband first. He is the one who is the head of our home(with god) and the one who holds divine control over our hearts. He reminds me that my reason for living is him and our children and that when I am selfish(doing something for myself) I cut a hole in the fabric of our lives. We are his and the Lords fabric, building a strong tent over to protect ourselves from the sinners of this world. YOu can't be to careful. I pray everyone puts there husband and children first. Being selfish is the work of the Devil.
Hi Lori. I am from Kenya, Africa and I have been following your blog for over a year now. I have been so encouraged here. I read your blog on Mondays and Thursdays as I try to limit the tym I spend online. When God called me home to serve my husband and children in 2005, I struggled to adjust but His Grace has helped me to be content and joyful. I just love everything about home and God indeed knows what's best for us. I get distracted at times with reading and crafting but if I realise I have to rush to do my everyday work -cleaning, cooking, laundry,spending time with the family etc- then I know its time to adjust. I find so much peace when I am fully connected to my husband , children (11 and 6) and home. Erin has made a wise decision. We must see things from the eternal angle and remain focused. Keep up the good work you are doing here.

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