It seems that many women have a very difficult time keeping their homes clean and tidy today. In the "olden days" before all the new technology, everyone in the family had to pitch in and help run the farm to even put food on the table. Those who did not work, literally did not eat.
Our society today lends itself to laziness. When the mass exodus of women left their homes for careers, the husbands, children and homes were forgotten. There was no one home to raise and train the children. One of the many things I hear from women is that their mothers did not train them to keep a clean and tidy home. Most of their mothers had careers and were gone from their home all day or they were too busy watching television shows or talking on the telephone to teach them.
Life is so much easier as an adult if you are trained as a child many things: how to clean and keep things tidy, how to cook, NOT to be lazy, spend time in God's Word, not overeat, exercise, be kind and loving to others, etc. It's much more difficult as an adult to train yourself in these things. If your were trained by your parents in all these good ways, thank them, will you?
With the advent of mothers leaving their homes, fast food became popular; food with little nutrition and very fattening. It was filling but had empty calories so it promotes eating too much. With the dishwasher, dryer, washer, etc., it leaves too much time in many woman's hands so they waste their time on meaningless things.
We need to spend our days in keeping our homes clean and tidy, cooking nourishing foods, training our children in the ways of the Lord, and productive things that please the Lord. Do your children a huge favor and train them how to be good stewards of their time. I love what Erin said about pouring your life into something other than your family in this post ~
For some of the other young mothers that just do not heed the still small voice, they will one day wake up, even after they made their big walk of fame and glory, after they have helped a million mothers, and they made a fortune along the way, they will also wonder what I have wondered these past months. We wonder these things because God puts a desire in our hearts to minister to our families. And when they notice that their kids are all grown, moved far away, don't need them anymore, they will mourn for that loss. For when they gained the whole world but they lost the souls of their children, which is a risk they are taking, they will regret not listening to that still small voice when it was whispering in their ears to pour into those that He had given and entrusted to their care alone.
These words will make some of you weep; those whose children are already all grown and you wasted those precious years pursuing your own interests instead of those the Lord has given you. Young mothers, spend the short years raising your children WITH them. They need and want you. It is a decision you will NEVER regret.
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
Ephesians 5:16
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Mara · 503 weeks ago
First and foremost, thank you for your blog. I visit you every day, and your words have had a profoundly positive influence on my life and marriage and family.
I am a stay at home mother to my two children (13 and 15 years old). My fifteen year old daughter is a wonderful, respectful, kind and loving daughter in almost every possible way. I am very proud of her. But I need your guidance in one area that I cannot seem to fix - the state of her bedroom. Over the years, I have tried many different ways to get her to truly care about her room, about her personal space.
-Ignore it completely and let it go to rack and ruin.
-Force her hand and tell her exactly what needs to be done, and when she needs to do it.
-Somewhere in between the above two.
I would really appreciate your direct guidance on what I can do, that will change how she treats this space.
Yours Sincerely,
Mara.
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Likewise parents themselves prefer to open a jar of pasta sauce than learn how to make it. My husband gets home cooked meals every night, it isn’t difficult and nor is it very time consuming. My fridge is full of fresh vegetables and I have a suite of recipes that are simple to make. It isn’t rocket science. We live in a society where people don’t like doing the mundane and prefer to outsource it.
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Anon M · 503 weeks ago
Thankyou for yet another great post. I have an addictive tendancy to things. passed on by my mother. and so internet quickly became my addiction and escape. my husband bought me an I pad mini, at my nagging. And I think it had been a HUGE problem. Thankfully, I had set it on my kitchen bench one night, and inexplicably it dropped to the floor, the cover flew off and it hit the tile floor with an almighty crack! the screen was badly cracked. But surprisingly, it still worked. and them my charger cord started playing up. I couldn't get it to charge. finally, my ipad went dead from lack of battery. I told my husband not to replace it. it was a waste of time and a stumbling block for me. so he is happy with that. I also delieberately bought a dinosaur of a cell phone that basically only sends text and makes calls. No internet. This has really given my back some time! im so glad I made that choice. I definitely was NOT redeeming the time. and then I wondered why my children were lazy or naughty. They were copying me! Thankyou for these wise words!
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helen · 503 weeks ago
Oh so true!, when growing up my Mum would never allow us to be lazy and also, constantly reminded us how blessed we were to have beds to sleep in, food to eat, things that NEEDED cleaning etc and a daddy who worked hard to provide things for us. We were what alot of people would have considered quite poor money wise and certainly didn't have expensive toys but Mum would never allow any moaning about that and trained us well to be thankful for what we did have!. We felt very loved and blessed regardless of lack of material things.
Blessings
Helen UK
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helen · 503 weeks ago
I will try over the coming weeks to do that, I am not much of a writer but will do my best :)
Blessings
Helen UK
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