Saturday, October 31, 2015

Can Women Have Casual Sex?


Meredith Viera had a conversation recently with Stacey Dash whom I had never heard of before and this is how the conversation went ~

Meredith: You have taken a vow of celibacy. Stacey: Yes I have. Meredith: How come? Stacey: I have taken that vow of celibacy because I have learned that casting my pearls before swine is kind of what I have been doing and not holding it more valuable. I am not capable.  Meredith: You mean sex before marriage? Stacey: Yes, that is what I mean. I am not capable of having casual sex. I realized that about myself.  There are women who can and I’m not judging anyone. I just realized I cannot. Meredith: You know I had sex with my husband before we got married and we’re doing pretty well. Stacy: I had sex with my three husbands before we got married and it didn’t work out too well.  Meredith: Do you think it’s the sex part that’s the problem? Stacey: It’s not about them. It’s about me.

Stacy is a beautiful woman! It is just so sad that she has had to go through what she's gone through since she probably wasn't taught Truth growing up. When children aren't given a strong moral compass, heartache happens in their lives.

She should have been taught not to throw her "pearls before swine" and saving sex for marriage while she was growing up. She also said that she wants young women to know that they don't need to find their identity in a man. She tried finding this the wrong way through multiple marriages. Teach your daughters that their identity is in Christ and who they are in Him. Teach them to be vow keepers, how to be godly, submissive wives to their husbands and to love and please them. 

Stacy tried the world's way and it turned out to be a lot of heartache for her. I am sad for her and the many women out there like her. Yes, it is good that she is no longer having casual sex with guys. I really don't believe any woman is capable of having casual sex. Yes, since the feminist revolution, women have "thrown off their shackles" and began having casual sex "like men." They thought they would find freedom in this but they have not. Women are emotional beings. We can't help but let our emotions become involved. It is the way that God has created us. {I'm not sure men can either because I think casual sex for men is a false and empty search for intimacy.} We were created in God's image. We are NOT animals! We are human beings created for deep connections with others.

One woman in the chat room said that all men cheat. They weren't created to be monogamous. Baloney!!! Men can absolutely remain faithful to one women all of their days. There are MANY men who have done and can testify of this Truth. All men can be monogamous if they are taught Truth, self-control and their value in Christ.

Also, when we teach women that they shouldn't have sex before marriage and save themselves for their husband, it is NOT judging! This is a lie from Satan; teaching Truth is not judging. Don't ever be afraid to speak Truth for God works through Truth. His Word NEVER comes back void. 

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12

***PLEASE watch this 8-minute video and have your daughters watch it with you. It is for Christian women and why they are listening to and believing the lies society is telling them instead of God's wonderful plan for their lives. 

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All men cheat?!? Uh, I don't think so. I had major reproductive problems which included pain and bleeding for six months straight. Yep, no break. Six months straight. Then cancer was found and a complete hysterectomy followed which had its own complications. Sex wasn't something I could physically do for a year. I felt so horrible for my husband. It is not that I didn't want to have sex with my husband, I physically couldn't. I asked him why he doesn't just leave me because I was so ill, and he could just find someone better who could give him what I couldn't. He replied and we married until "Death do us part. In good times and in bad". He took his vows seriously. He loves sex. But he loves me more.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
LOVE this! Thank you.
This is so refreshing, like a breath of fresh air or a taste of pure, cool water! I look forward to watching this with my two girls. This beautiful lady shared her heart and the truth; she made the wrong choice for a long time and she learned from it. She wants to spare other women the hurt that she has suffered. I wonder why Meredith Viera felt it necessary to mention her own behavior before marriage. I thought an interview was meant to focus on the guest. Today's "journalism" escapes me. Isn't it interesting that the liberal media is only "open minded" and "non-judgmental" when they are dealing with someone who agrees with their agenda, but all of that "open mindedness" goes away when they are faced with someone who believes and lives differently.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
They refuse to believe Truth, therefore, they are blinded from it, Tam. Thankfully, we know the Truth and the beauty of it. To us, it is the aroma of life but to them the smell of death {2 Cor. 2:16}.
I agree with you so so much when you said " Teach your daughters that their identity is in Christ and who they are in Him. Teach them to be vow keepers, how to be godly, submissive wives to their husbands and to love and please them. " Amen Sister!!! God bless you. I also agree that we shouldn't be afraid to share Gods Truth!! AMEN!!! God bless
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
So good. I really appreciate that you showed this.😊
I don't know how much you care, but Stacey Dash is probably most famous for a 20 year old movie called Clueless. It was a then modern day retelling of Jane Austin's Emma. Ironically she was one of the Emma character's vapid friends. It is wonderful to see how much depth she has gained and her strength to stand up to the peer pressure of clueless Hollywood.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
I love Jane Austin's movies! I will have to look up that movie. Thank you!
Physically, yes. BUT. not without it causing considerable damage to themselves and others. And of course, it's morally wrong. Not something I would do or recommend. I think it is easier for men to have casual sex, as they aren't typically emotionally as attached as women. And not all men are cheaters. If they cheat, it's because A) He's a jerk. And despite his wife fulfilling her biblical role, he cheats anyway. B) the wife isn't fulfilling her role and constantly deprives him in the bedroom, making him feel like he has no other choice but to stray. (Mind you, the wife isn't responsible for his choices. I'm just saying in this case it can make it harder for the male to make the right choice).
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
I agree! This is why Paul commands that husbands and wives NOT deprive each other and the verses that exhort couples about this ends with "Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control" {1 Corinthians 7:5}. God, who created sex, knows that a spouse who is being neglected sexually will have a much greater temptation than one who is not.
I agree, women are not capable of having casual sex. i have seen way too many casualties and it is heartbreaking.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
It is heartbreaking and so devastating in many ways. Parents need to begin teaching and encouraging their children towards purity from a young age; especially in today's hypersexualized society.
Great post! And so very relevant!

When my now-husband and I were courting, an acquaintance informed me that no one can "know for sure" about their future with someone without having sex. She told me she had slept with many men- all of her boyfriends. She "had to", because what if they weren't "physically compatible" with her? What if there was someone out there that was "better at sex"? Besides, wasn't it "gross" to sleep with just one person for your whole life? (?!)

That poor girl! How sad that people are thinking this way!

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