Softness and Femininity in Women

Years ago, Ken told me that what men love and enjoy about women is their softness; their softness in the way they feel and their femininity, the way they acted. Most women have lost the femininity part due to the feminist air they have breathed their entire lives. Being a feminist is the complete opposite of being feminine. Too many women today aren't soft in the way they act. They talk loudly, are bossy, and controlling. 

A soft woman doesn't speak loudly. She isn't argumentative and demanding. She is never harsh with others. She doesn't insist on her own way and have angry outbursts when things don't go her way. She listens carefully to others. She is warm, affectionate and smiles often. She loves and serves others, not wanting the best for herself. She dresses modestly and is discreet in her behavior; not wanting to draw attention to herself. She is sober and takes the Word of God seriously. She is moderate in her eating. She is gentle and patient with others and forgives easily. She is a feminine woman who loves her husband and children deeply.

If she is treated poorly by others or left out, she doesn't have a pity party but uses this time to thank the Lord for all the good in her life. She dwells on the lovely and the good in others instead of having a critical attitude towards others. She believes the best about others. She works hard and takes good care of her family and home. These are the priorities in her life. She doesn't argue her point over and over but allows the other person to have the last word. 

She is content with her life. She doesn't spend time envying others and what they have but finds way to be rejoicing in the Lord always. She reads the Word almost every day and soaks in the wisdom of the Lord. She loves goodness and faithfulness. She wants these words to define her life. She lives for her Master and desires to please Him in all that she does. 

Seek to be soft and feminine, women. Yes, this list might seem overwhelming but never forget that the God of the universe has sent His Spirit to live inside of us. He promises us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us and what He commands us to do is not burdensome. However, we must be continually renewing our minds with Truth by studying and reading His Word. This is how we are transformed. God uses His powerful and living Word to change us into Christ's image but we must put on the full armor of the Lord.

Being soft and feminine is not common in today's culture but we live by a different drumbeat than they do. Seek wisdom with the wise and not the foolish. Keep your thoughts on things above. Remember that everything around us is decaying and heading for destruction. However, we are saved from the wrath to come so we have much to be thankful for. Be cheerful. This draws others to you. It may even cause them to want what you have so be ready to tell them. If you are a soft and feminine woman, your husband is blessed to be married to you.

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, 

in that which is not corruptible, 

even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, 

which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3:4