Always Learning: Terrible Advice for Girls

Saturday, July 23, 2016

Terrible Advice for Girls

Many awful things are being taught to children and teenagers today. Here is an example of one of them.

Let me tell you what girls should be taught instead.

Advice for girls: be quiet and discreet and love others more than yourself. Start saying "I'm sorry" and stop saying "because I said so." Say "yes" to those in need and say "can I help you?" Stop taking selfies and laugh at jokes that are decent and silly. Be kind and speak truth and wear your hair to please the LORD. Help out other girls and be vocal about the good and the lovely. Enjoy being soft and feminine and apologize quickly when wrong. Don't give away your purity to anyone until you are married.

Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.

James 1:21

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IamwithHim 12p · 453 weeks ago

Lori, is the person posting this a Christian?
oxo

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

Not sure, Jilly. I sure hope not.

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TheJoyFilledWife · 453 weeks ago

Its almost hard to believe that any man would be giving that kind of advice to girls. It doesn't even sound right or appealing. The only type of man I can imagine saying something like this is someone who swings both ways. A masculine woman? She is the antithesis of how she was created. So heartbreaking.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

The heartbreaking thing about it is they are also hearing this message from Hollywood, music, and peers unfortunately. It will just make them more lost and more unhappy.

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Mary · 452 weeks ago

"Happiness" is not the goal, as you have said mamy times

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Anne · 453 weeks ago

I have been in gatherings and seen men look away in embarrassment when their wives act out like that. I honestly feel sorry for them. Years ago, I tended to be louder and realized that it made my husband uncomfortable so I set about to change it. I am so thankful that I did. Not only does my husband completely cherish me, but I have found that everyone appreciates a good listener.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

They sure do, Anne. My best friend is a great listener and everyone loves her!

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Vikki · 453 weeks ago

I remember as a girl that there was a general attitude that acting ditzy and helpless and not too bright made a girl feminine and attractive. I don't think that was right or Biblical (does the Proverbs 13 woman strike anyone as a silly airhead?) It was an unhealthy,man-made attitude that led some girls to become manipulative,because they felt they could never say anything directly. Also,for some girls,this became dangerous as they felt like standing up for themselves in any way was unfeminine,thus making them vulnerable to guys who were bullies or had evil intentions.

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Vikki · 453 weeks ago

Sorry to reply to my own comment, but I assumed Spencer's advice was sarcastic, and a commentary on the general attitude many girls have today--maybe I misunderstood. Either way, Lori's revision is much better advice. 😉

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

Thank you, Vikki! Biblical advice will always trump worldly advice.

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Mrs. K. · 453 weeks ago

This sounds like it was m re ant to be sarcastic. I will see if I can find out.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

It doesn't matter who posted it. Girls are spreading this around Facebook and loving it, unfortunately!

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Mrs. Kelley Dibble · 453 weeks ago

Lori,

Instead I would say "Give your purity as a precious gift only to the man you marry."

Sad, sad state of affairs for young females today. Should I be masculine or feminine? Truth will always prevail, and that's exactly what your good advice is.

*hugs*
Kelley~

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Lori Alexander 122p · 453 weeks ago

Thank you, Kelley. Yes, that would have been a great way to say it!

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Ken · 453 weeks ago

faiteslamort ,

You appear to be saying that this little piece of awful advice to women came from a longer post that may explain part of the purpose behind writing it. Unfortunately, the one who posted it only have the snippet, so Lori addressed what she could see. I am not sure that any explanation can excuse a request that young women act grossly and unladylike.

Lori's audience is mainly Christians, but in this case, I think many young ladies of all walks of life and faiths can use the advice she is giving. No, she is not addressing the creepy guys who will not simply take "no" for an answer, but the advice is solid. Girls can learn to say no, and be strong without being loud, gross, and forceful. The modern woman is losing her femininity and its great to have a good reminder of what it really looks like when the messages come a mile a minute to be unfeminine.

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KiwiGuest · 452 weeks ago

I saw this on Facebook too, shared by a Christian woman with a huge following. Reading the comments on her FB page it is clear that many don't agree with her, and it's possible she doesn't even believe it herself, but shared it to open up discussion.
The screenshot that Lori posted is all that the Christian woman shared - there is no more to it on her page than what Lori has shared.
Sadly, it was shared more than 40k times off that page.

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Miranda · 452 weeks ago

This person that wrote this is actually a women named Spencer, which makes it worse!

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ACM · 452 weeks ago

the only one that i can agree with on that post is saying no. i am guessing that response "because i said so" would be to a guy asking a girl out and he is not taking no for an answer. so you use the old fall back "i have a boyfriend". I have used this same line MANY times and not every time did i actually have a boyfriend. it can be unnerving that a guy would only back off of asking you out if you say you have a boyfriend. if you say no, i'm not interested- that no should be taken at face value. you need no other explanation. apologizing first is nice. but sometimes if you are being harassed by someone- you just need to put your foot down.
the rest of it though is silly. sure we have bodily functions and all that, but do we really need to showcase them? oy. glad my mom taught me "how to be a lady" in public. although in private i can be a slob. haha

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