The picture in our minds that we get about life during the Leave It to Beaver and Father Knows Best days is that all women must have been gentle, kind, modest, submissive to their husbands and love being keepers at home but was this really the case? No, women have always struggled with being cheerfully submissive and content being at home or else the Bible wouldn't have older women teaching younger women these things. Yes, there are some personalities that are more the pleasing types who don't fight and argue to get their way, but they are far and few between. All of this disobedience happened once sin entered the world and it is what we are fighting against. We may think it is only feminism but it is not.
Satan entered the world and became the prince of the power of the air when Eve wrested control from Adam and dashed all of civilization into chaos. Even most of the "great" women of old that we read about in the Old Testament weren't examples of godly womanhood at times. Sarah wanted her husband to sleep with another woman in order to get a baby, thus going against God's promise to her and Abraham's will.
There weren't as many divorces before feminism took hold but I bet the majority of homes were still run by the women. It's just the way we're built. Most women want to be in control, have their own way, and make their husbands do what they want them to do through manipulation, refusal of sex, and many other creative ways. Yes, feminism has made it much worse for marriages and the children since mothers have left their homes and women don't rely on their husbands for provision anymore. This is absolutely a tragedy but most women throughout the centuries have struggled with control and lack of submission.
It is said that the Church is ten years behind culture and I believe it. The Church used to teach women about submission, having a meek and quiet spirit, and being keepers at home. Few churches teach this anymore so Christian women often look no better than their feminist neighbor in how they treat their husbands, what they wear, act, and what entertains them.
We need to stop going by our culture and our own selfish desire to control, and begin obeying the Word of God. No Christian woman should be following in the steps of feminism or rebellion. Begin studying the Word of God and become the submissive and obedient wife that the Lord calls you to become. Live within your husband's income even if this means living in a small home, not having Internet, and not eating out or going on vacations. Pursue what the Lord wants you to pursue, not this depraved culture.
If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above,
where Christ sits on the right hand of God.
Colossians 3:1
where Christ sits on the right hand of God.
Colossians 3:1
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Washing Words · 452 weeks ago
Our actions while we are here are most beneficial to walk in truth and lead others to do the same as we point them toward the Gospel all the while.
Lori Alexander 122p · 452 weeks ago
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Lady Virtue · 452 weeks ago
I know the Lord will give you the strength to stand, Lori, just as He has before, to keep speaking His truth.
Jeff · 452 weeks ago
LOL! My mom admitted she used sex to manipulate my dad. She taught my sister to do this to her husband who said, "ok, there are other women out there", and proceeded to find and cheat on my sister. BACKFIRE! My wife did it to me and she told me her mom told her to!
Yes women enjoy sex, but you are deceiving yourself and others if you think women WANT sex at the SAME frequency as men.
Yes, there are women who enjoy as much frequency, but it is rare.
As far as using it as manipulation, many women may not intentionally set out to use it as manipulation, but if they refuse sex because they don't 'feel' loved at that moment you are 'manipulating' the husband to 'make good' so that you feel more 'loved' before you will nt refuse him. SAME THING as manipulation.
Without being rude, please look up the definition of manipulation. Search your heart and you will see that manipulation is in all of our hearts and sex in marriage has been used as a tool for women for ages.
Ivana · 452 weeks ago
This is really eye-opening for me.
Maria · 452 weeks ago
As background: we have a nine-month-old son and an almost two-year-old daughter. I am home full time with them. I also work from home and take care of the housework. I try to make sure that my husband does not have to work "another shift" when he gets home, that he would just get to rest.
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Ken · 452 weeks ago
That said, there is a difference between leading and manipulation. and manipulation and discipline. A husband's role requires him at times, hopefully few, to make certain decisions or take certain actions for the good of the family, which a wife may perceive as manipulation, but it is only leadership. Her view is colored by her own selfishness.
For instance, if money is tight, but a wife keeps spending in areas that a husband has already said no, or on things that are unnecessary, then the husband cuts the Internet out, maybe TV, is this manipulation of is it leadership? Well it will be poor leadership if all of the sudden these things and the electricity are cut off.
God calls on husbands to provide loving sacrificial leadership then leaves wide room as to how this is accomplished in each marriage. Just as no two wives are the same, neither will a husband's leadership style. A Christian woman should choose wisely which husband she will follow for the rest of her life.
I will also suggest that at times a husband can be manipulative even in his leadership, but a wife could end this sin by simply deciding to follow his wishes before he feels the desire to manipulate. A husband should not have to manipulate to get what he feels is best.
If a husband is manipulating a wife to sin, she must stand against sin and gently decline. No amount of manipulation from any source should cause us to sin. Be careful to differentiate that to be sin it must be clearly taught against in God's Word, not a matter of conscience, as a husband's conscience should be informing a wife's conscience. This is not to say a husband should be forcing his conscience upon a wife, as a godly husband will be sensitive that if she does not believe drinking a glass of wine is beneficial, he should not insist upon it. But a godly wife is always trying to follow her husband's lead and learn from him, instead of stubbornly holding firm to what she considers to be her conscience which may be poorly informed by her past upbringing and experiences.
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Ken · 452 weeks ago
God says we are not to be this way, but we are to speak honestly and sincerely in love to one another and be sure that we place the interest of our spouse over our own.
I am always concerned that a husband who wants less frequency in sex than a wife is either not eating well, resting well, filled with stress, has something physically wrong or is into porn and self-sex. Any one of these things can be the problem and ideally these things are not off limits in a discussion. There can be at times a spouse who doesn't feel like it because of the way they feel treated by his wife, and at times weight issues. Lastly, you have psychological issues that at times impacts a sex life.
Being able to honestly talk about things together is very important, not in an accusatory way, but in a way to gain understanding. I know there were times when I am stressed out that sex is not desired, but I also know that sex is a great stress reliever as it can distract from the stress if only for a few minutes.
If you are married to a Christian husband, ask gently for a reasonable answer to your desires and sexual needs. God would not tell us to not deprive each other if he did not in most circumstances give the way to accomplish His will. But you must work together to arrive at a place where you can feel satisfied.
ACM · 452 weeks ago
i personally don't see an issue with women working as long as it is right for her family. some women are not working 40 hour a week jobs with their children in day care all day long. some are working weekends while their family watches the littles so they can help their family. i work in catering so it's extremely flexible and i can basically pick my own schedule. i have a cousin who works 2 days a week as an OT and her mom watches her children. the kids love it and my aunt loves it. obviously this is not to say this would work for all families.