Friday, July 22, 2016

Her Daughter Sews Thong Bathing Suits


Recently, I was talking with an acquaintance of mine. She is not a believer and knew about my blog so she asked me about it. She mentioned that she was a feminist. I asked her if she wants to be like a man. She exclaimed, "No! I love it when my husband opens doors for me and grabs me by the elbow to help me across the street." Concerning my viral post, she responded, "I don't want my husband to do the housework. He works so hard all day. He certainly does not need to do housework." {So far, she doesn't sound much like a feminist!} Later on, she told me about her daughter who sews bathing suits to sell. I asked her for the web page. She told me, "Oh, you wouldn't like them. They are the thong type bathing suits." I asked her,"Doesn't she know what this does to men?" She didn't know how to answer. 

How would an unbeliever respond to a statement such as this one? I pondered it a while after talking with her. Does she not care that her daughter is making bathing suits for others that are promiscuous and make it difficult for men to not lust? Do women of the world even care about things like this or do they not think about it? Are they so immersed in today's culture that they simply go along with the flow and do as it does? 

As believers, we live by a higher standard, the Lord's standard. Our actions mean something. What we wear says something about us. We should know how men think and what can provoke them to lust knowing that lust is not a thing of the Lord. The lust of the eyes is one of the three main sins: the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh, and the pride of life. Should we not live our lives with careful introspection to make sure we are living for the Lord and bringing Him glory instead of living for our own lusts and satisfaction?

Even in the ministry we have in the home, we should daily be pointing our children to the Lord and to goodness and away from the things of the world. Let them see the wonder of living for the Lord. Don't make it burdensome, but show them how being in the center of His will is the safest place to be. Teach your children from the time they are young to dwell on the lovely and the good while being an example to them of living this way. Make sure they are dressed modestly as children and have a sense of shame in being naked and showing too much flesh to others. No their bottoms shouldn't be showing out in public, even as children. As your daughters grow older, explain the male sexual appetite so they are well aware of not doing anything to inflame it. For all believers are the body of Christ and must do nothing that blasphemes His Holy Name.

The fact that this woman knew I wouldn't like to see her daughter's website means that she knows her daughter's bathing suits are below my standards. I am glad that she realizes that I have higher standards than most in our culture. Do you? Do others realize that your standards are higher than cultures by the way you live your life and the clothes you wear? If you are a believer in Christ Jesus, they should since we are called to be separate from the ways of the world. We live by godly standards since this isn't our home. Our home is with Christ and it is far more valuable than anything we have down here.

Wherefore come out from among them,
 and be ye separate, saith the Lord, 
and touch not the unclean thing
and I will receive you.
2 Corinthians 6:16

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Hey there! I enjoy reading your posts and am thankful for your boldness. I am 23 young wife with a passion to dress modestly. But I sometimes get confused I have read many things with this point of view that we need to dress modest to help our brothers in Christ out and not cause them to stumble. But I've read many with another angle who say something like we need to dress to honor the Lord but don't be ashamed of the curves God has given you if a man wants to lust he will lust even if you are in baggy clothes etc. Its not all our responsibility for men not to lust.
So I guess my question is do we dress modestly mainly to help men not to lust after us or to honor the Lord by not showing everyone our beautiful body God has given us? I want to know for my sake BC I can be uncomfortable around men especially if I am dressed extra cute even if its modest plus I want to know to give the reason to other young women.
Hope all that makes sense and thank you so much in advance!
God bless,
Emily
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Emily,

Dress to please the Lord and not cause a brother to stumble. Usually this will mean to not show a lot of flesh, not too tightly fitted clothing, and not too short. From learning from men, this is the most difficult for them to see. If a man still lusts after a woman even if she is dressed modestly, then it is their problem but if a woman is dressed immodestly and causes a man to lust, it is both of their problems. When you go out in public, dress as if you were standing before the Lord because one day you will be!
You just proved my point, Ally. God created women to bear children and they should be the ones home to raise them, according to His Word. "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." (1 Timothy 5:14) Children need and want their mothers. No one can take the place of a full time mother in a child's life. God has commanded men to be the providers. This is God's order but women have rebelled against it and wanted to be like men and be the providers.
Ally,

God's principles are good for everyone! Before feminism took hold, the majority of women were home with their children while the men provided for their family since America was founded upon biblical principles. No, it was far from perfect but at least mothers were the ones raising their children instead of strangers and everyone profited from it, especially the children. Most women have no idea they are following the feminist agenda and how harmful it is so I speak Truth to whoever will listen, even unbelievers.

Here is a quote from one of the feminist leaders:"How will the family unit be destroyed? ... the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare."- Female Liberation , by Roxanne Dunbar.

Just because many women aren't Christian doesn't mean their children aren't suffering from them leaving them all day long. I have no ability to force anybody into my mold. Last I heard, we still have freedom of speech. I can freely teach what God's Word tells women to do and you, Ally, have the freedom to chose how to live!

If you are interested in reading my post on the feminist movement and how it started, you can read it here: http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/04/feminis...
Ally,

Yes, millions of women have been influenced by feminism and whether you want to admit it or not, you have been as well. Studies have been made that have proven the dire consequences children have when mothers aren't with them full-time to bond with them. No child can live without his mother full-time without it affecting them in some way.

It's fascinating to me that studies continually prove that God's ways are the best. Did you know that married women have the best sex lives? God intends for men and women to be married. Yes some won't get married but the majority should.

Ally, I hope if a good man comes along, you will happily marry him, bear children, and be home full-time with them but more than this, I pray you come to know the Savior who bled and died for you so that you can have eternal life.

Blessings to you and I hope you enjoy your weekend too. Thank you for reading my blog and having a kind discussion with me!
Maybe feminists don't want to be men, but they act like men! I wonder how people think to work in home is not a honorable work like any other! They prefer to be stuck in a company, obeying their boss, instead their husbands? To be a homemaker is a job like or more special than any other. Feminists can enjoy theirSELVES, but the point is: - to bring JOY to the Lord and our families, to please Him, to go HEAVEN!
Lori, congratulations for more this amazing post the Lord have inspirated you. I have translated some of them into Portuguese, giving you the credit and quoting the source, check it out: http://sobrearochadocristo.blogspot.com.br/2016/0...
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Thank you for sharing, Ruth! You are a beautiful woman and I am happy that you are ministering to women who speak Portuguese. Women all over the world who love the Lord Jesus need to know that thong bathing suits are not modest and are not what godly women should wear.
The world's view is that women are not responsible for the way men feel, or for their actions. Even many christian women who dress modestly, still think this way.

While I agree that we must dress modestly both to honour God and to not tempt men, the only issue I have is, with having two daughters nearing their teenage years, striking that balance between teaching them modesty for the right reasons (both honouring God and not causing our brothers to stumble) but also teaching them that, in this culture of sexual abuse and rape, that rape is NEVER the woman's fault. That whole concept of teaching them how to keep themselves safe, while also acknowledging that there are bad people in the world, and if they fall prey to those rapists/sexual abusers that it is NOT THEIR FAULT.

I'm really not sure yet how to strike that balance. How do we teach our daughters to dress modestly because we have a responsibility towards men, yet at the same time teach them that rape is never the rape victim's fault?
2 replies · active 452 weeks ago
Teach them to dress modestly, don't walk alone at night, don't get drunk or stoned at parties, don't sleep with someone who is not your husband, don't drive alone at night, always be alert, lock your doors when you drive, etc. Give her a lot of practical advice to help her not be in a position to be raped and make it easy for a man. Beyond this, you must teach her to trust the Lord.

I don't remember ever talking with my daughters about rape. We definitely had boundaries for them and prayed for them, this is for sure.
a rapist will rape a woman no matter what she is wearing. but i do see the point that the eyes are drawn to the woman wearing the least amount of clothing.
i think we also need to teach our boys that even if they see a naked women lying on the street, get her help please- don't rape her!
i've talked to my daughter about rape and to all of the tips, i think the most important one for me is to stay sober. i don't want to make it seem like i am blaming the victim and it won't stop all rapes ... but being aware of your surroundings and who is near you is impossible if you are sober. what can you remember? what did you see? you have no idea. rapists pick the easiest targets. if you are sober, walking confidently with friends and not listening to headphones, etc. it would be harder to grab you.
I'm putting this comment here, but it's in response to a thread on your FB page about women working and the question of whether a mother should do so if her husband passes away. (I don't comment on FB pages) This seems to be a common theme in that issue, and I'd just like to point out that a Christian husband who believes he is responsible for providing for his family should consider this as he orders the affairs of his home-a couple of ways he can see that his wife is taken care of is by having little to no debt, purchasing a life insurance policy-possibly to cover the cost of any mortgage still on their home, keeping that home in good repair, investing in retirement funds that will pass to the wife, not church-hopping, but investing in and building relationships in a good church family who will take his wife and children to heart. There are even homeschool organizations that raise funds to help come alongside women who have lost their husbands in order to enable them to continue homeschooling.
1 reply · active 453 weeks ago
This would definitely be the best solution! Children have already lost a father. They don't need to lose their mother too.

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