Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Fooling Around Before Marriage

She loves Jesus with all her heart.  Her boyfriend does also.  They want to please Him in every area of their lives but are struggling physically to keep their hands off of each other.  She tries to set strict boundaries but they never seem to be able to keep them.  She is at a loss as to what to do so she asked me for advice.

I told her they needed to get married.  God created us to want sex, especially with the person we love.  Once you start kissing, it gets tough to put the brakes on.  Once you give a bit more, it is almost impossible to go backwards.  The Bible tells us it is better to marry than to burn.

The Duggers teach their children to wait until marriage to kiss.  It is a very good idea but we didn't teach our children this.  We loved kissing, holding hands, and cuddling.  We know, however, how difficult it is to keep your hands off of each other once you start getting serious.

She said they were still dependent upon their parents somewhat but were both working hard.  I still think they need to get married.  A lot of poor people get married.  My dad was just beginning medical school when they got married and they made it.

If the parents have the means to help their children get by while they are finishing their education,  I think they should help them.  Getting married and having children is a blessing and a very good path for your children to be on.  By supporting them, think of it as supporting missionaries.  They may be raising a future godly generation just the way the Lord has designed it.

So if both sets of parents approve and you both love Jesus, get married and soon.  I think three month or shorter engagements are the best.  Once you decide you want to get married, it is much more difficult to remain pure since you know this person is going to be your spouse.

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness,
let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints.
Ephesians 5:3