From the day the church began to teach that sex was for recreation rather than for reproduction marriage was doomed. Birth-control paved the way to the bedroom as a playground. The church fights gay marriage while it winks and nods at fornication in all of its heterosexual forms. Christians’ selfishness destroyed marriage.
Not one good thing has come from birth control being introduced to this country. It has made it easier than ever to have promiscuous sex. It has allowed married couples to not want children. It has allowed children to be a throw away product, namely abortion. Men can get sex for free without commitment. We, not God, are in control of our sex lives now.
Christians are divorcing at the same rate as unbelievers. We have made a mockery of marriage. Most don't take it seriously. If a spouse isn't happy, they get out.
If the Christian community really were Christ followers, walking in obedience to Christ, we would have made a much bigger impact upon society. For one thing, we would have a lot more children who were raised in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord walking around being salt and light.
For another, we wouldn't get divorce. It would not even be named among us. Our marriages would be strong, solid marriages reflecting the image of Christ and His church. We would be setting an example to those around us how glorious marriage truly can be.
Peace and love would pervade our homes and outsiders would be drawn to what we have and ask us where our hope was from. They would see marriages really could last forever. People could grow old together happily.
I am sure you know what I think is the main problem...older women have neglected their role in training the younger women how to love and obey their husbands, be keepers at home, etc. The church dropped the ball on this one and listened to the lies of feminism instead by following the world's example instead of the Bible's commands.
If all the older women would step up to the plate and teach the younger women the amazing value God puts on wives and mothers and that their place in the home has infinite value, the younger women would be content being wives and having children and men would want to stay married.
Let us go back to doing things the way God commands us to and at least get the Christian community back on the right track starting with us. Are you up for the challenge?
Marriage is to be held in honor among all,
and the marriage bed is to be undefiled;
for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
Hebrews 13:4
kathy · 596 weeks ago
I have to admit lately I've considered deleting your site from my facebook. Let me explain.
As you know lately some of what you share has been agressively attacked. I would choose to follow it, after commenting, and would wind up getting quite upset over the way some handled themselves. I didn't like the stress it put me under, and I especially didn't like what I feared it may be doing to you.
I will admit that when I first started following you my conscience was pricked at times. I think I may have even commented with some defensiveness to ease my mind. I hope not in an attacking way though.
The more I've followed and read what you share the more I believe God is doing a great work in and through you. Your understanding of scripture and what God's lessons are through it I find to be right on.
Today's writing is another one of those that may bring on some heated comments. I for one believe you have hit the nail on the head again.
I will continue to follow you and your writing because it does feel good to know there is someone, such as yourself, who has the guts to stand up and proclaim the message without fear of being shot down. I don't do it as much with written word, but I to, am trying to stand up for what is good and morally right. Sinner that I am.
Just one from your cheering section, supporting you in prayer.
misti · 596 weeks ago
-blessings
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Jilly · 596 weeks ago
Is that wisdom?
Jilly oxoxo
Jacqueline · 596 weeks ago
I love what Kathy at the top had to say! Keep up the great words of truth and exhortation.
The Lord will water the seeds that get planted. I will be covering you with prayer for peace, strength, wisdom to answer questions, and for protection, and I will be more diligent to pray for those who visit this wonderful blog. May the harvest be great!
Love and blessings, sister!
Jacqueline
Crystal · 596 weeks ago
And Lori, I agree with you that most older women have dropped the ball. I know a lot of lovely older women but none of them that I really feel I can go to with deep questions or for solid biblical advice. When I am at a loss I reach out through the internet to women such as yourself, you've been a great help to me a few times and I am thankful that you put yourself out there for people you will likely never meet on this Earth! I pray that someday I can be as wise and helpful with young ladies as you are. :)
sheworksretail 36p · 596 weeks ago
Maybe not one good thing has come the acceptance of birth control in Christian churches and circles.
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Cynthia · 596 weeks ago
Recently, you've written about early marriage, having wives stay home, making husbands and marriage a priority, healthy eating and now you are writing about not using birth control.
What happens if it's not possible to do all of those things at the same time? For example, I related to what you wrote about getting married while the husband is a medical student, because that was my situation, but it meant that I had to work because he had tuition to pay and no income. If having a mom at home is a priority, then might birth control be necessary until an early-marrying couple get on their feet enough to survive on one income? I'm not talking about a luxurious lifestyle - just enough to be self-supporting and make sure that basic needs are met. In some cases, might the needs of the existing children come before having more children? My sister, for example, has a son with autism. She and her husband are tremendously dedicated parents, going to countless school meetings, therapy appointments, cooking everything from scratch to follow a diet recommended by their naturopath, working with him at home, etc. They have cut down their working hours in order to be there for the kids. They live frugally (paid down mortgage on a townhouse instead of a larger detached home, clothes from thrift store, etc.), but also know that the therapy is expensive, and that they need to plan for their son to have some sort of support for life. With all of that, another child didn't seem feasible for them.
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