Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Praising His Stay-At-Home Wife!


This is a topic I am fairly passionate about if you haven't noticed!  I am commanded by God as an older woman to teach young women to be "keepers at home."  Many women have written me or emailed me with the desire to be home but their husbands want them to work outside the home.   My heart goes out to them.

When one of my readers told me about a blog post of a man promoting his stay-at-home wife, I was thrilled to read it.  Here is a glimpse of what he wrote ~

Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined.

I say a big AMEN to this!  I am thankful to see a husband that sees the immense value in his wife raising his children instead of bringing in more money and sacrificing his children's welfare for the almighty dollar.  It seems there are few men out there like this anymore, sadly.

If you want to be home full-time with your children, make out a thoughtful letter of reasons for wanting to be home and give it to your husband.  You can cook from scratch, shop at yard sales, be rested to take good care of him when he gets home, have hot meals ready for him at the end of a long time, have time for intimacy with him, train your children, keep the home clean, just to name a few.

After much prayer, give it to him and then abide by his wishes.  If he wants you to work, do it cheerfully but then consistently plead with the Lord to change your husband's mind and heart.  I know it is difficult, dear mothers, but the Lord promises to give you the strength you will need to accomplish His will.

HERE is the whole blog post.  I encourage you to read it along with your husband.  Some women have asked for blogs for men to read.  This may be a good one.

So I would have younger women marry, 
bear children, manage their households, 
and give the adversary no occasion for slander.
I Timothy 5:14


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I love how he shows true appreciation for his wife and all that she does!
"She is JUST everything to everyone" I absolutely adore this line!
I respect your view point about wives not working outside the home. I disagree with you about what the scriptures teach. In proverbs 31 the women earns money, buys fields and sells them etc... Here is an example of a Godly women who takes care of her children, household etc.. And also works and earns money outside the home. I agree with most of what you teach but not this one. We have to be careful to take the whole bible for what it says and not just pick out verses and mske them say what we want them to say. I hope you take this with a humble teachable spirit.
Your blog is an encouragement to me and helps me a lot. Thank you for it!
Jean
2 replies · active 596 weeks ago
"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen." vs.24 This verse does not mean she leaves her home for long periods of time. She most likely sews these linen garments at home since "She looks well to the ways of her household." vs. 27. There is not one verse in the whole of Scripture that commands women to work outside of the home. All verses encourage them to guide the home and be keepers at home. Even the verses to widows doesn't tell them to find a job but that the younger widows should get married and the older ones should have family members or the church support them. I Timothy 5
It's interesting to look at how various verses in Scripture work together.

In Deuteronomy 24:19-21, there is a clear instruction to not to go over the wheat fields, olive trees or vineyards to check for missed produce (gleanings). Instead, anything remaining was for the stranger, the fatherless and the widows to take.

This is what Ruth was doing in the Book of Ruth, Ch.2, verse 2. She was out in the barley fields, picking up leftover grain.

Leviticus, Deuteronomy and Isaiah are full of passages instructing us that we will be judged on how we treat widows and orphans.

In that context - the passage in I Timothy seems to refer to placing widows on a specific list. This sounds like an additional measure - a specific list of recipients that the Church itself (as opposed to just Christians in general) would support, and who would be expected to serve the Church and be celibate. If the widow had family, they were directed to support her, and to place that obligation before others.
I loved that article, and I'm so thankful for a husband who feels the same way Matt Walsh does.
1 reply · active 596 weeks ago
I agree Tiffany. I am beyond thankful that my hubby fully supports me staying home and tells everyone he can that I'm a super mom. Of course, I feel like a normal mom, but it is very encouraging for him to say that. However, my twin's husband is not as supportive of her being home. It makes me feel so bad for her. If she doesn't have everything in order when he gets home from work some kind of comment will be made. :( I used to work, so my hubby has a direct reference of how the house functioned and how much more he had to help just to keep the house maintained. Now he gets to enjoy his evenings, doesn't have to pick up or drop off kids and doesn't have to worry about their care. :)
I agree that it is good for a wife to be at home if she has children, to train them up in the way they should go, but I also think that working outside the home in some form of career gives a woman more varied 'life' experience. Learning to handle lots of difficult situations with people you wouldn't choose to mix with :) and also, being salt and light in sometimes very difficult environments. I believe that working women have a brilliant opportunity to give their colleagues an experience of Christlike behaviour. Colleagues who may never step inside a church but get a glimpse of what their life could be like if they belonged to the Lord just by working alongside you and seeing how your light shines!..
'Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your deeds and glorify your Father in Heaven'.
God bless you
It's a good thing that he praises his wife and is supportive of her staying home to raise their family. He lives in my hometown, and sorry to say that he has an extreme right-wing radio program and promotes political divisiveness and hatred. So if anyone reads his blog you'd want to be aware of that.
I love how he used the simple Word JUST! I sometimes still feel guilty cause I'm JUST keeping our home with JUST my hubby and not working anymore; although when my daughters were growing up I JUST worked part time in my hubby's Ceramic Factory so to have time with the girls when they were back from school. I think it's paid off, they're nice Young women now. Thank you for sharing this wonderful husband, wish they were all like that!
Hugs,
FABBY
Love this post. Thanks for the encouragement, once again!!
I think it is important to note that all mothers do all these things, some may do them differently but that's ok. What works for one family may not work for others - work out what is best for your family and do it well and do it with the Lord.

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