You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids. Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work. They are not equal. Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business. {Amy Glass}
What Amy writes in her article is extreme, however, I believe that a lot of women really believe the lies she promotes. I don't think most women would be pursuing higher education and careers if they didn't. I wouldn't hear "I'm not ready to be married and have children, yet. I need to live a little before that" if many women didn't believe this.
Women, young and old, being wives and mothers is God's highest calling for you. I could care less what anyone else tells you. It is spelled out clearly in Scripture. Nowhere does it tell women to get all the education they can get, find a career that takes them away from home many hours a day, be independent, and make sure they can provide for them self if something happens to their husband.
In fact, higher education and careers do nothing to prepare women for being submissive wives or teach them how to raise godly offspring, the most important job women can have. Young, unmarried women are exhorted to "careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit" {I Corinthians 7:34} This doesn't exclude them from getting higher education and a career but they should never believe that this is more valuable than being a wife and mother. They should not get in a lot of debt or in a career that is difficult to leave if they get married and have children.
Women have asked me what I think about the "Mommy Wars," working moms vs. stay at home moms. I don't take part in the Mommy Wars. I simply teach young women to be "keepers at home" as Scripture commands me to do. I love working moms and stay at home moms, but I know God wants wives submitting to their husbands and mothers at home taking good care of their husbands, children, and homes. Regardless of what Ms. Glass believes, this has way more eternal consequences than being a doctor, engineer, etc.
There are plenty of capable, good men that can do those jobs but men cannot replace the powerful role mothers have on society or future generations. Mothers who raise godly offspring are the exceptional ones in my humble opinion!
Jay Dee · 582 weeks ago
I'd imagine it's incredibly difficult to start a family when you are still paying off school debt or have to leave a career you know you have to start at the ground floor again if you return, or potentially go back to school because the field has changed too much.
Sue · 582 weeks ago
I found this rebuttal article interesting, so perhaps you will too: http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/01/i-fee...
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Courtney · 582 weeks ago
What are your thoughts about this article: http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_... (Is paternity leave a good thing? Should fathers embrace the drop in testosterone they get when their babies are born, or fight it? Is the quote by the AT&T guy at the end a sign of the feminization of men?)
P.S. I think Ms. Glass is deluded ;)
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ayearinskirts 66p · 582 weeks ago
It's funny that everyone would love a nice fresh home and nutritious meals and folded laundry, but people forget that you need time to do all of that.
Charlotte · 582 weeks ago
Ultimately the more education the parents have, the greater the benefit to the children as well. I truly believe that education is never wasted no matter what you do with your life. A mother who is a doctor can treat her children at home and knows when they need to go to the hospital better than one who does not. She will be far better equipped to help her children with science and math homework. A lawyer is better equipped than the average individual to teach her children about critical thinking, reading and writing skills. Education is never wasted on any individual, whoever they might be.
Let's encourage women to get educated, seek to be stay at home mothers, but to have an ability to care for themselves in the event something happens or they never get married.
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shannon · 582 weeks ago
Even if I wasn't blessed with a husband and children, I would not have gone to college if I knew then what I know now. I can think of quite a few reasons actually and things to do instead.
Being a mom is more important than a doctor and I love the comment above who said the moms raise the doctors. Amen.
Cynthia · 582 weeks ago
In plain English - I don't think this person really exists. I think it was an article written by someone for fun, or to make fun of what they think a radical feminist might say, or simply to see if they could get something to go viral by being completely obnoxious.
shannon · 582 weeks ago
1. The cost. $40,000 was the cost for my 6 year education, off campus housing, 9 years ago. That same education would be much higher today. Add in interest and it will be much higher once I finally get it paid off.
2. I ALWAYS worked while in college (my family raised us all the value work but I did not learn the value of working at home) and could have worked even more and saved $ instead of spending all those hours in class and studying.
3. Of course the liberal indoctrination at my state school. I marched for GLBT rights, attended a planned parenthood meeting (I am so embarrassed but maybe God can use my testimony), and learned the slippery slope of situational ethics.
4. I learned more AFTER I graduated, a lot more, than I ever learned in school. School focused on lots of hypothesis and little actual practical education. I learned more one year in the field (counseling) than I did in 6 years of college. Sad. I had over a 3.5 GPA too so it wasn't like I wasn't studying.
5. I could have been learning practical skills to employ myself if I wanted to make money. Cleaning houses, doing a little babysitting, tutoring, a craft or hobby that makes $ where I could work from home without being in the "workforce" would be ideal. There was a lot of time wasted that could be used more valuably, especially as a Christian. Learning how to do things that require working from home with little work outside would be wonderful.
6. I could have volunteered more. Again, this goes back to time being valuable and I think of how I could have volunteered at church more, been hospitable to all my passions (new moms, widows and teens, etc..)
7. Going into college gives a woman the mindset she is wasting her degree if she doesn't use it. So, if a woman goes to college but later settles down with a husband and maybe children, she will think she wasted her time and will be more likely to stay in her career path. Sound crazy? I've met a few of them.
8. Peer influence. Yikes. I won't share examples of these but even if a woman doesn't spend time with peers after school, she will have to work in many group projects at school. I remember my worst group project with a woman who copied and pasted her entire section of a paper onto the rest of ours that she found from the internet. She could have gotten us all expelled.
9. Finally of course is testimony. I wouldn't want other young women to go to college "just in case" and get into the same mess I did. Will all women get married and have children? No, but that's where faith comes in.
I hope all of this was okay to share Lori. If not, please delete.
Lady Virtue · 582 weeks ago
Unsurprsingly, it becomes something of a self-fulfilling prophecy, in light of the cultural memes, for marriages to break up or never even form in the first place. No woman, if she's truly honest with herself, wants to end up as a spinster or an old maid.
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Joluise · 582 weeks ago
In saying all of this, I love keeping my home, looking after it, preparing my husband’s meals, gardening, caring for my adult children who no longer live at home. Just because I work doesn’t mean I don’t care for my home and take great care for it. I, like a many women are not living the “lie” we are just doing what we are commanded to do by God.
Carlotta · 582 weeks ago
Why are Christian women chasing the lies of this world?
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