Friday, January 10, 2014

The Big Bear Behind Me


There is a film of a baby bear on one side of a river.  On the other side is a pack of ravenous wolves stalking towards the baby bear.  The baby bear finally gets up on his hind legs and growls angrily at the wolves trying to scare them away.  It doesn't help.  The wolves continue moving toward the bear.  All of a sudden, they put their tail between their legs and run away.  The baby bear thinks it had scared them away.  However, when the camera pans behind the baby, the mother is standing on her hind legs in all her glory, bearing sharp fangs, and scared those wolves away.

I feel like that baby bear sometimes.  When I write about submission, divorce, spankings, being a keeper at home, etc. I get a lot of disagreements in the comment section.  I will continue to try and teach what I believe to be true.  Finally, I will tell Ken about it and if he is home, he will take over.  He is my big bear that stands behind me and protects me.  It is a comforting place to be.

I love it when he does this.  I am so happy that he takes an active part in my blog.  Sometimes men will comment and he will usually be the one who has a discussion with them.  I love that he supports what I teach.  I believe all women want to feel protected.  It is a safe place to be.

Please don't take this too literally.  I don't consider most of you who disagree with me ravenous wolves!  I delete the comments from those types.  Ken doesn't have to bare his fangs at those who disagree!  He simply uses his many years of theological training in the Word to help bring some sense and reason to things. I just thought it was a beautiful picture of how I feel sometimes when Ken takes over.  Just a sense of  "Awwww....! I can rest now."

Husbands, love your wives, 
even as Christ also loved the church, 
and gave himself for it.
Ephesians 5:25


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Gently Led · 585 weeks ago

What a great image! And what a blessing for you to have a husband who has your back. I'm grateful you hang in there and continue to speak the truth even when it brings out the opposition -- I need to hear what you have to say. Thank you.
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
You're welcome and thank you for your encouragement!
I love that metaphor! My hubs likes me to walk in front of him when we're out so he can protect me. I like the feeling, too. I feel like I stand a little bit taller when he does that. :-)
4 replies · active 585 weeks ago
I have heard that some husbands will sit at a chair in the restaurant where they can keep an eye on the front door. I think it is in most men's nature to be more protective than women and for that we are very thankful!
Interesting! I always want to sit where I can see the door or most of the room at restaurants too... I never thought of it as a protector thing, just a weird quirk. I am little and my husband has the big guns (physically) so it would be silly to think I would protect him haha.
You could at least warn him if you saw something suspicious!
True! I'm much more aware of things going on around us and always one step ahead in my mind. He's more the go-with-the-flow daydreamer type :) We make a good team!
I'm with Liz and love the metaphor. I've never commented on the blog and don't always agree with you, but I've also gotten some amazing advice and much food for thought from this blog. Keep doing what you're doing. :-)
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
Thank you, Angela. I will do it as long as the Lord calls me to this wonderful ministry.
Love it Lori! My own "bear" doesn't usually even look like a bear, but he can really bare his teeth if need be! It's nice knowing you're not alone, isn't it?
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
It is so nice! We are definitely the weaker vessel and it is wonderful having someone covering our backs and protecting us.
My husband has come to my aid more than once, and it truly is a comfort. Ken is great, you are blessed! And we are all blessed to learn from both of you.
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
Thank you, Tiffany! We appreciate your support.
I protect my husband in tense situations, too. We have each other's back. That is marriage.
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
Thanks for sharing Lori! I always enjoy Ken's contributions to your blog. Always great to hear his perspective but sometimes I do sense he has his papa bear going on and d and I like him even more then. This whole thing is new to my husband and he doesn't say much because I think he is afraid he will "wreck it" and things will go back to the way they were. It's new to me too and a few weeks ago I found myself reverting a little with the stresses of back to back illnesses, homeschool a crisis with my mother in law and of course Christmas. I did a lot of praying and self correcting. Honestly a few days I felt like I was falling into a well and couldn't stop. I was really afraid of the momentum. It's all good now. Any hints you have for those kinds of times?
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
Just catching yourself is huge and shows personal growth. Be quick to repent to your husband. He will appreciate your heart even when you fail. Practice makes perfect so continue to be the wife God wants you to become and it will get easier and easier with time.
A more perfect analogy there is not. What a beautiful picture of our protectors. Thank you, God, for your divine order and plan. Your ways are truly perfect, this I know for myself.

Happy highways,
Kelley~
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
His ways are perfect!
Aww this is sweet :) I hope I'm not a ravenous wolf type... maybe more a curious coyote?
1 reply · active 585 weeks ago
We enjoy your queries Courtney and enjoy trying to help you understand our faith and perspectives :). You are far from a wolf or coyote... maybe a white lab that wants to know what's going on but nice about wagging her tail as she sticks her nose in :).
Hi Lori. I love your blog by the way but as I was reading this, it kind of broke my heart also. Lately I have noticed so much negativity about faith. There is you, The Robertsons, Candace Cameron Bure, and even on my facebook. It is so sad!! All I can do is pray that more people find their way.

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