Thursday, January 2, 2014

Making A Little Income


She was wondering if she should go out and find a full-time job to help with the family's income.  Her husband responded with the following words ~

 I didn’t want her to feel obligated to have to go out and work for someone else as a wage slave. I’ve told her repeatedly that only one of us should have to suffer indentured servitude in corporate hell {it might be a life sentence for me}, and that that’s my job as the husband and provider. There’s no reason both of us should have to suffer.

If she wants to work, I’m fine with that ~ but I would prefer that she started something of her own. She loves clothing and jewelry and has been a successful seller of it in the past and is also a great cook who has catered meals for family and friends before. Let her discover the entrepreneur within herself!

This is one wise husband.  Why women were ever convinced into leaving their homes, being told that lovingly serving their family was mundane, and having careers like men where they leave the home for hours every day is a good thing is beyond me. If a wife would like to contribute income to the family, it is best if she can find something to do from the home and have her life be centered around the home just as was the Proverbs 31 wife's job of making and selling linen garments and sashes.

This man enjoys having his wife home, taking care of the home and family.  It is an act of love and service to want to cook tasty and healthy meals for our families. So many women today don't like to cook.  It isn't a matter of whether you like it or not, it is imperative you learn to enjoy cooking and nourishing your precious family.  Sure, keeping the home clean and tidy isn't fun but it is part of the ministry the Lord has given us. Praise the Lord that you have a roof over your head.  If you are disorganized and messy, begin following flylady and teach yourself to be a good housekeeper. 

Don't let them fool you, there is joy to be found at home. If you listen to the people who don't know that, you'll be thinking that being at home, and the chores to be done there, are demeaning, demanding and disgusting. If you read magazines, they'll tell you all about how to do this and that, they'll give you lists of "the best 10 holidays ..." and tell you 20 different ways to serve a chicken leg, but they never write about the satisfaction of homemaking, or the joy to be found by making your home a safe and cozy haven for all who live there. That is my job. ;- ) {Rhonda Jean}

If you feel your husband needs some help adding income to the family, figure out what you enjoy and see if you can bring in some income with it from the home.  Maybe you have an entrepreneur within and can start a little home based business!

Here is a wonderful verse, young women, 
about the "career" the Lord has given you ~

I will therefore that the younger women marry, 
bear children, guide the house, 
give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
I Timothy 5:14

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Lady Virtue · 586 weeks ago

Great post with wonderful suggestions. God willing, I'll be implementing this myself within the next 12 to 14 months or so.

Happy New Year to you and your family, Lori!
Wish I knew what I could do to help, because we need it desperately!
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Danielle B · 586 weeks ago

I work from home with a local medical insurance co, I might have to work in the office every few months for a day. Or when I was in training for 4 months. My husband is very supportive, and I don't just make a "little" money. I have a great salary plus I get our health insurance for free too!

My salary is put into a savings account, and is used for emergencies, support our church and fun stuff like vacations. We are able to go on a lot of vacations as a family each year, and not worry about where the money will come from. And my husband and I are able to go places by ourselves just the two of us to get away and regroup!

I love what I do, and I have a flexible schedule as well. Our kids have never been to daycare, and Lord willing never will.
Great post Lori! There are lots of options out there for a woman to make a little income without even leaving the home. Technology can be a hindrance or a blessing. With the internet, there are lots of options for a woman to make some money on the side. I love that husband's words! She is so blessed to have him. As a society, we often think that bringing in the income is only valuable. But, beginning with a budget can add lots of value to any woman who wants to cut back on her "working" hours. I know from experience!
That's a great post! When I met my husband we were both working and I worked for the first 21 years of my marriage. I worked for a very large Fortune 500 Company and we both bought the lie that we would starve to death if we both didn't work. Truth is there was a year when we both lost our jobs and at one time were both on unemployment. Our apartment office worked with us so we could pay our rent and so did the utilities. We tithed and we never went hungry. We had our first and only child when I was 40 and by then all of my friends were mostly my co-workers who of course all worked and raised children and I longed to stay home but I never mentioned it to my husband. When it was time to "graduate" from pre-school to kindergarten, I began stressing over getting her to the private school we chose and then gettting to work on time etc. I worked in a demanding PR/Corporate Comms department where situations were changing frequently. Anyway, I talked to my husband and we easily agreed it was time. That was in 2006 and I never looked back. As it turned out, we now homeschool my daughter and I was very ill about a year after I quit and had 3 major surgeries in 16 months. My years of working were not in vain though because before I quit we were debt free. We bought our house in 1996, refinanced in 1997 and it was paid completely off in January of 2006 as well as all cars and other credit debt. This was for me the biggest reward for working. We do have a MUCH smaller home than most of our friends because it was just the 2 of us and we didn't know if we would have children....that was the downside of working in the corporate world...you manage to put the needs of your job before everything and anything else. I love my life now and I think I am on God's path for me although I took many detours along the way. I marvel at how when we seek God's will he will just pick us up and move us to where He wants us to be. I wouldn't change my life now for anything but I would change that pathway in a heartbeat! Sorry about the long reply!
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I've been teaching Bradley childbirth classes for 7 years. I also teach a Zumba class at my church. When the kids are all school-age I'll be able to go back to subbing since I have a teaching credential. Being a substitute teacher will enable me to be home if the kids are sick or if something breaks in the house (or the car) that I need to take care of. So perhaps she should look into taking the CBEST and becoming a sub?
Thank you! Great post
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Cynthia Swenson · 586 weeks ago

I'm thinking of the words of Jesus instructing us to "Seek first the kingdom of God & His righteousness & all these things shall be added to you." Also He said the Father knows we need these things, but we are not to be like unbelievers and ONLY think about food & material things all the time. I think that the closer we are to the Lord, the less we worry about things & the more we value people & serving them, & also we are more content to have less stuff. Don't think I'm judging anyone, I struggle with this as much as anyone! Simply put, we need to focus more on God & less on material things. Love & prayers in Jesus, Cynthia
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If you translate 1 Timothy 5:14, the word χήρα means "widow", not "woman." The context of this passage is Timothy's instructions for widows. It is the same word throughout all of 1 Timothy Chapter 5. 5:11-15 or so contains instructions for how young widows ought to live. The word for "woman" is γυνή, as used in Romans Chapter 7.
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I'm pretty sure that considering and buying fields (Prov 31:16a) and planting vinevards by hand (Prov 31:16b) requires a woman to leave her house, as would the fact that she "seeketh wool and flax" before she weaves her cloth (by hand) require her to participate in shearing and harvest times.

However, I don't think there is any reason for women to strictly limit themselves to the exact occupations of the Proverbs 31 woman in her ancient culture. I think they are provided as examples only. Otherwise, that's an extremely limited list of occupations. (And I don't think most women could make a go of a home-based vineyard and wine production business. I certainly couldn't.)
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Thank you, Lori, for sharing the truth. These words are such an encouragement to me. I am expecting my first child, and my husband has been encouraging me to quit my job or decrease my hours significantly to PRN so that I can be a full-time homemaker. I am working on transitioning into this over the next few months. Working in a hospital as an RN is completely exhausting- it is a noble calling and profession- however, it is very difficult to be a well rested and often joyful wife when all of my energy is drained from work. My husband loves when he comes home to me and I am well rested with a smile on my face. I understand that many women are unable to be stay at home mothers due to various circumstances, which is completely understandable. I do think, however, that many of the problems in our society could improve if mothers were at home when their children got home from school and if parents made time to love and spend time with each other and their children. God created the family unit for a reason- it is a reflection of His love and His family- and that is why satan is trying so hard to destroy it.
I just have a question out of curiosity... Do you believe these admonitions in the Bible for young women to be keepers at home apply to all young women, or just young mothers? I know there are some who believe that even without children, or even before getting married, young women belong at home as homemakers and shouldn't go out into the workforce or pursue careers. What is your take?
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What ever women choose to do, whether that be running a cottage industry from home, make money via blogging or working outside of the home - none should consume the woman to the point where she doesn't have time to probably care for her children, her husband and manage her home. I look at some women who work from home and wonder how they manage as they seem to be working longer hours that those who leave the home to work. And some bloggers I read seem to blog 7 days a week and run small business plus homeschool. I do wonder about the balance. And whatever they choose to do, can it be dropped at a moments notice for tending more important things. Its all about balance, flexibility and getting the priorities right.
I JUST wrote a post on this today! God has richly blessed us with an opportunity for me to earn additional income with AdvoCare while staying home. But honestly, I would have stayed home regardless. Many in today's society are trapped in the lie of believing we can't survive off one income any more. And women are made to believe being a wife and mother aren't worthy, when in fact they are the highest and holiest calling.
Lori,
I wish I had never worked for 20 years. I can't tell you all the bad things I learned and saw...
Also, I love returning a comment with a visit and comment...it is how I really get to know someone...over a long period of time, you get to the heart :) Thanks for what you do here~!
In 2009, through a friend, I was hired by a retiree to help her unpack, clean, laundry (still work once a week for 4 years). She told her daughter, disabled by a stroke, and she hired me to drive her (still work twice a week for 3 years). The daughter's neighbor, who has MS, needs mopping (on demand). The retiree's apartment manager recommended me to another family, who hired me to clean her disabled brother's apartment (work once a month for 6 months). I was member of the local family network, and answered an ad to iron, and was hired to also fold the her laundry (still work once a week for 3 years). I control my schedule, earn some money, get out of the house enough to maintain my sanity, and meet new people through this patchwork of jobs, and these came when my family was desperate.
Great post, probably not popular with some! I think all women are homemakers, whether they work outside of the home or are blessed to be at home. In our society, we don't always set ourselves up financially to be with one income so by God's grace, we can work towards that. There are realities though and sometimes you need to pay the bills and help your husband by having a job outside the home - in emergencies. I'm blessed to have started my own businesses (Etsy and a virtual assistant to some bloggers) but the money didn't come overnight - and if we hadn't been blessed here and there, I would've had to continue working outside of the home until we could afford it where we were at. We did pair our bills down, but even doing that takes time. I love working from home and agree many women would love this and should try this before going out, if necessary.
Visiting you from new life on a homestead blog hop. I love to be home, If I have spare time, I volunteer, is fun too, and helpful.
I just looked up how much it would cost to put my three children in Christian school. $15,000/year plus clothing and fees and transportation. That's a minimum of $18,000. If I had to work to cover it, I'd probably have to make at least $22,500 before taxes!

Suddenly, my work as a homeschool mom seems to add a bit more to the family income!
I am very blessed too, to have a husband that is happy for me to stay at home. He did encourage me in some home business endeavors not because he wanted so much to have me help out in providing finances but because he knew I had some talents that I enjoy using. So I do have a little home business of doing wedding flowers (I usually do 12-15 weddings a year) and I also teach some private music lessons. I am able to do it all out of our home and for the most part it is a lot of fun for me and it is a chance for me to meet others and hopefully shine Jesus' light in their lives.

I also think that what Laura Lane pointed out above is very important to realize. If I sent our 4 kids to a Christian school (and we are much happier with homeschooling so I don't want to do that), and then worked I don't think it would very likely come out in our favor financially - especially since I know that if I worked fulltime I wouldn't feel like cooking as much or saving money in the many, many other ways that I do since I stay home.
I've wondered recently is I should or could stay home with my boys (7 & 4) but financial it doenst seem possible. My husband and I are both college educated and make good money but we also have tons of student loans from those educations and we are literally still paying for our oldest sons birth! He has Down syndrome and required surgery at 2 days old and 15 day NICU stay. I've done the math...IF we were able to pay off all of our debt we could make the bills and food on just my husbands income. But then I remember insurance. We HAVE to have insurance through our employers for it to be good coverage for my older son. Most companies dont want to cover a special needs child so they refuse the therapies that he would need. Weekly OT, PT and ST! Right now issurance comes out of my check from my job. If I quit we'd have to switch to my husbands insurance and there goes a mortgage payment! Perhaps there would be a way around it all but it sure doenst feel like it form here. So for now I work full time in the same school district my boys go to, and pray that I get it all done!
@stephmommybrain can't imagine going to work, while Jaci has to work for insurance. I used to hear that women worked because they are selfish, greedy, want luxuries, yet these are the extremes America faces. Lori, when the stay at home/working mommy debate rages out of control, how do you suggest we handle it?
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Thank you for sharing. Being a homeschool mama to 6 I always love the idea of having something from home for myself. So, I became a consultant for Lilla Rose. It is so much fun, because they have such beautiful hair accessories. And since I don't have to leave home and 5 daughters with long hair, it is the perfect fit. I love being able to add a little extra to help out and still be home to care for my domain. This is a great post. It was very encouraging. :)
My daughter brought up this subject two days ago because it was discussed at camp. The general stance at this camp were women were not to work, leaving the taste that those who do are "BAD". Girls were saying how they can start up online business if they need extra income.

Having an online business is only 20 years old, and this option was not available to previous generations, who had few options. This is why Tupperware was so successful during the 50s and 60s: unique product, women wanting a little extra, socializing. No one I know who stays home tries to sell Tupperware. Starting an online business is like starting a office business; it can take more than 40 hours a week, drain your capital, and more.

I find that most conservative churches that "endorse" (there is a reason that is in " ") stay at home wife/mother, casually saying that if you need a little cash, just start a business, need to teach those girls exactly what they are getting into (business courses). Of course, I think Hell will freeze over before that happens.

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