Saturday, December 19, 2015

Did God Tell Her to Divorce Her Husband?


There was a blog post I read about a Christian woman who was in a difficult marriage and she wrote that God told her to divorce her husband. Does God ever tell a woman to divorce her husband? No! If He did, He would have given examples or commands in His Word. He never changes what is written in His Word. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.

There is no place in the Bible that divorce is God's divine will. There is NO place where He tells spouses that they should divorce their spouse if this or that happens. He never tells us to break our marriage vows and be covenant breakers. In fact, He clearly states the opposite, "What God has joined together, let NO MAN tear asunder." Let your Yes be Yes and  your No, No. He tells us that in the last days, many will be covenant breakers. 

God never calls His children to do the easy thing or take the easy way out; this is why the path we walk on is the narrow path. It is the difficult and hard path. Many times it costs us a lot of personal comfort and pleasure. However, we are called to be lovers of God rather than lovers of pleasure. God will use these difficult times to smooth out our rough edges and make us more like Jesus. Since His Holy Spirit works in us mightily, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us and NOTHING is impossible with God.

Since we understand that this is not our home and that this is just a small piece of eternity, we can live our lives boldly for Him, even if it means sacrifice and suffering. Many women through the ages have won their difficult husbands to the Lord by remaining faithful to them through the good times and the bad times. There are movie star couples who have everything the world values; beauty, fame and wealth. Yet, most of their marriages end in divorce. Therefore, marriage has nothing whatsoever to do with beauty, fame and wealth. It has to do with obeying God and being a covenant keeper. If you are a godly, submissive help meet to your husband who tries to please him, love him deeply, forgives him freely, and has a meek and quiet spirit, your rewards will be great in heaven. 

In closing, I'd like to share a paragraph from Mary Pride's book The Way Home on marriage. "Christians may never, never, never divorce Christians. The world only knows we are Christ's disciples by the love we have for each other {John 13:34, 35}. John plainly says that if we can't love our brothers, whom we have seen, there is no way that we can love God, whom we haven't see {1 John 4:20, 21}. When Christians divorce and both parties still remain in the church without serious disciplining, the message the world gets is that we are grade-number-one, first-class, government-inspected hypocrites. And when it comes to mixed marriages of Christians and non-Christians, it's up to the Christian to show more love, more understanding, more forgiveness than the unsaved partner. Christ called us to love our neighbors, not reject them."

And if ye call on the Father, 
who without respect of persons judges according to every man's work, 
pass the time of your sojourning here in fear.
1 Peter 1:17

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This reminded me of what I saw at our church last week. We have a big book of "Petitions Granted" where parishioners can write a line about a prayer that was answered. One of the entries read, "Thank You for the settlement of my divorce". I was very bothered by that as divorce has nothing to do with God, so in no way should we be "thanking" God for a divorce! I believe that if a marriage is truly suffering because of the sin of one spouse, God will handle it in His own way, in His own time. And it is NOT through divorce!

The book you mentioned sounds really good, Lori. I'll have to check that out!
3 replies · active 478 weeks ago
I'm thinking of going through it on my blog after I'm done with CTBHH. Yes, divorce is commonplace in the church now and it is shameful since it is a model of Christ and the Church.
Tragic, actually, yet it is becoming more and more common in the Church.
My daughter-in-law divorced my son -it was final the day before Thanksgiving. Her counselor from church said-God doesn't like divorce, but He is forgiving. Made me sick. They are both Christians.have a 1 and 3 yr.old. It is devastating. She wasn't happy and felt like she was carrying the biggest load. All excuses. Sorry to be a downer, but ladies it is not worth it. My marriage wasn't a bed of roses a few years ago, but after a I read Created to be a Help meet, it transformed my whole way of thinking. I gave her a copy, but she didn't read it.She had already made up her mind. GOD Hates Divorce.
1 reply · active 484 weeks ago
This is tragic, Becky, but I wouldn't give up. Pray often that the scales on your daughter-in-law's eyes will fall off and she will quickly turn from her wicked ways. This is a spiritual battle so fight it with the armor of God.
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Blessed Wife · 484 weeks ago

Another great post! There are so many Christians divorcing and it seems a lot of them of divorcing because the person wasn't really a Christian to begin with (still not a reason). I've also noticed that many of the younger generations simply have a hard time with committing in general. Lots of prayer needed for this generation that is being attacked in a whole new strategic way.
3 replies · active 484 weeks ago
Yes-I agree. A Dr. friend of ours , son is getting divorced after a few years. His parents were shocked. The son told his parents , he and his wife knew it probably wouldn't last anyway, but went thru the wedding at a great expense to parents. Their attitude is so laissez faire. Satan is attacking these young couples with both barrels. He knows his time is short.
It sure is. This is why we must be bold in speaking truth to who will ever listen to us.
This is why the Bible tells us to exhort one another daily because of the deceitfulness of sin. It hardens peoples heart to the truth of God's Word. Each generation's hearts seems to be getting harder and farther from the truth sadly.
In our church there are several divorced couples. There are at least 4 couples even one in our leadership that is on on his second marriage. Divorce is an escape from our own sin. When people divorce It is because the expectations they have of the other spouse. And when they don't live up to those expectations, so they leave hoping to find greener grass somewhere else. The grass is never greener somewhere else. Someone please point out the passage where it says that God tells us to take the easy out!! One day we will all have to answer for our life's decisions. And I don't believe that saying ya sorry God but my spouses sins were to great so I had to leave will be good enough EXCUSE for divorce. The problem always lies within ourselves not our spouses.

It's getting to the point that Christians have to stop making excuses and start living by truth. Not putting there own spin on scripture.
1 reply · active 484 weeks ago
In my devotions this morning I read the verse that says we will be held accountable for ouractions. Many people behave like this is not true or going to happen but it is. God tells us that if we don't love her brother who we can see we must not love Him whom we can't see for love is what He has called us to do.
Such important truth that you hardly ever hear in the church these days! What people need is a firm but loving pastor to tell them the truth about what the Bible says on the matter, not an overly sympathetic church that sanctions their divorce. How many sermons have you ever heard on the verse that says when a divorced person remarries they are committing adultery because their true spouse in God's eyes is still living?

"He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her." Mark 10:11
2 replies · active 484 weeks ago
I have yet to hear a pastor of any church I attend preach this! I'm sure there are some out there but not many.
The church I go to upholds that standard.
A friend goes to a different church with a female pastor who is on her 3rd marriage!

On another note, where can I get a copy of that book? It sounds very interesting.
What really baffles me is the few couples I know that have had an amicable divorce. 😳 If you can be amicable about it, why are you even getting divorced?! My husband would have to have done something truly heinous and be completely unrepentant for me to even consider it!
2 replies · active 484 weeks ago
The key is Lauren in my opinion is to not even have that word in your vocabulary. Both men and woman use the word divorce as a show of power meaning when the word divorce is threatened then it will make the other spouse on there heels!! To me divorce and even the word divorce is a show of weakness. I don't mean this for you Lauren in anyway. There are so few reasons that would be biblically acceptable for divorce. Sure if there was sexual immortality, but even then do everything in your power to work through it.

What I am learning in my walk is that Christ never leaves us, and will never give up on us, so how we can give up on a marriage.

Yes we al fall short of Christ, but marriage is so important to him that divorce only in my opinion brings shame to him.

Too any times marriages are giving up on too easy and we need to find strength in Christ
Here's a great article by John Piper that proves through scripture that divorce is never acceptable to the Lord.
http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/divorce-remar...
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Lady Virtue · 484 weeks ago

Good point about marriage not being about beauty, fame, or wealth. It saddens me that so many who profess to know the Lord forget that marriage depicts Christ's headship over his bride, the church, and that He instituted it to reflect His own glory, as well as for us to be fruitful and multiply, prevent man from being alone, protection from fornication, etc. We women in particular can get distracted by unrealistic expectations that have nothing to do with Scripture.
1 reply · active 484 weeks ago
I know, Lady Virtue. I sure did for many years. Hollywood and feminism have both given us false views of what marriage is according to the One who created it.
I'd imagine she has Malachi 2v16 crossed out in her Bible or ignores it because it is OT and therefore has no relevance. Sigh.
From what I understand, not only are you NOT to argue with your spouse. You aren't even supposed to sleep in another room to your spouse. ( work or illness etc are fine.. But not in the spirit of anger or disunity.) My husband studied psychology for a while, then gave it up because all he thought it was was justification for ones sin or rebellion. I'd put divorce in that category.

Christians today really frustrate me with some of the junk they spew out of their mouth. Or how blatantly they sin. I pray that the Lord will come soon!!
1 reply · active 484 weeks ago
Anger and disunity should not even be named among those who call themselves Christians. If loving others is the greatest command and Christians truly loved others, the Church would have so much more impact upon our culture but sadly, they have stooped down to culture's level instead of walking in obedience to the Lord.
It is a blessing to see you taking a stand against divorce and re-marriage. I'd be greatly interested if any readers know of a church in OH where the sin of divorce is preached and practiced.

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