According to this article, men are giving up on marriage. With the divorce laws and feminist movement, many men just don't feel getting married is worth it. In past generations, men and women knew what their roles were and marriage was simple. The husband worked hard to provide for his family, while the wife stayed home and cared for the home and children. It's rare to find this anymore.
More women are in higher education and getting careers than men, thus taking the place of men and many men have no work and fail to get into higher educations institutions since the women are taking their place. The same is happening in the job market. More women are taking over the jobs that used to be held by men. "Women are 'tough and independent' and men don't think they're needed anymore. With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider - and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage - men are simply no longer finding any benefit in it."
When I ask them why, the answer is always the same: women aren't women anymore. Feminism which teaches women to think of men as the enemy, has made women 'angry' and 'defensive,' though often unknowingly. Now the men have nowhere to go. It is precisely this dynamic - women good/men bad - that has destroyed the relationship between the sexes. Yes somehow, men are still to blame when love goes awry. Men are tired," Venker wrote. "Tired of being told there's something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren't happy, it's men's fault."
"It's the women who lose. Not only are they saddled with the consequences of sex, by dismissing male nature, they're forever seeking a balanced life. The fact is, women need men's linear career goals - they need men to pick up the slack at the office - in order to live the balanced life they seek."
Wow! These are powerful words to ponder, women. In seeking to have equality and be like men, we've lost femininity and the romance we all so greatly hunger for. Feminism only looks at the short-sighted goals instead of pondering the long-term destruction for society, families and mostly children.
We are Christian women who must go back to God's calling on our life and have nothing to do with feminism, but instead seek to be feminine. We must seek to please Him in all that we do. He calls women to be their husband's help meet, to submit to and obey them. He calls us to love and please our husbands and to fulfill their sexual needs. He calls men to provide for their families. The farther we get away from these roles, the worse every one's life becomes, especially the children. Go back to the biblical path and reap the bountiful fruit of doing life God's way. Go back to the old paths; to the good way. You will never find rest for your souls any other way.
Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see,
and ask for the old paths, where is the good way,
and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls.
Jeremiah 6:16
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Eli · 482 weeks ago
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Rob · 482 weeks ago
Men are realizing in this feministic society that woman have all the control. It's sad but true.
Jeff · 482 weeks ago
For the same reasons men are not marrying, men are staying married and giving up on their marriage.
Lori's feministic behavior in her past is what many men face their entire marriage. Mine is an example. My wife will tell you she is submissive when infact she couldnt be closer to unsubmissiveness. Along with disrespect and you'll find a man who has given up after years of this abuse. You might even think he has become nicer, or all of a sudden he now gets it. I am telling you he is just resigned himself to a life of being the submissive one and just goes along to get along.
Diana · 482 weeks ago
Happy New Year, Lori! Blog on! :)
David · 482 weeks ago
I don't think men give up marriage because women these days work and I think most men (at least men I know) have no problem with that. My wife also works and she is a wonderful and loving wife and mother to me. In my knowledge, especially from 'red pill' group, men are giving up marriage because of the consequence if relationship doesn't work. Most men will not only lose their belongings, but they will also lose the chance to spend time with their kids.
At least that's my opinion
Anon M · 482 weeks ago
Couple one: Began living together when they were unsaved, then one or both become saved but now there is a problem, do they cease living with the other half or continue? If only one becomes saved then I believe the believing half should vow before their church that they recognise God is in charge of their relationship, And they wish to establish a covenant marriage and continue to live in this way, allowing the Holy Spirit to guide them and Living in complete submission to God and (if it is the female) to their spouse, recognising they are never to depart etc.
In my opinion, this would be a viable marriage. Because God has been put in His rightful place, and the relationship. Would not be based on feeling etc. but careful guidance by the Holy Spirit and the word of God. The same would apply to a couple who both became saved. This does not involve a piece of paper or recognition from the godless state.
And of course, couple 2,
Your average, run of the mill, sealed on paper and approved by the godless state, who is at e ready to capatalise on your divorce, should you choose to have one, (I am against divorce) this is not just known as a covenant marriage, but now it is also known as a contract. Because the government couldn't keep its sticky fingers out of Gods business and they see it as something that can be broken. Marriage has NOTHING to do with a piece of paper or the government. It is a couples willingness to acknowledge God is the head of their union, and are willing to publicly declare it before family and friends and subsequently live in submission to the Lords direction and will.
So when I hear the phrase "living in sin" I find it to be not just a blanket statement. But offensive. If a couple is living together without that "piece of paper" my next question would be, did they take he above steps that couple A took,and are living it out? And it is confirmed to be so by those closest to them? If the answer is no, then yes, they are living in sin and need to Put God publicly in His rightful place. But to say a couple is wrong for living together without establishing by what standard they are living together is a little judgemental. Joseph and Mary did not go to the state to seal their marriage. That would of meant going to the Roman government. Instead they would of gone to the rabbi and made their vows before their family at least. No piece of paper required. Just a public acknowledgement which they would of been expected to keep.
I hope I explained myself clearly. God bless Lori!
Kim · 482 weeks ago
Divorce rates have plateaued, I think they will fall. I think this generation will struggle with how to stay married, which we need prepared to teach.
ACM · 462 weeks ago
i do have a boyfriend now (we dont live together though) who understands that i have been married before and who is nothing but patient and loving. i do believe we will get married someday and i will be thrilled to be his wife. : ) we have discussed it and i will definitely not work full time after we get married and I will only continue to do catering part time so that I can finish paying off debt that i have now and once that is done, i will stay home!
maybe i do wish things had gone differently for my marriage, but i consider the man who is my boyfriend to be who needed to be brought into my life to be my protector and my guidance. he helped me through months of therapy and he also loves to cook (something i struggle with haha) and also supports my dreams and goals. (when i stay home full time, i'd like to "work" in animal rescue).
my exhusband wasn't willing to change to be my protector. he was a self-server and I think i should have listened to my heart instead of my brain when we were married; that it was wrong and i should walk away.
Tim Shepard · 436 weeks ago
ElMarkcus55 0p · 412 weeks ago
Thus is just a small insight of my marriage. Tell me how do I keep going the way the bible says to keep going?
I've read all the post and felt like reality wasn't being talked about.
I do agree with the article and agree with her insight on feminism. Rust me life has a happy medium. It's not feminism nor is Sharia law.
Embracing Reality · 399 weeks ago
Christian women, your reputation:
When you're young and single you're sexually available to a number of men. When you tire of that you want a hard working, loyal chump to be the last man in line of your sexual partners who won't mind being frequently denied sex in your marriage. As a wife you may also be demanding, manipulative, selfish, disrespectful.
Why would any decent man want that? Why?
Andrew · 370 weeks ago
Caroline · 369 weeks ago